My good lady wife......nooooo!!

My DIL calls my son 'hubby'! Hate it! He has a name!

Day Before we were married, I used to refer to Mr P as "my chap" as I agree, girlfriend/boyfriend isn't really on for mature couples!

Of course, that would still leave the problem as to how he could refer to you............

There used to be/is a motormouth presenter on Ideal World named Mike X who always referred to his wife as 'The goddess'.
'I bought a set of these pans for the goddess'...blah blah. Sheesh!

mine did the same despite many warnings kept on winding me up using it until I started introducing him as 'my first husband' .
Just wouldn't stop, he was, onto number 2 who wouldn't dare and adores me so blissfully happy...
Happy Valentines Day grandsnetters all, whether married, partnered or on your own !

YES, I know that the OP referred to the phrase 'My dear lady wife'. I just failed to incorporate that into the first sentence...oops!

Hmm, yes, a bit golf-clubby.
It makes me cringe to hear/read men who refer to their wives as 'THE wife', as in 'I've left the wife at home' or 'The wife's not with me tonight'. Wives are not objects.
Perhaps it's time to tell your H that you don't like being talked about or introduced in that way and it's sooo old fashioned.
I myself feel it has ever so slightly patronising overtones.

It is patronising. The word 'good' sounds like you know how to behave yourself. It's like being called 'sweet'.
Whether it is or isn't though, if you tell someone you don't like being called something, why would they keep doing it? Even if people don't like their name being shortened, most people don't do it if they know it isn't wanted.

I'm just called " my wife", and occasionally, "the social secretary "! Nothing to complain about at all. But I wouldn't object to "good lady wife" provided it was meant humorously.

She who must be obeyed originated with "Rumpole of the Bailey" I think. It always 'sounded' to me as if Rumpole feared his wife's social climbing more than anything.

Good post Griselda.

At least you’re not his ‘soulmate’. Ha! Hate that expression it sounds so twee.

Sorry to perhaps disappoint you, NanKate, but I agree with you implicitly. I didn't mind what my husband called me, daft or otherwise because I knew it was always done with love and respect even in humorous times.

Katek I think people are overthinking this. It's quite simple really - you don't like it so he should stop.

I agree with others that it may sound old fashioned and patronising...

Anyone remember the drama Minder in which Arfur Daley calls his wife;

''She who must be obeyed''.
Said with eyebrows raised in mock fear?
Now that I find funny.

My late husband always referred to me as his wife in official circumstances and seemed very proud to do so, at home or with friends of course he'd joke around, one of our friends refers to his wife as HQ, very apt. I've since seen a bloke who referred to me as pet, I can't begin to tell you how much it annoyed me, he didn't last mainly for that reason. I should have told him but my teeth we're grinding at the thought ... pet! ... grrr!

I wouldn't mind if DH called me the good lady wife especially as I'm going to Golf Captain next year it would be quite funny in those terms. He introduces me by my name.

Yes I get our lass as well . We're Geordie so I accept it as an endearment!

I have to say that I don't mind it at all, maybe 'the good lady wife' sounds a bit 'golf club' or smarmy but there are many worse expressions. Nor do I mind 'my other/better half.'
I object to the 'the wife' or 'the missus' which sounds like the fridge or the house.

Jeepers! Gracesgran, That was a light hearted post?

I hear my husband ask his friends "how is the good lady"? I'll have to tell him to stop. I don't like "the wife", but "my wife" is ok.

I used to, and occasionally still do, get the She Who Must be Obeyed, The Wife, Er Indoors and My Good Lady Wife, but it's faded considerably since I started saying He Who Rules the Roost, The Husband, 'Im Behind the Paper, My Perfect Husband and similar.

I just wish he'd stop transferring some idea he's had and we've agreed on to "That job/item YOU wanted doing/to Buy".

I am old fashioned and happy about it.

I wouldn't mind being called ‘my good lady wife’ one bit. I am pleased if someone holds the door open for me. I like the manners of yesteryear.

I am treated equally in our long marriage, so have no complaints.

I don’t expect anyone to agree with me.

My husband (when he was still in the army) used to refer to me as the ‘long haired commander in chief’! ?

Phoenix I know. I think perhaps I was taking it a little more light-heartedly you did. As far as I can see the things grown men say are often what they would have said as boys but out of an older body. I expect the same is true of women but I don't seem to notice it as much.

Katek I am entirely on your side. Why not refer to him as 'my current husband'

It's likely to be 'wor lass' here in the North East. Better than 'the missus'.