My good lady wife......nooooo!!

Oh for goodness sake. Lighten up and think yourself lucky you have a husband.

I do feel sorry for some of the husbands I hear about on here, who knew that one phrase would be utilised to hold him up to ridicue and scorn? Remember 'for better or worse' is that's all you have to worry about you are fortunate.

Another poster today has been truly betrayed and is rightly devatated, be off with you trivial person.

I'd keep quiet if I were you. If your man is anything like mine he'll do it all the more thinking it's funny.

Errr, Aepgirl and radicalnan, I could be wrong, but I think this was a light hearted (dare I say, humorous!!) thread.

To me it sounds like a "wind up" and deliberately disrespectful
I honestly do not know why any women would ever put up with this rubbish .
Where has dignity and real affectionate behaviour gone. I would never ever think of using this line to my wife .
God help good old fashioned manners, respect and dignity in the name of cheap amusement .
Best Wish
Joseph Grennell

Errr, Aepgirl and radicalnan, I could be wrong, but I think this was a light hearted (dare I say, humorous!!) thread.
kittylester

He would have slipped on a bar of soap by now!

Oh for heaven’s sake.....some people just take things a mite too seriously. No, rewind, some people take things way too seriously.

Held up to ridicule?? Get a grip-a shared, fond giggle about the vagaries of our respective spouses does not constitute ridicule.

It would appear that certain posters do not have enough to occupy themselves if they can become so exercised and overwrought about a piece of light hearted trivia.

A lot of men I know (not DH)
use similar expressions in a faintly ironic or amusing way and their wives just laugh. I wouldn't take it too seriously. Many men our age are a bit bewildered when when told they are being patronising when they were only trying to be gentlemanly.

Many men our age are a bit bewildered when when told they are being patronising when they were only trying to be gentlemanly.
Very true

It's what I'd expect from an 'old duffer'. If he's just started using it , you could say something. If he ways has, perbaps it shows a change in your feelings towards him...

Unacceptable! Sounds like you are his chattel.

introduce his as your FIRST husband... assuming he is.

Welcome Peardrop50 nice to see you on this, hopefully light hearted thread.

My DH refers to me as ‘A Lady of Leisure’ which suits me fine.

I love the term as it reminds me of my dear father!

Why not just tell him not to do it again as you don't like it?

Yes, I would find it patronising, Katek. My OH apparently used to introduce his wife (now his ex) as 'this is my first wife'! I think you should do something similar - he might get the message. We tend to use 'other half', which doesn't seem to offend anyone.

What about being called the little woman?

I was always referred to by my late husband's friends and colleagues as 'Mrs Alf' - never bothered me a bit - at home he called me Dolly and in company usually kept to Dolly as well.

It sounds like Mrs Mainwaring. Don't panic!

It just sounds really pompous and silly.

On arriving for dinner in the first night of a cruise my DH introduced me as "the wife". One gentleman then asked me "what is your name my dear?" I replied "Mrs Wright, "oh " he said " I meant your first name" "oh " I replied, "my first name is Always". Had a good cruise, and no our name is not "Wright".

How about “SWAMBO” ? Meaning “She who always must be obeyed”. Think it originates from an old TV series, the name of which escapes me, but think the husband was a solicitor or something like that. I will remember it when I have posted this! I think that most of these expressions are terms of endearment, although admittedly, some can sound patronising. Men have a knack of doing that! Oh, think the TV programme was Rumpold of the Bailey???

Katek - may I recommend referring (loudly so that as many as poss. can hear you) to His Lordship as "my sweetie Hubby!"

Just thinking of calling a grown man a "hubby" sets my teeth on edge - I hope it does the same to him.

It's a word that makes him sound like one of those dinky toy dogs that people dress up in tartan jackets and stick twee bows in their hair.......