Lovely sons-in-law

Annie

I always wanted four children but finances only allowed for 2. Now I have 1 DD and 1 DDiL , 1 DS and 1 DSiL Wish granted

Our DD1 married young and we weren't over impressed but he has won us over and we have told others-and him-that for many years he has been like a son to us. DD2 married later, kissed a few frogs before she found her prince. He is completely different, was very difficult to begin with but we now have a good relationship with him.

Reading this makes me wonder if some people are not just predisposed to be happy and loving, however hard their lives are.

So many losses and there you are, still loving and living and not bitter, when lots of threads on here are riddled with angst over trivia and perceived slights.

A fine example to us all.

I have a Son no2 and now a D2 no2. I dislike the title in law. We were a family of 4 and now we are a family of 6 adults plus 2GC. I didn't have the easiest of relationships with my MIL and I was determined it would be different if I became a MIL. I am fully aware of how very fortunate we are and feel for those who have a different experience.

I get on well with my SIL , although he can be a little ‘tetchy’ at times. But he’s a wonderful dad to my GK’s, and a hard worker. His mother died two months after the wedding and she asked me to love him if I could..... I can, and I do!

I adore my son in law who isn't and my son in law, I will not call them my sons, they have mothers

Like us, DDil's family are small and we have become one family, counted in to all family events and having whole family holidays. One coming up this summer to celebrate our golden wedding.

1 wonderful, amazing SiL, great Dad to my grandchildren.

Thank you, Luckygirl for such a positive post. We hear so regularly of the negative relationships that this is a joy. I only have sons and I think they ave been well received in their respective partners families. Certainly hope so as that was the example they were set by their Father. Great stuff!

I have a lovely son in law who has helped me with odd jobs and moving house.The best thing though is how happy he makes my daughter-just seeing their strong bond makes me happy!

Luckygirl what a great post! And radicalnan what a great comment. There are many positive people who really do look on the bright side of things. My daughter met my son-in-law when they were quite young - he was 19 and she was 20. They married 6 years later and now (married 11 years) are so happy, and so in tune with each other on raising my 2 DGC. He is very quiet with me, not a barrel of laughs as I might have enjoyed, but he absolutely adores my daughter, is a wonderful husband, father (and provider) and he has so much respect for me and my relationship with my family (I am the weirdo in the general scheme of family things - divorced, living in another country, running off to Eastern Europe etc etc), so I am very grateful for him and love him to bits.

I am so blessed as I adore both my Dil’s and my SIL too ... my 3 have had some aloof partners previously, but these 3 they have settled down with, priceless and I love them all dearly.

We have 5 son in laws who have been absolute stars. My husband has been in ICU for 4 weeks now and they have all held the fort at home so their wives could visit and stay with me. I have not been alone during this time and daughters have slept at our home leaving their husbands to take care of their children and continuing to work. They have taken leave to fit in with emergency visits to ICU and driven for hours so their wives could be here. We feel very blessed to have these lovely men in our lives

My working class, Irish mother married a man, my father, who was less than chivalrous, shall we say, and left him. She has always been full of praise for her sons-in-law and says that my sister and I were lucky to find them.

Luck, of course, had nothing to do with it.

Nevertheless, it is worth mentioning that there are some very good and lovely men in the world when we hear so much about the bad ones. My son is as nice as his father too.

I have 2 wonderful SIL and what’s makes them so special is they both adore my 2 daughters and are brilliant dads - what more could I ask for

I went into shock after acute epigastric pain on Sunday evening and was ambulanced off to A&E, where I remained overnight.

One SIL spent the night with my OH (who has PD), fetched in food, lit the fire etc. in the morning. The other did our shopping and dug out the snow on our drive. All done with no fuss and great respect for OH's problems.

They are just gems!

What a heartening thread. We have 1 SIL & if I am honest we weren't that keen to start with but 10 years & 1 DGS we get along fine. We aren't perfect either (despite what DH thinks ) so it is a bit of a compromise really.

We have 2 SiLs. They are very different, though have some common interests,but I am very fond of both.
One is the primary carer for twin GS and GD (4 in July) and has been since they were 1 and DD went back to work. It has been a steep learning curve but he’s doing a great job.

My sons MiL kept telling me recently how wonderful he is and I agreed. Afterwards my DH said I should have reciprocated and said how fond of his wife (her daughter) we are (which is true) but it didn't occur to me and I'm not one for gushing. Its a bit late to tell her now!

We are lucky with DiL and SiL. The latter has his faults (don't we all) but he's a good husband and father and right for DD and you can't say fairer than that.

I am blessed with a lovely SiL. We get on well and he has, on a couple of occasions, volunteered as our cabin boy when we were on the move and he had time off from his job. I’m a bad influence though, I introduced him to Pirate Coffee (add a large dash of rum) and tried to fatten him up with bacon sandwiches.

Not SIL?

My only criteria for a son in law is that they make my daughters happy. Unfortunately I lost one last year at the untimely age of 36, but he absolutely worshipped my daughter so that was good enough for me.

A very dear friend of mine coined the term sin-in-law when her daughter moved in with her partner. I now use it, as I have both a son- and a sin-in law; both are lovely young men