I found I was getting up to go in the night so I no longer drink anything after8pm, except for the two evenings when I have been at choir, then I really need to drink. I go to bed late but try t fully empty my bladder, even going back to the loo after cleaning my teeth. Now I rarely get up more than once or twice a week.
In the day it is a different matter. I have tried bladder training, but just ended up not making it, time after time.
Now, after blood tests have shown good health, I am doing regular pelvic floor exercises. Things are improving, and I am hoping to do better still in a couple of months.