Cross dressing

I admire your honesty and acceptance of your DH’s cross dressing Hildagard but personally I don’t think I could cope. Where does the husband/man end and the girlfriend/woman begin?

I understand not everyone could accept this, but having been in a violent relationship I now feel safe. But to actually answer your question it is difficult to define, but to the majority of our world he is a man. He has a feminine side which stretches through both persona, but not in an effeminate manner.

Very interesting and praise indeed for seeing what is probably the fuller picture and by so finding yourself a great husband and girl friend rolled into one.

Personally I don`t know if I could cope ...........yet perhaps might feel different if presented with this scenario,whilst to his credit,he was remarkably honest at the off set,a very good place to be..........

I admire you both. Him for his honesty from the outset, many people dont tell partners really important things until its discovered and resentment at a secret causes major upset. And you for being accepting and willing to see the whole person not just what to some is a deal breaker.
Good luck to you both, I wish you a long and happy marriage.

Totally agree with Hazbeen Good luck to both of you.

Brilliant Hilda great admiration from me too I don’t know how I d feel I m fairly accepting but not sure wether I could be comfortable with that or not you d only know once you’re in the relationship then it would be too late I guess ?
You re obviously very happy and long may it continue good luck to you both

Thank you for your comments and support. I was surprised/disappointed that I didn’t have more. I suppose that I was hoping that there was someone out there in a similar position.

Not everyone is as brave as you, they dont want to stick their head above the parapet on GN! If only more people were as open as you and your husband the world would be a better place, but unfortunately having said that in RL some people are to quick to judge.

Well done to your DH for being honest and to you for being accepting. I think loving someone means you accept them as they are and don't try to change them.

I think you haven’t got many answers because people don’t know how to comment perhaps or have no feelings either way.

I can’t help wondering if you are not quite as happy about it as you say? For else I can’t see why you want contact with people in same situation particularly. I mean people usually want to speak to others about their relationships when there are problems - no?

I haven’t any feelings about cross dressing whatsoever- each to their own etc I just would not like my husband to do it! No particular reason I would add. I remember Coronation Street when Audrey discovered one of her boyfriends was a cross dresser. I just laughed (which I know is not pc). I think my DH would look more like Tim Healy in Benidorm tbh (not very attractive).

So sorry this post isn’t all that helpful.

If you would like to meet someone in a similar position, do you live in or near a big city? There will be clubs which are open to cross dressers and their partners on some nights of the week if not every night.

I used to do some work for a cross dresser and went to one of these clubs with him once, as his partner was not keen on his cross dressing. This was in Manchester but I can't remember the name of the club (it was over 20 years ago).
But I can't say I noticed him having a "feminine side" particularly, he was just like any other man.

is this real?

Well who knows if any thread is real, but why shouldn't this one be?

sometimes I do heavy jobs and sometimes I wear scruffy clothes and couldnt give a monkeys about girlie stuff.

I don't understand your point oldbatty

Hildagard I am glad this lifestyle suits you both, I know it wouldn’t suit me.

I saw a picture of Grayson Perry in the paper yesterday with his wife and daughter and he looked like a Dame out of a pantomime, but they all looked very happy. It takes all sorts.

Oh good for you for being supportive and why the heck not!
In this day and age when we ar3 all so much more aware of mental health and the consequences of keeping things buried.
I truly admire the generation we have now who accept so easily all sexual genders and quirks.
I am grateful that I have no such complications as I doubt if it were me I would have had the guts to deal with things as I am such a coward and always seem to seek approval of others.

It's not really a point. It's more an observation that gender and gender ascribed roles are fluid.

Personally I don't need a 'man for all the heavy jobs' I do most of them myself. I have female friends but we don't drink prosecco and talk about nail varnish.

Thank you oldbatty I see what you meant now.

Bluegal actually I am very happy and just wondered if anyone else lived like we do. We have been together 20 years.

Hi Hildagard. I am full of admiration for you as I'm not sure if I could live like that.

Can I ask - what do your friends and family make of you both and do you go out together both dressed as women or is it restricted to home? I'm fascinated by how you make it work.

Don't answer if I have offended you by asking!

Good luck to you. I have a friend who was in the same position as you and happily accepted the two personas they were perfectly happy for years and all their friends knew about it, sometimes we would have a drink with her and (male name) others we would turn up at the pub or bar and it would be the two girls together. Work was also aware and every thing was nice and easy for them. Hope this helps a bit ?

kittylester we go out together in Brighton but otherwise restricted to home. We have some very good friends who accept both persona. My husbands sister actually borrows some of his dresses.
jenpax . Envious of your friend ?