I Hate "The Wife"

Bikergran- just read your post to my DH.
His response- they are braver men than me?. He’s still giggling.

Nothing wrong with hubby, hubs, hubster whatever. I actually think it sounds nicer than DH.

There are worse things to say, it is common to hear "our lass" here in the NE. I long to ask who they share her with.

In a different context, I resolutely hang on to the title Wife rather than Carer. If I were merely The Carer, I would have run away long ago.

DH would never call me 'the wife' and I'd never call him 'the husband'!
We both use abbreviations of our given names, so we're 'S****’ and C****'.
We use all sorts of names for each other though;
I'm 'She who must be obeyed', 'Anwen' (and when you've done this, do that, and when that's done....), 'Wench' (get to the kitchen Wench).
DH is called 'My first husband', 'Galley Slave', 'James' (home James, and don't spare the horses), 'Dids' (short for Diddums, DS's pet name for DH).
Life's too short to get uppity about what our partners call us, as long as it's done in jest, he can call me anything!

I'm surprised nobody has confessed to using nicknames, for indoors use of course.
Vera was a tall, slim lady all her life, but on the spur of the moment I once came out with "Jumbo". I won't regale you with the circumstances, but before I could run she said "I like that" and it stuck! Phew!