baby shower

I'm a bit over the wisdom of ANY shower/sip n see for a premie baby who is just passing their due date. I would be mortally afraid, if it was my premie baby, of them picking up a cold or other virus from a large bunch of visitors. Bronchiolitis is no laughing matter, especially for someone whose little lungs were not finished when they came into the world.

But I guess your son and DIL have already made that decision.

By the time the baptism celebration is done, she/they will have had 6 parties! Anyway, it is what it is. I love her regardless.
Changing the topic: who makes the decision what grandparents will be called by their grandchildren? My son wants me to be called Oma to follow his Oma's footsteps, who passed away a while ago. Even though she was phenomenal with her grandchildren, she was absolutely ruthless to me before I gave birth to the first grandchild. Even after that, I was the recipient of many painful stabs. Anyway, to make a long story shorter, I don't want to be called "Oma". He doesn't want me to be called Grandma (my mom) because, and I have no idea why, he doesn't have a lot of respect for her. But that name rolls off my tongue much easier. So I thought of a compromise: Gramama. Any input?

Angel: Honestly, the grandchildren should decide. Do you have existing grandchildren, and if so, what do they call you?

No, I think that you should decide yourself what you should be called , and stick to it. That's what we did, and it means that one set of DGC have 2 sets of grandparents with the same names. They sorted it out at very early ages!