Loud people

Not as reserved as we used to be MissA!

Sitting squashed up next to each other on tiny chairs at a school do last week was a big ask though.

Do you think we're quite uptight people as a whole?
Keep our personal spaces in place, feel slightly uncomfortable when feeling the warmth of the previous occupiers bottom on a bus seat...

We have a very large East European community here in Boston, and I`ve noticed that most of the men have very loud, deep voices, not shouting, just ordinary talking. We are the only British household along this stretch of the road, and one of our neighbours has a very loud voice. We dread him being home for any prolonged period as he drowns out the TV unless we turn it right up.

They are just gobby and full of their own self importance.
Or just a bit deaf like my DH
who says he is not deaf.

I detest those parents who are talking to the entire carriage, bus or shop etc when they are addressing their child. Loud parenting and they look st other adults to hope you look and admire them an their parenting skills.

I usually yawn.

Its not even necessarily all about the voice volume.
It's body language, and all kinds of subtle things too.

I'm big on people watching.
I do like the occasional loud person, but I feel really really shy with very loud, confidant people.
Even writing it down gives me a sense of unease.
Says more about me than them, perhaps?

I also have an aversion to loud people and avoid them if I can. They like to appear confident but you don't have to bellow all your business to the world to be confident. They are just gobby and full of their own self importance.

In the case of a loud family member it is due to feeling inadequate so she is over compensates and it's often showing off, and usually about what she has got/where she's been. But she has been broken into and robbed a couple of times so someone has overheard alright! Shame.

I know what you mean. I went out with a couple of friends last night, for a few drinks and to watch a local band playing in the pub. There was a group of about 6 women, all shrieking and cackling at the antics of an older woman who joined their group.

I have got a quiet voice and find I couldn't get my voice to be loud, even if I wanted to

My Mum was a teacher , we had to remind her she had left the classroom !
Every one ignores me so I must have a very quiet voice

I should qualify that statement - I have lots of friends who were teachers but they're not all loud!

Without intending any offence it sometimes seems to me that teachers or former teachers can come over as rather bossy or attention seeking
I have a friend who was a teacher and no-one ever has any problem hearing her

Isn't it strange that I've often heard people like this - we even have one in church who drow ns out the choir! - but I've never metone!

Some people just like to draw attention to themselves.
Absolutely not, RosieLeah!

Some people have naturally loud voices.
Yes, like my DH, who worked in a very noisy environment, has some hearing loss and I am always having to remind him that he is speaking too loudly and that the neighbours don't want to hear what he's saying.

Apologies in advance if any of you encounter him.

If you hear a woman with a slightly raised voice it could be me trying to explain something to him (he says there is nothing wrong with his hearing).
If I think I became too loud I will then start to

Unfortunately DH is pretty loud. However, he is certainly not full of his own importance or indeed much of a conversationalist.
He says it's because he got into the habit having worked for 30+ years in a very noisy manufacturing environment. Which I understand would be a factor He retired 10 yrs ago though !

I too get annoyed at the loud "me,me,me" types.

I have found that friends whose partners are hard-of-hearing tend to speak loudly.

That's something that I always worry about doing. My DH is very hard of hearing and, even when he's wearing his aids, I find I often have to shout. I hope I'm not as shouty when I'm out and about!

That's what it is harrigran-------centre of attention, or else.

I have a relative like that, if others are talking she just gets louder and louder, she has to be the centre of attention.

I avoid such people too Ellanvannin. It can be hard sometimes on social occasions. Without intending any offence it sometimes seems to me that teachers or former teachers can come over as rather bossy or attention seeking. Most likely as a result of years of having to be like this.
I am in awe of FountainPen. Wow. Well done that woman! I don't think I'd have the nerve to say that to someone else.
DH tends to be very loud on the phone. It's a family joke. All I have to do is whisper 'I'm right here' if he talks to me too loudly at home. I might try that on others too some day.

Empty vessels make most noise, I was always told, and I tend to find it true.
I'm a bit intimidated by loudly confident people, too.

Say no more. I've got a mighty mouth living near me---she must be heard ! About her many holidays and all the money you should have and when her window is open and she's on her phone I have to turn up the volume on my TV ! It's all me, myself and I. An obnoxious individual who once complained about a cruise because it was " full of old people "-------she's one herself ! Maybe she met her match and didn't like it.
Whatever you've got, she's got----only better. One of them
I don't speak to her. Nothing in common.

Don't pull any punches RosieLeah say it how it is
As others have said the loud people who annoy me most are the ones showing off and addressing their remarks to the world. Of course I forgot the mobile phone users who discuss anything loudly even personal details.

I am getting to that age where I have no qualms in telling people if their behaviour is intrusive.

Yesterday, I was at a charity book sale in a church hall. A man in his late 30s, well-spoken, with his partner and two young children were browsing. Everything he said was at top volume. You could see people wincing. When he drew alongside me, I politely and discreetly asked him to keep his voice down. He looked shocked. I don’t imagine anyone had ever dared mentioned it before but he was quieter after that.

I did the same a few months ago at a photography exhibition in London. Again, a well-spoken middle-aged woman talking to her children in a very loud voice which echoed all around the exhibition space. Again, a quiet word did the trick.

I think these people are just full of themselves and need to be made aware that it isn’t all about them.

I have found that friends whose partners are hard-of-hearing tend to speak loudly. I think they must get so used to having to speak loudly at home that they forget to reduce the volume when talking to others with good hearing.

Some people just like to draw attention to themselves. They are insensitive brutes who don't realise how vulgar they are.

Perhaps this was an example of the Lombard reflex ? See David Lodge's "Deaf Sentence" for a comprehensive appreciation of the "'comic" disability of deafness.