Loud people

I hate loud voices too. I was in small cafe with daughter and grandchildren. Two tables down sat a guy having a very loud business conversation. In the send I said to daughter “ could he talk any louder” It spoilt our visit although he did in the end leave before us, I don’t want to hear every word of someone else’s boring conversation

I agree it’s very bad manners. Didn’t Shakespeare say something about women’s voices being sweet gentle and low?

I hate loud men too. Very annoying

I find those with loud voices seem to be the same ones who interrupt when someone else is talking - as if theirs is the only viewpoint or topic of conversation which is important.

I am slightly deaf myself and am careful not to speak too loudly - to the extent of people having to ask me to repeat myself.

In my experience, particularly in restaurants, it's usually, but not exclusively, men who tend to loudly dominate. Not necessarily older ones who may have a hearing problem but the booted suited types with a sense of their own importance.

Some people have naturally loud voices.

What i find quite new to me is people who talk ‘to’ a person but say it loudly to the whole room
Two examples a young man and (presumably) daughter walking down the street Father talking to the child about what they’d done or were going to do, talking in a booming voice (I was on the other side of the road) but looking straight ahead so actually talking to the street and passers by
not to the child, not a single glance went the child’s way Second is in the charity shop, customers talk very loudly to the air, they have a child or companion with them but the words are directed in a booming voice to the whole shop not the indended receiver of the news
Very strange and not something I ve come across until recently

I took DGChildren to cafe over half term and the man at the next table was large - VERY large - with a VERY large voice. He spent about 20 minutes telling those at his table - and the rest of the cafe - about how he gets the wax put of his ears. The boys were very giggly!

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Perhaps this was an example of the Lombard reflex ? See David Lodge's "Deaf Sentence" for a comprehensive appreciation of the "'comic" disability of deafness.

Some people just like to draw attention to themselves. They are insensitive brutes who don't realise how vulgar they are.

I am getting to that age where I have no qualms in telling people if their behaviour is intrusive.

Yesterday, I was at a charity book sale in a church hall. A man in his late 30s, well-spoken, with his partner and two young children were browsing. Everything he said was at top volume. You could see people wincing. When he drew alongside me, I politely and discreetly asked him to keep his voice down. He looked shocked. I don’t imagine anyone had ever dared mentioned it before but he was quieter after that.

I did the same a few months ago at a photography exhibition in London. Again, a well-spoken middle-aged woman talking to her children in a very loud voice which echoed all around the exhibition space. Again, a quiet word did the trick.

I think these people are just full of themselves and need to be made aware that it isn’t all about them.

I have found that friends whose partners are hard-of-hearing tend to speak loudly. I think they must get so used to having to speak loudly at home that they forget to reduce the volume when talking to others with good hearing.

Don't pull any punches RosieLeah say it how it is
As others have said the loud people who annoy me most are the ones showing off and addressing their remarks to the world. Of course I forgot the mobile phone users who discuss anything loudly even personal details.

Say no more. I've got a mighty mouth living near me---she must be heard ! About her many holidays and all the money you should have and when her window is open and she's on her phone I have to turn up the volume on my TV ! It's all me, myself and I. An obnoxious individual who once complained about a cruise because it was " full of old people "-------she's one herself ! Maybe she met her match and didn't like it.
Whatever you've got, she's got----only better. One of them
I don't speak to her. Nothing in common.

Empty vessels make most noise, I was always told, and I tend to find it true.
I'm a bit intimidated by loudly confident people, too.

I avoid such people too Ellanvannin. It can be hard sometimes on social occasions. Without intending any offence it sometimes seems to me that teachers or former teachers can come over as rather bossy or attention seeking. Most likely as a result of years of having to be like this.
I am in awe of FountainPen. Wow. Well done that woman! I don't think I'd have the nerve to say that to someone else.
DH tends to be very loud on the phone. It's a family joke. All I have to do is whisper 'I'm right here' if he talks to me too loudly at home. I might try that on others too some day.

I have a relative like that, if others are talking she just gets louder and louder, she has to be the centre of attention.

That's what it is harrigran-------centre of attention, or else.

I have found that friends whose partners are hard-of-hearing tend to speak loudly.

That's something that I always worry about doing. My DH is very hard of hearing and, even when he's wearing his aids, I find I often have to shout. I hope I'm not as shouty when I'm out and about!

Unfortunately DH is pretty loud. However, he is certainly not full of his own importance or indeed much of a conversationalist.
He says it's because he got into the habit having worked for 30+ years in a very noisy manufacturing environment. Which I understand would be a factor He retired 10 yrs ago though !

I too get annoyed at the loud "me,me,me" types.

Some people have naturally loud voices.
Yes, like my DH, who worked in a very noisy environment, has some hearing loss and I am always having to remind him that he is speaking too loudly and that the neighbours don't want to hear what he's saying.

Apologies in advance if any of you encounter him.

If you hear a woman with a slightly raised voice it could be me trying to explain something to him (he says there is nothing wrong with his hearing).
If I think I became too loud I will then start to

Some people just like to draw attention to themselves.
Absolutely not, RosieLeah!

Isn't it strange that I've often heard people like this - we even have one in church who drow ns out the choir! - but I've never metone!

Without intending any offence it sometimes seems to me that teachers or former teachers can come over as rather bossy or attention seeking
I have a friend who was a teacher and no-one ever has any problem hearing her

I should qualify that statement - I have lots of friends who were teachers but they're not all loud!