Had a chat with friends about this not long ago.
We agreed that it was better to be poor and without in the UK than most other countries in the world. (Not saying being poor is a good state..) but as poverty has always existed, living in a welfare state where needs and income are assessed, benefits are given and a whole host of agencies and advocates exist to aid those with least is a sign of a compassionate society. That sort of benevolence does not exist in other countries. Here most people are given or offered shelter and their basic needs are met by benefit payment.
We are from a generation that knows hardship. If we were working class we had very little. My parents lived in post war sub-standard accommodation when I was born, without a private loo and no hot water. My brother spent the first year of his life sleeping in an open suitcase. Ask many of us about ice forming on the insides of windows, putting coats on beds for extra warmth and heating up all water if we wanted it hot. Clothes were hand-me downs, darned, and food had to be stodgy and filling. Thank goodness no one was hollering at us about every family member having their five a day fruits and vegetables! Children made their own entertainment outside with few toys. We had no television or machines to make life easier, and certainly there were no holidays on the horizon, ever. Cardboard put into shoes to patch up the holes, anyone? This poverty existed for many. My father always worked and we didn't claim any benefits (there was a stigma attached to taking money you hadn't earned back then) and people tended to work at anything rather than go on the 'dole' - money that was doled out. People were very proud and made do if they possibly could.
Everyone (almost everyone) has a safety net today, and rightly so. However, there are people who cannot live within their means. They think they are poor if they cannot afford things other people have. Some people cannot manage money or prioritise how money should be spent and claim to be poor.
Having a lowly income is hard, but haven't many, many of us Grans been in that situation and have had to go without, budget and tighten the belt because bills were in the offing?
Times change as does society. We expect better and more today, and rightly so, so we donate food to agencies to ensure those struggling can put food on the table. but part of me screams that in living history many people of our generation were living in abject poverty - a miserable, mean, cold existence with no breaks or assistance. We survived.
Perhaps budgeting ought to be part of the school curriculum, No one taught us to budget back in the '50s and '60s but we were a naturally prudent generation because we had so little. We knew the sense of living within our means from an early age. I owe thanks to Mr Dickens and my English teacher. The Mr Micawber principle, the fundamental 'law' of personal finance and the fear of debt made such sense to poor people. It still stands today.
Annual income twenty pounds, annual expenditure nineteen pounds nineteen and six, result happiness. Annual income twenty pounds, annual expenditure twenty pounds nought and six, result misery
I have never been able to spoil my children but they grew up knowing if they couldn't afford to pay for it, they couldn't have it. Same always applied to me.