My favourite church is my Parish Church of St.Mary's in Kidlington, which is a beautiful, ancient parish church and is the centre of the community. We hold concerts there and art exhibitions and at Christmas, we had a Christmas spectacular with animals (including a live camel)! The church was packed. It is busy every day of the week, with Mother and Toddler groups, Music groups, an Art group and there is a thriving choir and children's choir. There is also a traditional Village Fete held in the church grounds every year which is always very well-attended. The church is always packed on Sundays, so when I read reports of how churches are finding it hard to attract people to their services, I find it hard to believe. You just need a dynamic, forward-looking vicar and people who are willing to help out. My daughter was baptised at St.Mary's and my mother's funeral was held here and her ashes are buried in the cemetery behind the church. The church is open all day and every day for people to visit.
My other favourite church is the one in Wales where I was brought up and where I was confirmed and married. It, too, suffered a disastrous fire, but it was restored after several years. the outside is a beautiful, Norman church and the inside is modern, with different coloured ceilings and beautifully made pews and pulpit, with new stained glass windows. This church is the complete opposite of St. Mary's and no longer has a full-time vicar, as so few people attend the services. it is held back by a few elderly gentlemen, who do not want to move forward and attract more people. They are resistant to any kind of change and I can see the church being closed altogether if things don't change. These days a church has to be the hub of the community and organise events that everyone can go to. It involves extra work, but it is essential if people want to keep their church. I know about this, because my cousin attends regularly and she is in despair about the whole situation. I didn't mention that St.Mary's has a lady vicar and the elderly gentlemen at my previous church won't hear of having one, even though male vicars are in short supply.