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Positives about getting older

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Jomarie Sat 25-May-19 21:51:44

Noting on another thread that the older one gets the less leg hair there is to worry about rang a bell with me and I sort of wondered what other positives are there to getting older - I know about the negatives (so many) but feel sure there are also many positives - less leg/arm/pubic hair being a starting point - over to you all - don't let me down !!! grin

Septimia Sat 25-May-19 22:04:08

Other people might well disagree with me, but I'd say bus passes, senior railcards, retirement giving more time for chosen activities (as opposed to being obliged to go to work) and more confidence (to speak up about things, especially).
I agree about the reduction in hair, although my DH might not as his seems to have slipped off his head!

NanKate Sat 25-May-19 22:06:01

I’m trying hard to think of something positive but it’s hard.

notanan2 Sat 25-May-19 22:09:00

No FOMO (young people talk: Fear of Missing Out) so you can just say no to social events with no regrets

Sara65 Sat 25-May-19 22:10:03

Me too Kate, I’m still thinking!

notanan2 Sat 25-May-19 22:10:50

I also like the relative anominity that being my age gives you. Being unremarkable lets me slip under the radar and be an observer unless I want to join in. When I was younger I got attention whether it was wanted or not.

lemongrove Sat 25-May-19 22:11:15

All the things Septimia says, the leisurely breakfasts are wonderful, also visiting friends whenever we like, or going out for the day.
Also being a bit more ‘laid back’ about life in general.

Sara65 Sat 25-May-19 22:12:03

That is a point notanan, I never go anywhere I don’t want to anymore, and I don’t sit at home wondering if they’re all talking about me!

absent Sat 25-May-19 22:12:45


Gonegirl Sat 25-May-19 22:16:30

Nope! No positives whatsoever. How could there be? confused

NanKate Sat 25-May-19 22:17:34

I agree Sara65 it’s great having the confidence to say No when you don’t want to do something. I’ve given up being a people pleaser.

I told a friend recently I am happy to meet people face to face, text or email them, but I do not like using the phone. It didn't please her but at least I was being truthful.

DoraMarr Sat 25-May-19 22:19:13

Gosh, where to begin! Not having blasted periods for a start. Being retired. Not really giving a monkey’s what other people think. Yes, bus passes and railcards ( although less income rather takes the shine off.) Grandchildren for those who have them. And, for me, sons-in- law!

Gonegirl Sat 25-May-19 22:19:20

I suppose it depends on how much older you're talking about. Twelve years ago I could enjoy my grandchildren more actively than I can now.

Eglantine21 Sat 25-May-19 22:31:00

Sex without having to take precautions blush

Framilode Sat 25-May-19 22:39:29

Every Monday morning waking up and remembering I don't have to go to work. The day is mine.

crazyH Sat 25-May-19 22:39:32

I am divorced. So.......
Reading / watching TV late into the night, staying in my dressing gown till lunchtime, not having to shave my legs (wear trousers), on 'bad days', knowing that there won't be many of those left, to endure, etc etc etc

Moocow Sat 25-May-19 23:05:35

I'd swap anyone hairy legs for having a hairy head sad I've never bothered about shaving my legs or armpits and glad to see younger ones trying to say it's not an issue.

Apart from the long list of symptoms that replace periods then yes having no periods as DoraMarr said, but it is costing me more in trying various things to help with the symptoms. I give up, can't think of any!

Jomarie Sat 25-May-19 23:05:51

So many positives and so many different responses which tell us about different ages - as contributors to GsNet we are a diverse age group - not easily defined - so many differing answers are very interesting and age related - after all a "Gran" contributor can be anything from 30 to 90+ a huge demograph!!!!! Therein liea our power -!!!
Sorry - can't be arsed - need my bed and my book and where's my hot water bottle???? grin

DoraMarr Sat 25-May-19 23:11:22

Eglantine grin

Calendargirl Sun 26-May-19 07:43:45

Young people nowadays seem under pressure to look attractive, fit, popular, aspirational, bright,etc. etc.
It’s good to be older and realise much of that doesn’t always matter too much as long as you’re reasonably healthy and content with your lot.
“If youth but knew, and age but could”.

Flossieturner Sun 26-May-19 07:50:50

Having the confidence to please myself. I don’t feel I have to explain myself anymore.

Growing my hair so no more hated hairdresser trips.

No one to please but myself.

I think old age contentment depends very largely on how healthy you are. If you are mobile, free from pain and independent it makes a world of difference.

Auntieflo Sun 26-May-19 08:09:54

I think old age contentment depends very largely on how healthy you are. If you are mobile, free from pain and independent it makes a world of difference.
Flossieturner oh how very true

Franbern Sun 26-May-19 08:47:41

In todays rather strange world I am so pleased I am old and coming to the end of my life - although I do worry for the much younger generation.
Real positives for me -
no mortgage to worry about, actually being better off financially (partly due to that) than I ever was when I had children at home.
Not having the alarm clock on each day, but waking and getting up in my own time.
Watching with delight, and some awe, how well my children are all doing in their careers and lives.
Being able to watch whatever I wish on television, and having the time so to do.
Obviously, the wonderful Freedom Pass I get as I am a Londoner, which gives me free travel.
Just being able to relax and take life easy, not having constantly to be in a rush and meeting myself coming/going.
Being able to wear comfortable clothes/shoes without caring whether they are 'in fashion' or not.
Yes, there are downsides also, particularly lack of mobility and health problems, but even these are so helped with what remains of what was our wonderful NHS, and mobility aids like scooters, which give so much independence and freedom.
Strangely enough the one thing I really miss is being able to go to bed and fall asleep, without tossing and turning and taking pills - and staying asleep all night. But we can't have everything, can we?

EllanVannin Sun 26-May-19 08:53:34

Doing things to suit me and not others. Happy doing nothing after years of hard work and lots of family involvements, ups and downs included.

Fortunately I've remained relatively healthy with no aching joints or pain anywhere which as someone has said makes a difference when you can still get around.

Wearing a jumper in summer ( in case of a sudden breeze ) people just think it's "because you're old " and because I've always felt the cold I'm no longer embarrassed by it.

Not bothered about no more holidays, more for a quieter life without that early morning hassle to catch a flight-----I couldn't be doing ! I just do what I want to do.

Rufus2 Sun 26-May-19 08:57:33

but feel sure there are also many positives
Not being stalked by middle-aged women! grin