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SOS1965 Tue 28-May-19 12:10:58

I'm 53 and married to a man who bores me rigid. He is 51 but is old in his ways, never wants to do anything or go anywhere.
He hasn't worked for over 2 years I'm starting to begrudge being the bread winner.
Sexually nothing for a long time, he says I've put on weight and he doesn't find me as attractive.
So I found myself a man who does, it's purely sex. Dirty, mind blowing sex.
I've never felt so good or attractive.
I stay with my husband for the children.
I know I should feel some guilt but I don't.

Esther1 Wed 29-May-19 20:26:44

SOS I say just enjoy your special times with your special friend for what they are. It makes you a happier person so everyone, even grumpy old hubby benefits. Just be careful, don’t get too involved, don’t rock the boat and keep your home life in a separate compartment. With care you can carry on like this and nobody needs to know or get hurt. You must be careful though!

Chewbacca Wed 29-May-19 19:59:41

Love it Flexible! grin

Bathsheba Wed 29-May-19 19:18:39

Hahaha, oh dear, hahaha. <Pulls up chair, settles down to enjoy> ? ? ? ? ?

NanaandGrampy Wed 29-May-19 18:10:17

The Op isn't asking for input, advice, help or support . She's made a statement. It comes across as an attempt to shock . P.S that failed miserably then !!

Blondenana if you believe it I have a bridge you might want to buy :-)

blondenana Wed 29-May-19 17:09:08

Maybe op isn;t new, maybe she has changed her username,or maybe she hasn;t many friends and just needs to tell people that she is happier than before,,
maybe her life has been very miserable,life is too short
I don;t know, but i am always willing to give people the benefit of the doubt,
Whatever,it is her life, and right or wrong , up to her

MawBroonsback Wed 29-May-19 10:37:21

Methinks OP doth protest too much hmm

FlexibleFriend Wed 29-May-19 10:03:25

I don't think being an old slapper is anything to brag about tbh.

nanaK54 Tue 28-May-19 20:33:58

Excellent news - enjoy grin

Avor2 Tue 28-May-19 20:27:21

Thanks for letting us know, we can all sit back and contemplate what this means. Or not ??!!!

Callistemon Tue 28-May-19 20:05:56

probably no response needed.

But - it could all end in tears as Mother used to say wink

Buffybee Tue 28-May-19 20:04:41

Bit of a conversation stopper! ?

Buffybee Tue 28-May-19 20:03:12

I see what you mean phoenix!
It's not really something that you'd bring up at the Vicars tea party

phoenix Tue 28-May-19 19:19:48

Well, as I see it, SOS1965 has made a statement, not asked a question.

My understanding is that a statement, unless made at the beginning of a proper debate, requires no response.

So, that's that then!grin

NanaandGrampy Tue 28-May-19 18:57:39

Rofl,...... pulls up chair, pass the popcorn !

I’ve rarely read so much ‘tosh’ in my life.....?

Buffybee Tue 28-May-19 18:52:12

Is there a reason why you're telling us this?
Do you perhaps feel guilty?
If not, then carry on, whatever lights your candle.

phoenix Tue 28-May-19 18:38:41

Because, blondenana, for someone who is apparently a new member, to make this their very first post (apologies if it isnt) tends to ring the odd alarm bell.

blondenana Tue 28-May-19 18:27:20

Why the sarcasm? it;s not very nice ,why do people think someone wouldn;t post this

fizzers Tue 28-May-19 18:25:11

There's many a good tune played on an old fiddle....

Chewbacca Tue 28-May-19 18:18:45

Is it too early in the year to start knitting willy warmers, do you think? hmm

bikergran Tue 28-May-19 18:18:32

I think the word " ur " spelt that way is a dead give away !!! hmm

grannyqueenie Tue 28-May-19 18:11:22

It’s that “I’m in a parallel universe” feeling again hmm

phoenix Tue 28-May-19 18:07:36

confused

Happychops Tue 28-May-19 18:04:09

How many more feel the same and haven’t the nerve to voice it publicly. Well done ladies.

EllanVannin Tue 28-May-19 17:59:39

She should be so lucky !! It's an idiot, isn't it ? ( school's out )

blondenana Tue 28-May-19 15:17:18

Has he looked in the mirror recently, it makes me laugh, all these men who complain about their wives looks, weight etc, are they very handsome, and slim? no i doubt it
Good for you, enjoy your life [ flowers]