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Mid life........

(33 Posts)
SOS1965 Tue 28-May-19 12:10:58

I'm 53 and married to a man who bores me rigid. He is 51 but is old in his ways, never wants to do anything or go anywhere.
He hasn't worked for over 2 years I'm starting to begrudge being the bread winner.
Sexually nothing for a long time, he says I've put on weight and he doesn't find me as attractive.
So I found myself a man who does, it's purely sex. Dirty, mind blowing sex.
I've never felt so good or attractive.
I stay with my husband for the children.
I know I should feel some guilt but I don't.

kittylester Tue 28-May-19 12:22:43

Welcome sos if you are new to gransnet.

I'm slightly bewildered by why you have felt the need to post. confused

wot Tue 28-May-19 12:27:45

Is it hslf term, I wonder?

janeainsworth Tue 28-May-19 12:30:12

So what’s the problem?
Is this humble-bragging?

HildaW Tue 28-May-19 12:37:11

Well it IS half term but you never know.

Gonegirl Tue 28-May-19 12:40:29


Chloejo Tue 28-May-19 14:45:53

Good for you I’m about to do the same I’m sick of living with the miserable old git complaining of old age many my life at 63 is hell and boring I’m divorcing him and I feel free and looking to the future life is too short I’m a young fit look after myself and look years younger than him! I don’t know how many good years I have left but I’m with you on going out and having fun ur post cheer me up. Good luck have fun live the boring old men to get on with it

Urmstongran Tue 28-May-19 15:04:29

Tandem posts now? That’s new.

blondenana Tue 28-May-19 15:17:18

Has he looked in the mirror recently, it makes me laugh, all these men who complain about their wives looks, weight etc, are they very handsome, and slim? no i doubt it
Good for you, enjoy your life [ flowers]

EllanVannin Tue 28-May-19 17:59:39

She should be so lucky !! It's an idiot, isn't it ? ( school's out )

Happychops Tue 28-May-19 18:04:09

How many more feel the same and haven’t the nerve to voice it publicly. Well done ladies.

phoenix Tue 28-May-19 18:07:36


grannyqueenie Tue 28-May-19 18:11:22

It’s that “I’m in a parallel universe” feeling again hmm

bikergran Tue 28-May-19 18:18:32

I think the word " ur " spelt that way is a dead give away !!! hmm

Chewbacca Tue 28-May-19 18:18:45

Is it too early in the year to start knitting willy warmers, do you think? hmm

fizzers Tue 28-May-19 18:25:11

There's many a good tune played on an old fiddle....

blondenana Tue 28-May-19 18:27:20

Why the sarcasm? it;s not very nice ,why do people think someone wouldn;t post this

phoenix Tue 28-May-19 18:38:41

Because, blondenana, for someone who is apparently a new member, to make this their very first post (apologies if it isnt) tends to ring the odd alarm bell.

Buffybee Tue 28-May-19 18:52:12

Is there a reason why you're telling us this?
Do you perhaps feel guilty?
If not, then carry on, whatever lights your candle.

NanaandGrampy Tue 28-May-19 18:57:39

Rofl,...... pulls up chair, pass the popcorn !

I’ve rarely read so much ‘tosh’ in my life.....😁

phoenix Tue 28-May-19 19:19:48

Well, as I see it, SOS1965 has made a statement, not asked a question.

My understanding is that a statement, unless made at the beginning of a proper debate, requires no response.

So, that's that then!grin

Buffybee Tue 28-May-19 20:03:12

I see what you mean phoenix!
It's not really something that you'd bring up at the Vicars tea party

Buffybee Tue 28-May-19 20:04:41

Bit of a conversation stopper! 😂

Callistemon Tue 28-May-19 20:05:56

probably no response needed.

But - it could all end in tears as Mother used to say wink

Avor2 Tue 28-May-19 20:27:21

Thanks for letting us know, we can all sit back and contemplate what this means. Or not ??!!!