Another chance! (A lighthearted thread)

I'm coming back as a tree.

(figure that out)

gillybob. Don't worry about the Caps! I truly "get" it!!

If only we knew then what we know now... (another thread?)

I think the idea of a 'next life' presupposes that we have all the knowledge from this one and we are not influenced by parents, teachers, expectations in general... I know I would not have married the man I did if my mother had been different for example.

I try to think that things are meant to be, that life is a 'school' for us to learn and that we are gradually improving...

How I wish I could give you self-suffiency and a big garden!! that sounds like a good dream to me.

As I said, peace is very dear to my heart! Today we have sunshine, I am so lucky in that I have a garden, I am about to sit in it with a sandwich and relax. What more could I ask?

Thanks for the thread it has made me think and appreciate the things I have today! ?

Esspee. What sort? I prefer Sweet Chestnut. (Sativa)

I married pretty much straight from school and spent 40 years being sensible and moral. When the children all grew up and moved away I had a couple of naughty years - trying out things so that when I had to become sensible again (grandchildren responsibilities) I wouldn’t hanker over what might have been. Luckily I got away with it and now I am just the sensible granny. The crazy years weren’t that great! I prefer now!

Over the years I have been “naughty” and sensible?????

Being naughty brought Mr.Gravy and I together...........36 years later it’s still fun to be “naughty” sometimes.

The only things I would try harder at would be - I would love to be a confident swimmer - I wish I had the “bottle” to ski as fast as the rest of my family so that I am not always “bringing up the rear”. When I watch my Daughter compete on her horse I often wish it was me (my mother was petrified of horses so it never happened, but when she turned 80 my Daughter taught her how to groom her horse and she absolutely loved it?)

I wish I could relive having all our 5 children at home, hectic but hilarious house full of love and “events”.

I hope when I come back I do remember some things from this time around. I don't want the hard lessons from this life to be re-done, I've learnt from them and want the rewards in the next life.
I want to be able to sing, amazingly, not just in the back row of the choir. I want to be able to belt it out and be proud.

I wouldn't get married, certainly not as a teenager as I did first time. I'd travel and buy shares in Apple when it was just a germ of an idea financial independence would give me the freedom for anything else I fancied.

And me and me. Can you come back as a reckless tart again??

Urmstongran same here. I was always in the top three at primary school. My birthday is the beginning of September and probably due to my mother pushing, I took my 11+ a year early so missed out the last year at primary school as I did pass the exam. However, like you I felt completely out of my depth and therefore an also ran at my grammar school. The rest of my life has been a bit like that really although I have had some interesting holidays - mainly sans spouse !!

I would come back as a selfish bitch who just put herself first and didn’t care what people thought.
Someone that wasn’t so generous that there is little left for herself.

Juliet27 & Urmstongran I have an end of July birthday, and also passed my 11+ went on to Grammar School. I was definitely at a disadvantage compared to the September Birthday girls, emotionally and maturity.

Glammy57 I've got one of those cloaks. Enjoy hanging about in disguise peacefully now.

I suppose I've always been a bit of a "reckless tart", married 3 times although No3 was "the love of my life", almost 21 years married, together almost 23 years. Many lovers over the years but never unfaithful. Now at almost 64, widowed over 6 years I may be at the start of another relationship, early days.

I haven't traveled abroad much but have moved around Britain starting in Yorkshire now settled in Devon. Each decision I've made has led me along my life's adventure, I seize every opportunity that I can, life's too short & is meant to be enjoyed.

I never expected my life to turn out as it has but despite some ups & downs it's been pretty good.

If I come back I’d like a good memory and a thick skin please.

I’ve spent a lot of my life feeling guilty about things which I couldn’t have done differently anyway. And I’m useless in an argument as, if the opposition tells me I said something, I automatically believe them!

The OP made me smile. Thanks DanniRae.

I am sensible for 99% of the time, but I do have a reckless streak (a tiny one) and occasionally throw caution to the wind.

I'd come back as the actress I should have been. I often wonder why I studied the subjects I did and followed friends into the career I had. I was good at my job but I didn't like it much.

I also had the opportunity to test the water, so to speak, a few years after my divorce. I had no desire to settle down long term, but did enjoy dating several very nice men and, with a few of them, getting close. My ex husband had been my one and only up until then and I had been completely faithful, so it was a bit of an eye-opener and a middle-aged adventure being dated in my 40s. I have no regrets whatsoever about sowing a few wild oats. I had been such a good girl until then. I pride myself on having had an exciting and slightly daring spell in my very ordinary life. I am back to monogamy now, very happily.

Makes me think of 'Sliding Doors' and I sometimes do wonder how my life would have shaped up if I had taken a different path - just for curiosity :-)

Wonderful wanton early days at uni where I got together with my man of 39 years.. We knew how to party ha! He has always been a creative optimistic force, helped ease the pain of my childhood and made me into a positive (mostly) person. I was always more cautious than him, but now totally embrace the idea of, what would I regret on my deathbed... it will never be not seeing a tv programme, but always would be choosing not to do swim in a cold sea or lake, joining in a game of something daft, taking that step into the unknown, where fun may happen. I have chucked out the net curtain culture and am so thrilled to be with my lovely man joining him, after all these years in life's adventures.

Ooh yes, wonderful days at college, when, far away from my very strict Methodist family, I got up to all sorts; stayed out late, tried all sorts of alcohol, did all sorts of things I shouldn't, partied well, nearly got thrown out. Met the wrong man who I thought was the right man, and when it ended badly, upped and went to Singapore for two years, where I met the right man.
Thankfully he was very sensible, and I spent the next 50 years being a sensible wife, mum and now grandma.
Now sadly, I am on my own, but I am starting to spread my wings a bit more and, compared to some similar aged passengers on this cruise am very reckless!

If you were boring in bed it's cos HE wasn't exciting you!!

Good for you BlueSapphire!! - don't forget to report back -

fluttERBY123. Oh, I intend to and hope you do also! ?. A kindred spirit....

maxdecatt - love it! ?

Iwouldnever describe myself as reckless or a tart but I won't die wondering lol

I want to go to pop festivals and wear wellies in the mud and smoke pot.....hopefully Leonard Cohen would be performing.....

Thanks for this very interesting thread DanniRae*. I've enjoyed the lighthearted posts but it's also been good to hear that others think about the past and would like some things to have been different. I was moved up class a couple of times and then had to be kept back a year and still did 11 plus a year early (born 21 June). It did me no favours. I never had a chance to mature properly alongside others.
And it seems regrets are common and that kind of makes it ok - if that makes sense.
I think this is my favourite thread so far.
I have so enjoyed reading all the posts.
Tillybelle it's so nice that you are doing your bit to change things for some folk. I would love to do more. Oh to change the world! (Btw I remember having a discussion after reading some Anthony de Mello on whether there is such a thing as an altruistic act.)
And KatyK do tell!

Many thanks annepl - that's made my day!