When to tell Long Distant SO about denture

Am I the only one who finds this question a wee bit odd?

Daddima I find it all odd.

Lock up your valuables, OP. How do you know the 'Padres' communicated with each other? Why would they? This whole thread sounds like an elaborate wind up

You know what they'd say if the sexes were reversed - the men don't mind and the boys don't matter.
I expect you're worried that over-enthusiastic kissing will dislodge them and then catastrophe will follow - which could happen but probably won't.
Could you drop casually in conversation, "By the way I wear a denture," and see what happens? Hopefully she won't cool off due to something so trivial. Good luck.

You are not alone Daddima

No Daddima you are not alone I m wondering about this cyber security professional, his denture, the two knowledgable padres and the wonderful woman who is in his words, not perfect Where are we going next ?

I get the feeling we won’t be going anywhere, BlueBelle!

Too late for you What1do but a warning for others:

Oh, I wish I'd looked after me teeth,
And spotted the perils beneath,
All the toffees I chewed,
And the sweet sticky food,
Oh, I wish I'd looked after me teeth.

I wish I'd been that much more willin'
When I had more tooth there than fillin'
To pass up gobstoppers,
From respect to me choppers
And to buy something else with me shillin'.

When I think of the lollies I licked,
And the liquorice allsorts I picked,
Sherbet dabs, big and little,
All that hard peanut brittle,
My conscience gets horribly pricked.

My Mother, she told me no end,
"If you got a tooth, you got a friend"
I was young then, and careless,
My toothbrush was hairless,
I never had much time to spend.

Oh I showed them the toothpaste all right,
I flashed it about late at night,
But up-and-down brushin'
And pokin' and fussin'
Didn't seem worth the time... I could bite!

If I'd known I was paving the way,
To cavities, caps and decay,
The murder of fiIlin's
Injections and drillin's
I'd have thrown all me sherbet away.

So I lay in the old dentist's chair,
And I gaze up his nose in despair,
And his drill it do whine,
In these molars of mine,
"Two amalgum," he'll say, "for in there."

How I laughed at my Mother's false teeth,
As they foamed in the waters beneath,
But now comes the reckonin'
It's me they are beckonin'
Oh, I wish I'd looked after me teeth.

Pam Ayres

What2do - sorry!

Why on earth would you be worried ? It's just teeth ! I met my husband when I was 53 and he was 64 - we'd been living together for several months before I realised he had a denture ( only because I noticed him cleaning them in the bathroom one day). He never takes them out except for cleaning and it's never been an issue - it's just teeth !

Thank you all for you advice and the wisdom around your guidance. Yes, I will be careful...she has been vetted, I am a cyber security professional, and I have triple checked to verify that who she is claiming to be, is really here...everything checks out...even got the catholic church involved, long story on that one...I too have heard the horror stories and expressed my concerns to her as well...she understands the need to be upfront and honest so, everything she has said is true...trust me, she's not perfect, no one is...she has faults just like me so I dont have any rose colored glasses on...so, like most here have conveyed, have fun and relax...but also remember "“keep your hand on your ha’penny!" I HEAR THAT!!!...no back to the subject, so no one thinks things will change once I tell her about my dentures? I decided to wait till she gets here to tell her...little nervous as to how to bring it up...so, any advice from those who confessed to their significant others that they have a denture? How did you go about doing it? Thanks everyone, this site is awesome...thought about not posting b/c...well I'm a guy and it says Grandsnet...but figured that could go for Grandpa as well thanks everyone and I look forward to hearing back from you

What2do why do you need to tell her? my husband eventually realised many months after we got together its really not a big thing.

What2do I think you’ve had all the replies you need now. Why not just give it a break?

Still surprised that a man of OP’s years should feel the need to seek advice from the likes of us on GN?
How on earth has he coped with relationships up to now -or is it likely that there have not been (m)any?

Given that what2do says he was uncomfortable about posting on Gransnet initially I don’t think we should belittle him by saying he’s had enough answers now or wondering why he wants advice from “the likes of us” .
I think we should be equals here on Gransnet, and anyone should be able ask whatever they like (within the “rules” obviously).

Please be very careful, she should have paid for her own ticket. Your post made me feel a little uncomfortable in that you seem to be head over heals about someone you have t met. She could have told you anything and it may not be true! I hope it is all as it seems, but don't rush into things until you know for certain what you are getting into. Play your cards close to your chest.

Give us an update what2do, if and when she does visit

so any advice from those that confessed to their significant other * how did you go about doing it?*
Now it’s feeling a bit like the computer whizz kid is wanting personal tales from denture wearing grans I d be very cautious as to what stories you tell
I can’t help anyway I ve still got my own

It just reminds me of that joke:

"Your teeth are like stars, darling!"
"They come out at night"
showing my crowns (firmly fixed I hope)

Is it too late for an implant, What2do, or can't you afford one now you've paid her airfare?
It could be worth it!

Wow, well got to take the good w/ the bad, some of these comments are harsh, but it comes w/ the territory I guess. I am ex military and padre isn't a slip, I just feel better calling my priest padre instead of father. Oh yes, I totally understand that I may have other problems to worry about besides my denture, like so many have said...my bank account and I will be very careful with that. So many to answer, I NEVER sent any $$ I paid for the air fare, she paid for hotel/rent a car. I am American, she is peruvian. OMG, there are some cynical people on here, let me put it to your straight, I am an IRISH CATHOLIC, EX MILITARY (USAF) from NEW JERSEY!!!...I wish I could have the implant done before she gets here but not enough time, besides one poster said and I agree "if it bothers her than she isn't the one..." and yes, I said in one post she's a wonderful woman followed up by comments around her faults was to illustrate that I am not just looking at all the good points. LDR are tricky to say the least and the differences in culture is a challenge...and Bellanonna, greetings, now you met a catholic who uses the term padre (sometimes) instead of priest or father, nice to meet you. Lets see what did I miss, she flys in 7/26 so, will definitely post an update. Thank you all for your comments, good and bad...

Daddima, Callistemon, BlueBelle and Vanall - Why is it odd? I have been honest w/ my post, sorry if it sounds odd to you.
Miep1 - Saw the email, but I hear your point! Thanks
MawBroonsback & Bellanonna - What is wrong w/ you? Is this not a support group? And thank you NotSpeghetti, I appreciate that! I am just looking for some wisdom some guidance on a specific topic, not to become a punching bag for those who are just negative. I can take the negative views about my situation but you sought of cross the line with some of your comments.
To all others, THANK YOU...I appreciate the support and guidance!!!

What2do

You could probably get an implant done in Budapest cheaper than in the States - including air fare and hotel costs.

Too late now so I hope she loves you, teeth or not.

Let me get this right
A 60-something ex USAF cyber security professional has written to a UK grandparents’ website to ask advice about when or how to reveal he has dentures to his Peruvian girlfriend (pen friend? Internet bride?) whose fare he is paying to the US but whom he has yet to meet?

Is this the US equivalent of Thai/Vietnamese mail order brides?

Oops sorry, 50 -something.
But asking grannies?

I think so.

However, knowing what US Immigration is like, I am really worried that she may not be allowed in What2do.

Please do update us on whether she gains entry to the US and what she thinks of your dentures.

ps is she bringing the chihuahuas with her?

pps don't whip your dentures out at the airport when you meet her, save it until later.