What I want from a care home.......hopefully a long way off!

sign me up Paddyann

No sing-alongs and no bingo! No Easter bonnet competitions! No visits from Santa!
'We'll meet again' was the stuff of WW2 history topics!
Good Wi-Fi essential. Decent food and generous glasses of wine!
Have spelt out to my family that if I reach the stage where I don't recognise, appreciate and welcome them, they are not to visit!

Many years ago, when I was working, I was in Blackpool on a course and there were elderly people staying in the same hotel. In the sitting room, I could here Vera Lynn's "We'll Meet Again" and I could not get out on to the street fast enough without breaking a limb.

I would want Queen and the Rolling Stones. I also would need wifi for Alexa as well as everything else. I would be spending a lot of time in my room because I cannot bear singalongs and TV on all of the time.

I also do not want my evening meal at 5 pm and ushered to bed around 8 pm. I would not be easy to care for.

I’m sure most of us would rather stay in our own homes, but think round the clock care would prove very expensive plus the cost of running your home, which is why sadly many go into care.

Often there is no choice but a care home no matter how hard you try.

merlot you were obviously unlucky with the your weekend at Warner's.
We have had some great music weekends Motown, Jazz, 70's etc. It very much depends on the hotel and when you go.
I'd be very happy in a care home like that.

www.playlistforlife.org.uk/

Link to the Sally Magnusson Charity

Sally Magnusson has started a charity which encourages people to record a play list of their choice. Also sounds that mean something - adverts, doorbell,telephone ringing, dogs barking etc.

She did this after she saw how much sounds meant to her mum whilst suffering from dementia. It isnt just about people living with dementia though. It helps lots of older people. I'll try to find a link.

I'm definitely up for it paddyann. I think many of our generation won't want the present model of care, and out of date "care homes", and instead opt for something along the lines you propose.

Led Zep at full pelt 'Hey leave us oldies alone'

but seriously, have no intention to go in a care home. Much cheaper to be cared for at home, then out.

I wouldn't want any " old people things ". Perish the thought !

In fact, all being well I'd rather stay put as presently I'm a young at heart bod who'd rather be in the company of younger people because I get on well with them. They really are friendly people when you get talking to them.

I've befriended a young builder locally this last couple of years and the other day he asked me to join him and his friends for a glass of champers when he's finished the house he's working on. I'd force the stuff down my neck to be there hahahaha. Best bib and tucker for that !

When we were in our 20's we decided that when we reached an age where we needed care we'd start a commune,people are usually able to contribute in some way so we reckoned there be someone who could do food ,organise the garden etc.W could have care on our terms.
Sadly there are fewer of us than we thought ,we lost my best friend in her 40's and others along the way .I still think its a good idea though so anyone who wants to live in a commune in the West of Scotland.?.The music can be anything you like and I can guarantee the food will be good .

I was just going to say that Septimia
No need for constant soundtrack to life. Earphones and I pods for those that want to listen to music of their own.
Hot club of Paris, Bix Beiderbeck, Artie Shaw for me.

Or, even better, just have peace and quiet and listen to our own musical preferences privately.

Great ideas Maw & Meeyoo sounds like my sort of place.. Must have a well stocked library with current books, proper books not e-books.
No visits allowed from politicians canvassing votes or children entertaining me.

I'm not keen on The Beatles non-stop, just not 50s or, heaven forbid, 40s music (I may have learned many songs from those years at my mother's knee, but they're not my taste). If we could choose our own, we might not always like other people's taste in music, but we'd get our favourites sometimes and at least there'd be variety. We could make a playlist that mixes all the choices the residents make.

This thread reminds me of a weekend break we were treated to by the family for DH's seventieth. It was at a Warner Leisure resort. The food and accommodation were top notch and the entertainment pretty good considering it was in January and the weather was dire so nobody wanted to go out.

But.....Oh, the music! We were constantly force fed, Perry Como, Frank Sinatra, Englebert Humperdinck, Cliff Richard et al. Obviously the music they considered suitable for Baby Boomers.

One of the residents snapped during a quiz while they were handing out the papers and shouted, 'Oh for Christ's sake, haven't you got any Thin Lizzie?'

'The Boys Are Back In Town' was hastily put on - to loud cheers.

Actually my biggest fear is being force fed The Beatles in a Care Home, because they were "my era".

My children already have strict instructions to tie a cardboard sign round my neck saying "I hate The Beatles - Please play Springsteen, the Stones or Johnny Cash".

I think I would prefer Vera Lynn than never ending 60's pop.

Beautiful gardens with equally attractive gardeners
Oh yes I want some eye candy when I'm in a care home ??

I’m up for it - oh and the panel of I’m Sorry I haven’t a Clue

That sounds a great place, Maw. Maybe we should set it up ourselves.
No music earlier than The Beatles (approx) and our own choices.

A balcony overlooking the sea and beautiful gardens with equally attractive gardeners. A choice of outings to gin distilleries, chocolate factories, shoe shops, designer outlets oh and galleries.
A full choice of menu and wine list, fresh flowers every day, facials and massages, and if possible - some of my lively GN friends.
And Hattie.

My friend runs a Singing for The Brain Group and most of the music they use is Rock and Roll onwards.

Example We will meet again .

Shoot me first . I dread the day that may happen ,sitting in a winged chair listening to Vera Lynn.