Visitors

I agree with KatyK and Gabriella!!

We had a house warming party the 2nd week we moved in when building work was on going and nothing but dust everywhere!!
I just thought well, they will all see it when its finished no doubt, so what does it matter if they see it before?

I do wonder if this hasn't touched on a sore spot with your husband?
Does he value his brothers opinion of him a little too much do you think?
Maybe he needs to impress him more than you realised?

It’s your husbands brother
Husband isn’t interested.

Why do people wanting to visit trump the wishes of one of the houses inhabitants?

Unless this is a constant battle, (in which case you have larger issues) I wouldn’t disrespect my partner by inviting people when he’s not ready.

DH brother is his brother, right?

Its not polite to invite yourself, wait to be invited.

Why can't people wait until they're invited instead of asking to visit?
I think it's rude to keep asking when they must know things are topsy turvy.
And before you start tut-tutting, think how many of you tidy round vacuum and clean the bathroom and kitchen when family or friends visit.

I think you BiL and wife would becoming knowing that you wouldn't have sorted out and everything would still be untidy. Presumably they have seen yyour furniture and house contents before, what they want to see is the house itself, its situation and the neighbourhood.

KatyK, you've hit the nail on the head and it looks like others generally agree. After all, if they see the mess now, they'll see the improvement when you've got everything sorted out.

If we had waited until everything was done we wouldn't have any friends left to visit us. Having said that many of them did give a hand.
New kitchen
New bathroom
New windows
Bifold doors to to garden
Floor in conservatory raised to match other rooms.
Boiler moved and central heating put in conservatory.
New glass doors between sitting room and conservatory.
All wooden fixtures taken back to original.
See what I mean ?

People who matter won’t expect anything else as you ve only just moved It might be months before you have it in perfect glory, what the heck let them in it’s daft not to

Mmm I can see hubby's point of view and on the other side I can see your's. You don't mind people seeing the house the way it is at the moment, in a mess and hubby would rather them see it in it's full glory when all the work has been done. I would be the latter. Maybe he's still stressed having moved house and worn out and just wants a bit of peace at the moment before the tradesmen start. Some can cope with upheaval more than others.

Have them round, they only want a cuppa and look around. What does it matter if there's mess? Everyone understands.

I always think those who matter won't mind and those who will mind don't matter. I'd have them come.