should I move?

I would never like to tell anyone what to do but the moving in with family makes me feel uncomfortable.

I've known many people do it and 9 times out of 10 it ends in disaster.

You, of course, could be the 1 in 10 it works for though!

Your heart isn't in buying the bungalow so I don't that is the right decision.
However, you have a buyer for your house which is a great start on your journey. You could go ahead with the sale and rent somewhere.
Then I think your first priority is to look for a property you really like and which is suitable for your disability.
I emigrated and lived with family while looking for a place of my own. The family were great but I really missed my independence and being boss of my own place!
Now I live close by which I find ideal. I am independent.I help out with my grandchildren and they are often here.
Last year I had an accident and was incapacitated for a few weeks. I was very fortunate because my adult child and spouse walked my dog every morning and got my groceries and sometimes they left my grandchildren here just to provide me with some company. It works well. We help each other out but don't live in each others pockets. We have our separate social lives and some different interests.
So, in a nutshell, I advise retaining your independence and your financial independence too. Take your time, there's no need to rush into anything. If you rent you should be in a good buying position. Do let us know how it goes.

I have a DS living with me and also 3 DGC for part of the week. He has just bought a house (2 months ago) and is 'doing it up'. I can hardly wait for him to move out though even then I will still have to have DGC a lot when he works plus picking up, dropping off for schools and clubs.

Imagine my horror last week when DS1 and partner (6 month baby) became interested in the house next door but one. Hopefully it is out of their price range. Then today DS2 and partner (DGDs 12 and 10) had a viewing of a house about 4 minutes walk away.

Although I am quite independent now at 72 I know this may change over the next 10 years but 10/15 minutes drive away where they currently are is perfectly convenient for me.

I know everyone is different but Artdecogran there are lots of good suggestions on here for you and I believe you should take your time until you are quite sure of the decision you want to make. Good luck.

I bought a flat on the next street to my daughters houses. I keep my independence but am near enough to see them most days and help out with the grandchildren . It works well.

I lived 5 months with one daughter as flat (new build) was delayed. We get on really well and she was in work all day but it was still nice when I could move into my own space.

I rented whilst deciding what to do that worked well for me

I agree with everyone else artdecogran it's too soon to make such a radical decision. Are you able to rent somewhere while you have time to grieve and think about your future. Consider carefully before agreeing to move in with family. Their lives can change and they may want to move on. You sound like an independent lady who values her own space, don't give this up lightly.
I wish you well whatever you decide.

O'h Grandma2213 you have made me smile, thanks.

lulu pleased to have made you smile. DS2 put in a very much reduced offer on the 4 minutes away house and today rang me to say that to his surprise it has been accepted! There is still a survey to be done though and we do live in a historically coal mining area so there is some hope underground!

I m in agreement with most on here it’s too soon it’s a decision made in a flap
I love all my children very very much but I would ruin that relationship if I lived with any of them We are all quite strong minded and it would go pear shape I know. I know some people manage it fine but I need my dependence. We would drive each other mad

You speak of three sons but only mention two as to proximity I totally agree that to buy a house that one inherits and not the other two is unfair and will cause rifts I would imagine
Mobility issues do not mean you have to move, with stairlifts and a wet room instead of a bathroom you could be fine and you can often get grants to help with these things
I couldn’t move twice ie renting temporarily as I find all that upheaval would totally wipe me out Moving is such a stressful thing to do
Personally I would go back to the beginning and rethink it all neither sounds the right solution to me but huge Good Luck for the future which ever way it goes and make some new friends now that you can x