Ladies who like to be driven to places - why?

Why do you want to be friends with this woman?
She’s manipulating you, but I suspect you’re enjoying it.

Hetty58 yes, she must have lost some confidence, I can understand that, but she won't admit it. She'll never say to me 'I'd love to go to x place, would you like that too? I know it'll mean you driving but it would be so nice" The other day I took my partially sighted relative in his 70s to a restaurant for his birthday and the attitude was well you took him out but you never take me! But that's my relative and we had arranged a family lunch!!

And also she'd never said she'd like to go to the restaurant; its a long drive so it has to be a mutual decision based on a conversation like "shall we go to x it would be lovely". She seems to think that she has to wait for me to offer to take her somewhere "nice". If we are going out she normally chooses a local coffee shop, never anywhere decent, then she gets annoyed if I go somewhere with other people! So yes Daisymae there's more to this than meets the eye I think so too.

I too drive everywhere I like driving. Don’t mind giving lifts but I won’t be taken advantage of. It’s all a matter of losing confidence I suppose, if there sight issues then of course people should give up driving.

I drive everywhere. Long, short distance you name it. I think perhaps that your friend has lost her confidence, or perhaps she is having problems with her vision. It's very restricting when you have to wait around for lifts. But then again parking in a pain in the rear end! Bit much of her to say that you only stay with your husband so that he can drive - makes you wonder if there's something more going on here??

A female relative has recently become very reluctant to drive. She's only in her mid sixties but seems to have lost all confidence with going anywhere beyond 'local' or parking in spaces not big enough for a bus! I wonder if she feels that her reactions have become slower?

I haven't driven for years because I have no confidence in my own abilities and find it much too stressful. My OH does enjoy driving and often offers lifts to where I want to go which I sometimes accept. However, I've never wanted to see him or anyone else as my personal taxi service and, as it was my decision to stop driving, I consider it my responsibility to arrange my own travel by bus, foot, train or taxi.

In my view, the behaviour of "Margaret" is reprehensible and maybe she needs to re-think her attitude before her friends lose patience and start drifting away.

MrA is the same jane10.
I quite like driving by myself (especially when I had an MX5) but not with him accompanying me!

I drive but prefer to be driven which works well for us husband suffers from motion sickness something his daughter and our son has inherited, twisty roads, stopping and starting are hell for them. In any case I tend to do short journeys these days.

I drive and have a car but always prefer if DH drives. This is because he's a nightmare passenger, tutting and generally criticising my driving skills, lane choice, route etc etc.
Irritatingly, he's a very good driver indeed (prizes galore for sprinting and hill climbing etc) and has a much nicer car than mine.
I prefer it if DD drives too as she's more confident of finding parking spaces and generally toughing it out in rush hour traffic.
I lost a lot of confidence in my driving after enforced inability to drive after both knee replacements. Prior to that I'd happily driven all over the country.

I still drive. I think it's important to keep it up, as you never know when an emergency might arise and you need the car.
I will confess that driving at night worried me a little. I have cataracts growing, and headlights and road signs are glaring more than they used to. I'm okay on roads I k ow well, but prefer not to drive in the dark if we are going somewhere unfamiliar.
Use it, or lose it!

Strangely enough, this topic cropped up in a conversation I had with a work colleague recently.
He's been on his own for a number of year's and has taken the plunge into online dating.
He said that the first thing he's asked is usually "do you drive and/or do you have a car".
We don't live in a rural area and are actually quite well served with public transport....I can only think it's to be driven around!!

How shortsighted of "Margaret" to not use her driving skills. I don't particularly like driving but do to keep my hand in.