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What did your parents think?

(96 Posts)
MissAdventure Tue 14-Jan-20 15:50:17

When they first met your husband/wife?
My mum always had a love/hate relationship with my ex.
Apparently he took great big steps all around her living room (one of her reasons!)

Calendargirl Tue 14-Jan-20 16:02:07

I think they liked him.

kircubbin2000 Tue 14-Jan-20 16:04:50

Didn't like him, researched his past and heard he was a drinker.

GrannyGravy13 Tue 14-Jan-20 16:05:52

Definitely liked, had lots of multi-generation holidays, always spent time together over Christmas, Easter and birthdays.

MissAdventure Tue 14-Jan-20 16:07:40

Were they right, kircubbin?

threexnanny Tue 14-Jan-20 16:08:01

He got on well with Dad immediately, but took longer with Mum.

M0nica Tue 14-Jan-20 16:08:09

Definitely liked - and did until the day they died - and trusted him and consulted him about any work they were thinking of having done to the house.

MiniMoon Tue 14-Jan-20 16:08:30

I'm sure they liked him. They always seemed happy to see him. I think they were relieved when he asked me to marry him. I was 29 and they must have thought that I was never going to find a man.

TrendyNannie6 Tue 14-Jan-20 16:09:48

They liked him from day one, welcomed him into the family treated him like a son and it continued until they both passed away, he had a lot of respect for them too and called them mum n dad

Grammaretto Tue 14-Jan-20 16:10:34

DM adored him. She loved her in-laws better than her own children. That's what she said anyway and it certainly worked as they were all good to her!

Grammaretto Tue 14-Jan-20 16:12:02

MiniMoon grin

sharon103 Tue 14-Jan-20 16:15:45

They loved him. We married April 1975. (Shotgun) Mum said I was a lucky girl. In another breathe she said she didn't think it would last although she hoped it would.
He cleared off in January 1987 with someone he worked with. Divorced January 1987 sad

Jane10 Tue 14-Jan-20 16:19:32

Not keen but put a brave face on it.

JackyB Tue 14-Jan-20 16:40:43

They never criticised. My father was very pro-German, so he approved of my marrying a German.

jura2 Tue 14-Jan-20 16:42:12

My mum adored my OH, he could do no wrong. My dad liked him but was always a bit in awe of him. Mum spoke perfect English, dad did not.

knickas63 Tue 14-Jan-20 16:43:15

They liked him, and he loved them. My mother mothered him.

silverlining48 Tue 14-Jan-20 16:51:07

My mum loved him and he loved her.

Sara65 Tue 14-Jan-20 17:06:31

They didn’t speak to him for two years, they strongly disapproved because he was divorced, a teenage marriage which lasted about a year.

Fast forward forty five years, and I haven’t spoken to her for twenty years, while he still visits her with the children now and then.

ginny Tue 14-Jan-20 17:12:09

My Mum disliked him at first but ended up loving him as much as her own son. He ended up being closer to her than his own mother.

shysal Tue 14-Jan-20 17:13:43

They thought he wasn't good enough for me. They were probably right but I was determined to marry him. Divorced after about 35 years.

boheminan Tue 14-Jan-20 17:13:46

My dad hated my ex on first sight because ex didn't do a job that got his hands dirty (he was an academic) and my dad was a working class engineer with permanently dirty hands. They hardly ever spoke all the time my dad was alive.

sodapop Tue 14-Jan-20 17:15:21

My father was dead by then but my mother hated my husband as I was pregnant when I married. My family were staunch Methodists so no alcohol at the wedding, my husband's family could be heard asking loudly where the beer was. Not a union made in heaven.

Witzend Tue 14-Jan-20 17:15:33

Mind didn't like my dh, partly because of his (to them) too long hair and a very rough and rather smelly sheepskin jacket he'd picked up for peanuts on his travels, but largely because they thought he'd treated me badly.

By the time we married, about 7 years later, my father approved entirely, and my mother thought the sun shone out of his backside.

Yennifer Tue 14-Jan-20 17:21:33

Hated (mother and stepfather) but because they were abusive and controlling not because of him. Never sent him a birthday or Christmas card, never invited him anywhere, said he was rude and antisocial despite not inviting him and once offered to buy me a car if I left him x

FlexibleFriend Tue 14-Jan-20 17:36:57

My parents never met my Husband as they died in my early teens but I think they would have loved him and him them.