Love holidays
Hate the travel
Just wish I could click my fingers and be there
Things that (sometimes unreasonably) get on your nerves...hopefully lighthearted
Is there anyone else like me? I go on holiday because my husband loves travelling but I always feel a little stressed the whole time I am away. What I really like is being at home in my own space. We have been to some wonderful countries but, left to myself, I wouldn't go on holiday.
Love holidays
Hate the travel
Just wish I could click my fingers and be there
I much prefer to be at home in the garden, my partner on the other hand loves the sun and likes to sit in it all day. I dont like the heat and I burn very easily and I just cannot sit around all day, I like to explore. When we first met we had the 'annual' overseas holiday, I couldnt wait to get home. So now he does his thing with his hobby and I do mine at home with the cats and my garden.
BlueSapphire wow that's the way! Wish I felt like you!
Great to know others feel the same as I do. I have a lot of friends whose lives centre around holidays and planning them and I am really the odd one out! They don't understand why I am not enthusiastically planning the next one. DH loves hot sunny climes. I hate hot sunny climes!!
I used to hate going on holiday.
But I realise now that it was because I hated being with who is now my x.
Total turn around with new dh.
Can`t get away enough.
I love holidays, just not the build up, knowing what to pack. Making sure all the tickets are correct. Etc etc
me too i go because the family want too but i cant wait to get home id rather just have days out
I am the same. We have only ever been on short holidays, a few days. But I worried the whole time we were away, and often seemed to be poorly with something whenever we were going, anything from cystitis to a bad back to a bad cold. We haven' t been anywhere except on day trips for several years now and it's a relief. Best to keep it to theatre outings and cinema and the odd meal out, and day trips in summer. Much less stressful!
No, you are not odd at all. One man’s meat is another man’s poison.
I love travelling but that is usually because I’m going to visit family or friends. As I live in Malta, which is a pretty small island, it is nice to escape every three to four months. I don’t necessarily plan far in advance, sometimes it’s just spur of the moment and I’ve done it so often that it’s just second nature now.
When DH died I didn’t imagine I’d do so much travelling without him. He loved to travel so we nearly always went together, but I’ve found I can manage fine on my own, much as I wish he was still here.
My only problem is having to put my lovely dog in kennels. He is very happy there but the bill adds a substantial amount to my holidays. Still, I shall do it for as long as I’m able. Life is so short.
When my husband was at work, we rarely had the time to travel, he worked long hours had set holidays, and often these did not run at the same time as mine, so we were lucky to get away together for more than two weeks a year. We took up camping and after our daughters wanted to go boating for a week, we spent quite some time on the Norfolk Broads, then tok a liking to bigger boats once he retired and went on a few cruises. The tent camping graduated to a caravan, and we made up for lost time by touring around the Uk in our ready to go home from.home once he retired. Not much pre planning or packing required, just decide where we would like to go, and we can be hitched up off a couple of hours later. Its also nice to have allour own things around us, comfy bed, clean toilet and bathroom, warm and dry, and no long waits to check.in or worries about travel insurance or flight delays at the airports. We love it!
I love holidays but don’t like being away for more that 10 days. A weekend either side of a week is ideal for me.
It's funny that there's another thread running on the very opposite to this one.
bluesapphire I'm full of admiration of you. Please tell us, do you just book regular holidays as a single or go on organised trips for solos?
hate the travel, the preparation ,returning,sooner stay local.
i travel to see my son in ireland several times a year,i have done so for past 2 years.Last xmas i realised that i hate the journey etc,I realise that I'm going to see less of him,as i look ahead I realise I am soon going to have to make a decision of whether I am going to go and live near him.
families eh! Next time you go to any airport look how many older folk are travelling,there are not so many!
Most of my friends over 60 hate long journeys .
I quite enjoyed holidays when my dear husband was alive and well but now - no, I'd rather stay at home in the garden with a nice cup of tea whenever I want one.
I'm sometimes asked if I'd 'like to get away' but I don't want to go alone and I don't want to compromise either with other people's preferences - something I'd have to do as DH and I had our own way of doing things which suited us. I'm sure I'm considered odd but that doesn't bother me.
I thought I was the only one who also felt like this. My darling wife gets withdrawal symptoms if she goes more than three months without a holiday. And it must be abroad. She does not count a few days away in the UK a holiday it’s a little break. And as others have said the stress of going to the airport driving on the motorway. Even taking happy pills does not help. However when we do go on holiday, i love it when we get there. It is the stress of going and returning I find tiresome. Looking out of the window now I’m still in my PJ and my wife still in bed. Can’t do much with this storm. Aah well I’ll make our first coffee of the day. ttfn. Ps love all your comments and I do feel I am not alone.
I love the planning,and i love the actual holiday,but yes,the dread of having to do the packing in the run up to holiday usually results in me doing at midnight before we set off!And the travelling,& airport,hate that bit too as am always wary we'l not be in time!
No, you are not odd at all. I love going to certain predictable places - western Scotland, and Newcastle where my daughter and grandson live. But I always feel anxious even before those trips, and always feel sad about leaving home...then when it's time to return from the holiday place, I feel sad to leave that...even to the point of tears on occasion. Newcastle is an hour away by train!!!! I've known of folks who never go on holiday due to the unsettling nature of these feelings. Interesting that you are fine once you're at the holiday destination...so am I. I loathe moving house too but as soon as I've moved, the previous place is history!
P.s.Dibble- please dont take 'happy pills' before driving on motorway,im sure thats dangerous for everyone involved,and part of what makes me nervous when on motorway even though im not the one driving!(its my 21 yr old son& i worry whenever hes out in car.And no he does not take pills,and hes tee total,but i tell him,"its the others on roads youve to watch too"
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Suggest he goes on his own
I love going somewhere we know well but get stressed travelling somewhere new. I think that is natural.
I always take far too much stuff with me even when I know where I am going. Yet if we get a cheap booking without a hold luggage allowance I cope admirably. Never understand that. ?
When I was teaching full time, I would book short European city breaks and week long trips as a way of escaping from the job and household routines.
Since retiring and moving to the country, I don’t feel the need to go off on holiday anymore.
I find the build up so stressful. The packing, arranging to have the house looked after, making sure that no food will go off in the fridge, getting up at the crack of dawn to catch a flight, the crowds in the airport, the actual flight! It's only the next day when we are settled in our hotel room that the tension leaves me. I wonder why we bother.
I'm all right once I get to our destination, but I hate all the preparation and leaving the cat to be looked after by someone else.
I tend too to worry about what might go wrong at home while we are away.
For me, the end has to justify the means. I would endure any amount of discomfort for certain holidays, but not to sit on a beach.
I'm not one for holidays either, so I don't think you're odd at all! I just love being home. And as others have said, the thought of all that packing, and hanging about at airports, doesn't excite me either. But then I was an RAF wife for a number of years in the days when we had bases all over the world, so I've seen a fair bit as 'home'. Maybe that used up all my wanderlust! I'm retired now, widowed, and life is one long holiday anyway.
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