Is revenge sweet?

Wasnt there a woman on tv( news or something?) who had sold her ex's very expensive car for 50p?

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If it was easier to forgive we would not want revenge.But it is impossible to forgive when the wrongdoer does not seek forgiveness.

Exposure is revenge and it is not "sinking low" it is protecting others from the same fate

Grandad1943
I agree with Pheobes. Sticking my head above the parapet here - I don't want men on Gransnet, I like the fact that it is mostly grans! Nothing personal against you, I just want a woman's forum

I have never physically done anything as revenge but I have a way of making things happen, my family think I am a witch.
People that cross me often have minor accidents or unpleasant things happen to them, my father used to tell me it happened to him too. He used to say "be careful what you wish for".

When relationships break up because of domestic abuse or in particular coersive abuse the abuser is usually very reluctant to lose control of his "victim". In most of these cases the abuser is male. To him the break up is a public annoucement of behaviour he wants to keep concealed and he will lie to everyone to try and keep his "good public image".

Victims of domestic violence & coersive abuse are very traumatised when she/he finally manages to leave. They need counselling for a log time, while the abuser will never change, he will carry on with his life, abusing one partner after another. His motto is "carry on as if nothing happened and lie if the truth tries to emerge".

Some victims of this sort of abuse have found an act of revenge (with no one physically hurt) helps their healing. Some have even gone on TV to describe the horrific abuse they experienced.

A work colleague with an entitled attitude would make frequent unpleasant comments to me but I always remained polite towards her.

One evening I was with a couple friends in a very popular restaurant when this colleague showed up with another person looking for a table. After being told there were none available, she pointed to me and said that as she knew me she was sure I wouldn't mind them joining our table!

The waiter approached and when asked I smiled sweetly at her - and said I had never seen her before in my life ?

Would revenge make you feel better?

Phoebes this forum is not exclusively for women, not just for grandmothers either, despite the name.
Men are Grandparents too but there don't seem to be many men on here.

Any man is welcome to contribute to this thread with stories of revenge on a cheating partner or others who may have done them a wrong!

Revenge can feel sweet,but in the long term it's best to live a good life life ,the Buddhists talk about digging two graves in regard to revenge,one for them one for yourself.

I don't want to get revenge - though I could well argue that I'd be 'fully entitled' to seek it. But its not who I want to be - I don't want to keep carrying resentment and anger and I believe revenge is a way of keeping those feelings alive. Its like scratching a mosquito bite - it feels really great at the time! But it makes it worse in the long run. I do feel for people who've been badly treated - but maybe revenge is not the best way ahead for their lives over time. Talk to someone who can help you resolve the feelings and work out a dignified and principalled way ahead.

I did something to cause inconvenience and expense to someone who caused me a problem. I’m too ashamed to elaborate, but I regretted it almost as soon as I’d done it and I’ve regretted it ever since.

When my ex was leaving me and 4 children for a younger model, friends suggested bricks through Windows, slashing tyres etc but I couldn't do any of those. I did sell the gold wedding ring that he stopped wearing years previously, for the grand sum of £4 (1970's). Weeks later when he collected all is clothes he asked if I knew where the ring was. I replied that I'd no idea. It had probably been resold or melted down by then. Naughty I know but made me feel a tiny bit better.

I read one revenge story where a woman whose man had cheated, bought a large kiddy paddling pool, put it in the living room, blew it up then filled it to the brim and left. Seemed like a lot of hard work and expense.

Petty nonsense

Grandad 1943: There is a reason why this is “Gransnet” not “Grandparents net”. Why not set up your own forum for men and don’t criticise ours?

Notanan2 I agree, I know of many people who are not particularly nice and selfish and greedy towards others but sail through life unaffected by their actions. The funny thing is, is they seem to have a lot of followers to who accept their nastiness rather than be the victim

I heard of a woman who discovered that her husband was having an affair. On the day she left him she cut out the crotches of all his trousers.

It is very noble of some grans to say that they would simply rise above the wrong their men had done them, but that does not teach the perpetrator a lesson. Stinky fish behind a radiator does.

Many years ago, I was doing a temp job for a clothing importer brand, recording all the new season's orders from dress shops. We were a happy, hard-working team of about five people from different backgrounds - but our clearly affluent employers were consistently vile, barking orders at us and endlessly complaining. Towards the end of the shortish contract, we all systematically tweaked a few of the orders, so that if Celeste Ladies Fashions had ordered 4 jumpers in size 14 lilac, and 2 in 16 in beige, they got 3 in size 12 green and 3 in size 16 apricot. By the time the shops unpacked the deliveries, phoned to complain, and then returned the unwanted ones, we were long gone...

Three years ago I fell out with my friends husband,over the fact of him controlling her,and every aspect of her life.To much to go into here,but he “saw” an e mail on her I pad where I’d pointed out his failings( said he was cleaning it) ?dont believe it.He came to our house confronted me ,so I told him what I thought of him,she threatens to leave him and he just cries ( ( control tactic) He put his hands on my neck.?She took his side and we haven't spoken since.I loath him,they live locally, I dread going out,as need the toilet quickly just the sight of both of them.Very inconvenient.I had posted to him a voodoo doll,with a knife through the heart.Initially I felt triumphant, but that wore off.Old Chinese saying Having revenge you “Dig two graves”We are moving house.So hopefully I will feel better then.

The best revenge is to live a happy and successful life.

Trisha Goddard used to say, “ the best revenge is success”, otherwise you’re just reducing yourself to the original level.

The most I did, when I split up from my ex - after him going out until 2 or 3 am while I was pregnant and after my son was born, after 6 months of this continuing "habit" went out one night and didn't come home until lunch time the next day. He told me that he had had too much to drink, so stayed round a friends but told his workmate that he had stayed at a motel for the night! He eventually moved out, and in with another female workmate - who he had previously claimed he couldn't stand!
When I left our house to come back home to the UK, I first of all turned off the heater for the waterbed , had second thoughts and drained all of the water out of it (it would have cost only about $40 to re fill it as we were on a water meter) I also found one of his smelly socks under the bed, so tucked that in the pocket of his best suit and made sure that his wardrobe door was well closed.
Only a couple of little things, but made me feel a lot better !!!

It doesn’t feel right but by God it feels good..