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Divorced.Remarried.o r still with your first love

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TrendyNannie6 Tue 11-Feb-20 08:23:19

Having a conversation with some friends last week, we were discussing how many of us have been divorced, we are four friends in our fifties and sixties, all four of us have remarried, one friend on her third marriage, not one of us could think of any other friends that were still with their first loves,

GrandmaMoira Tue 11-Feb-20 09:35:25

I was divorced, remarried and widowed. The majority of my friends have been divorced (though not many widowed in their 50s as I was).

CassieJ Tue 11-Feb-20 09:41:58

Married at 17, together 25 years then divorced. Married second time, together 10 years and again divorced.

That's it for me, not going through it again smile

Juno56 Tue 11-Feb-20 09:42:27

Not my first love, my then fiance died when I was 21. I met my husband when I was 25. We have two children and have been married for 39 years. Not always happily but there have always been more reasons to stay together than to part.

dragonfly46 Tue 11-Feb-20 09:47:22

Yes married my first real love at 22 and been married 52 years this year.
We weren't married in church as I did not believe but lasted all the same and I wouldn't swap him!
My parents were married 73 years before my Dad died.
Only one set of our friends is divorced.

Marmight Tue 11-Feb-20 10:10:01

Not my first love. Married for 38 years to the kindest, gentle man, - good looking too! father to our 3 girls, until he died 8 years ago. Our daughters are all happily married. My parents were married for 56 years. Only divorces in the family are my 3 male cousins on my Dad’s side. I’d quite like another man in my life but am becoming used to being on my own, although the loneliness is hard to bear sometimes. He’d have to be pretty special!

henetha Tue 11-Feb-20 10:13:10

Married for 32 years. Then divorced. Then lived with a partner, (on and off) for 17 years. Became friendly with ex-husband again until he died.

threexnanny Tue 11-Feb-20 13:14:49

Still married to first 'real' love. Both sets of parents remained together, and so far, both AC are still with their spouses.

crazyH Tue 11-Feb-20 13:21:49

Divorced.....congratulations to all those who have long marriages - well done !!!

Nortsat46 Tue 11-Feb-20 13:30:04

With my partner for 44 years, he was my first ‘proper’ boyfriend.
We got married in 2014, post my diagnosis of uterine cancer.

Our lives are not ‘picture perfect’ but we’re still happy. ?

glammanana Tue 11-Feb-20 13:33:23

I married young at 19 and divorced by 22 such a huge mistake but we stayed friendly over the years,remarried my lovely husband when I was 26 and sadly he has recently died after 44yrs of marriage he was my rock and a wonderful man in everything he did for me and our family.

Roses Tue 11-Feb-20 13:41:57

Met my DH at sixteen married him when I was twenty one .
We had two wonderful children who were still young when DH became really ill .I nursed him for fourteen years , and he died twenty years ago.
I have never wanted another relationship as I couldn't cope with being a carer again as it really took its toll on me

callgirl1 Tue 11-Feb-20 17:54:59

Not my first love. We married in 1963 when I was 20 and he was 19. We were married for just over 53 years when he died over 3 years ago. Don`t want to marry again. Out of our 5 children, 4 have been married, 3 have divorced and married again.

Sara65 Tue 11-Feb-20 17:59:06

Quite a few of our friends have divorced, but usually after a couple of years or so, in our circle second marriages seems to do better.

M0nica Tue 11-Feb-20 18:05:30

Reading how young so many of you were when you married reminds me of how young people did get married in the 1960s and 70s. I married at 24 and had my first child at 28 and was considered an 'elderly' prima gravida.

How things have changed DS married at 31, his wife was 34, her first marriage as well and she had her first child when she was 37 and the medical authorities didn't bat an eyelid. She was, after all, under 40.

BBbevan Tue 11-Feb-20 18:14:55

55 years and counting .Met DH at art school. ❤️❤️

Lins1066 Tue 11-Feb-20 18:33:14

Married my first love when I was 22 and he was 26, that was in 1977. We married in church and are still happily married, 43 years in July. Two children, one is married - just, about to be divorced. Parents in law were married for 71 years, they died last year. We have had ups and downs over the years and latterly illness, we have survived. He has always been my best friend, apart from loving him, I like him - not his smelly socks though. ?
Nearly all our friends are still married, one of DH's cousins divorced and remarried years ago, second marriage was very happy until she sadly passed away.

chrissyh Tue 11-Feb-20 18:34:19

I married my first love and we celebrate our Golden Wedding in April. We were both just 22. MOnica remarked on how young a lot of us were, which I think was because not many couples lived together before they were married. I was married for 10 years before having our first baby (my choice) which was certainly right for us. I love him even more now than I did then.

Cherrytree59 Tue 11-Feb-20 18:35:04

Love at first sight ?
39 years in October.
2 children.
3 grandchildren

Hoping to follow in my both sets of grandparents in a long happy marriages ?

Curlywhirly Tue 11-Feb-20 18:43:48

Met DH when we were both 16, married at 20. First son born 9 years later, followed 3 years later by second son. Only one of our group of friends is divorced, all the others have been married 40 years and over. We have had our ups and downs - we are very different personalities and can drive each other mad - but we have the same beliefs and do have lots in common. He's been my rock, and the first person our children turn to with any problems (well, that's practical problems; any emotional problems, then it's me they ring!).

rafichagran Tue 11-Feb-20 18:46:34

Married Divorced, in long term relationship with my now partner. We will not marry.

Scentia Tue 11-Feb-20 18:46:51

Still with my first love, in fact my first kiss was from him too. I have never kissed another man properly or slept with another man. 30 years married and counting

Grandmaof2 Tue 11-Feb-20 19:19:31

Been going through divorce for nearly 2 years now. Be glad when its finally over, was with him for 12 years. Just want to get on with my life and move on to better things as its been at a standstill for the past 5 years since we split

janeainsworth Tue 11-Feb-20 19:28:34

Not my first boyfriend, but celebrating our Golden Wedding this year smile

NanKate Tue 11-Feb-20 19:36:34

Not my first love. I was warned by my parents not to marry my DH but we’ve proved them all wrong and coming up for 49 years this October. ?

JuliaM Tue 11-Feb-20 19:44:46

Married at 19 to escape an unhappy situation at home, far too soon and to the first man who asked. I have three children with him, but he was a serial cheat and womaniser, we divorced 10 years later. We split up in the July, by Halloween l had met my second husband, by Christmas we were engaged, and the following February we were Married. All my friends and family thought l was crazy, but we are now still together 34years and two more Daughters later, and have had a very happy life.