Divorced.Remarried.o r still with your first love

Married at 17 and still together, I'll be 65 this year. We've had our ups and downs, but on the whole not bad .... Wouldn't change him

@Monica, in the 1970s I was an ‘elderly primigravida’ too, first baby at 28, married at 25.
We’d first met when I was 19 though.
45th anniversary last year.
He’s not a bad old bugger - I’m hanging on to him!

I married at 19 and we are still going well 44 years later.

DH was my first love met when I was 16 and he was 17, we will celebrate our Golden wedding anniversary next year.

First love.
I was 16y and he was 19y. Married at 20y in 1974.
He had long hair and sideburns.
Platform shoes.
When the fashion changed we were the same height! 5’8”.
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46y married this year.
He is witty and makes me laugh.
My mum used to say ‘he could make a cat laugh’.
Makes me smile when I think of her saying that.
I can’t believe how old we look to one another now.
I used to be under 9st.
There’s 50% more to appreciate these days!
They say opposites attract. I think that’s true. Yin & yang.

I met my husband in 1978, when I was 18, he was 19. We've been married 40 years this May.

Married at 19 and still going strong 44 years later. Some friends are divorced but most are not. Funnily enough, those friends (and family) who are still married to their first husbands tend to be the couples who married very young.

Witzend, we met at 18. It just took another six years of playing the field to realise that we were best together!

We've been married 52 years next Monday. We have our moments but we are well suited, both awkward **, so we deserve each other

Not my first love but definitely my best.He was right under my nose in a group of friends whilst I was dating someone else for several years then I suddenly realised just how kind and lovely,and attractive he was.Fortunately he had been waiting for me. 38 years later and no regrets.Our closet ,oldest friends are all still married but several others have divorced over the years.

My story is very nearly the same as Urmstongran’s - we're the same age and have been married for the same length of time. I can’t really believe it! Only difference is no platform shoes - he’s already a foot taller than me! ?
We’ve had ups and downs but I don’t think anybody else on the planet could have put up with me. We talk all the time and I often feel sorry for couples in restaurants who seem to have nothing to say to each other ...

I love these threads.

Granny23 I loved the second para of your post!

Been married for 50 years and nearly all of our friends have also remained married for a similar length of time. I made a lucky choice I guess - I had no idea what I was doing at 25!

Married at 20, not first love. 51 years so far and still having fun. 4 DC all married. Remarkable In-laws just celebrated 75years married.
One or 2 divorces in extended family but we feel very lucky.
I loved your post granny23

I’d had several boyfriends but wouldn’t say I loved any of them.

DH had been married before, was eleven years my senior, and the love of my life. We were very happily married for 35 years, produced four lovely kids, and were planning lots more adventures together in retirement. Sadly, fate had other plans and he died of cancer almost five years ago.

There is no way I could or would want another man. I’ve had the best and consider myself very fortunate. Oh how I miss him, though.

I had a two boyfriends before DH, one wanted to marry me, but I realised I didn't love him enough to marry him, so ended the relationship. That was very difficult, as he was devestated and I felt so guilty, but I knew it was the right thing to do.

The first time I saw DH, I knew he was the one. We were engaged after three months, (45 years ago tomorrow), married a year later, when I was 22 and still together 45 years later.

He drives me mad at times, but I wouldn't change him for anything. He has been there for me, supporting me through many health scares, never complains about the limitations on what we can now do together and we still enjoy each other's company, sharing the same values and quirky humour.

45 years for us. I don’t think I could cope without him. He makes me laugh, he drives me mad, he’s my unflinching support through thick and thin. He’s a kind, caring, loving annoying man. He is a wonderful dad. He’s a keeper.

We have been together for 48 years this year - I was 15 when I set my sights on, and won, him!

Married when I was 23 and DH was 26. Celebrate 40 years next year. 5 children. Wouldn't swop him for anything!

There are many pathways to happiness and often we outgrow our early loves. Life is always about change. In my 70th year I have been happily 'living in sin' for nearly 15 years with a lovely, gentle man. We both have past relationships and prior lives and we respect that. We met online, are great friends and loving and involved parents and grandparents of six children, their assorted partners and eleven grandchildren. Life is good.

Escaped after 25 years. Divorced and was never going to get married again. Then met DH. It was love at first sight. The only way I can describe it is that we'd always known each other but were just waiting to meet again.

Married my first love in 1975, we were both almost 22.

Sadly, after 9 years and 2 children, he came out as gay and left.
I often wonder if we would still be together if he hadn't been gay. The rare occasions I do see him now, I realise we are both so different people.

Two years later I re-married. Big mistake on my part! I stuck it out, hoping to make it work, but we divorced after 15 years.

I now have a lovely partner, kind, thoughtful and gentle. We met when I was 59 and he was 61, so it is never too late to find the right one. Have been together 8 years in May, and living together almost 7 years.

How lovely to read of these long, happy marriages! ❤️

For me, married at 18. My mother gave us six months, in 1972. We like to say we’ve only stayed together to annoy her. Four children, three married, no divorces, five GC.

None of our siblings is divorced. No nieces or nephews are divorced, (although one should be, they should get rid of that waste of space ). One niece with a long-standing partner, the father of her child. Second niece same, with father of her two children. Third niece had one child with first partner then a series of partners. Not in a relationship now.

Very few of our friends are divorced, I could count them on one hand.

The majority of my friends are widowed. I’m divorced, 30 years ago, and after an unhappy marriage I never wanted to form any relationship with a man again.
I admire couples who have stayed together for many years and seeing an old couple holding hands is lovely because nobody has ever held mine, apart from the many children in my life.

Divorced and living with a lovely OH! Sadly, I didn't marry the love of my life otherwise I may never have got divorced!