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Divorced.Remarried.o r still with your first love

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TrendyNannie6 Tue 11-Feb-20 08:23:19

Having a conversation with some friends last week, we were discussing how many of us have been divorced, we are four friends in our fifties and sixties, all four of us have remarried, one friend on her third marriage, not one of us could think of any other friends that were still with their first loves,

threexnanny Tue 11-Feb-20 13:14:49

Still married to first 'real' love. Both sets of parents remained together, and so far, both AC are still with their spouses.

henetha Tue 11-Feb-20 10:13:10

Married for 32 years. Then divorced. Then lived with a partner, (on and off) for 17 years. Became friendly with ex-husband again until he died.

Marmight Tue 11-Feb-20 10:10:01

Not my first love. Married for 38 years to the kindest, gentle man, - good looking too! father to our 3 girls, until he died 8 years ago. Our daughters are all happily married. My parents were married for 56 years. Only divorces in the family are my 3 male cousins on my Dad’s side. I’d quite like another man in my life but am becoming used to being on my own, although the loneliness is hard to bear sometimes. He’d have to be pretty special!

dragonfly46 Tue 11-Feb-20 09:47:22

Yes married my first real love at 22 and been married 52 years this year.
We weren't married in church as I did not believe but lasted all the same and I wouldn't swap him!
My parents were married 73 years before my Dad died.
Only one set of our friends is divorced.

Juno56 Tue 11-Feb-20 09:42:27

Not my first love, my then fiance died when I was 21. I met my husband when I was 25. We have two children and have been married for 39 years. Not always happily but there have always been more reasons to stay together than to part.

CassieJ Tue 11-Feb-20 09:41:58

Married at 17, together 25 years then divorced. Married second time, together 10 years and again divorced.

That's it for me, not going through it again smile

GrandmaMoira Tue 11-Feb-20 09:35:25

I was divorced, remarried and widowed. The majority of my friends have been divorced (though not many widowed in their 50s as I was).

Smileless2012 Tue 11-Feb-20 09:27:49

Mr. S. was my first love and we celebrate our Ruby wedding anniversary this year.

MrsEggy Tue 11-Feb-20 09:26:43

Met DH when I was 21, married in 1964, still happily together. None of my friends of the same age have been divorced, though some sadly widowed. Is this a generation thing? We were all married in church, and thought long and hard before marrying, and saved for years to afford a home.

MawB Tue 11-Feb-20 09:18:53

Granny23 what a lovely post and uplifting tribute!
How lovely that he still recognises you and can tell you he loves you. ?
PawB and I met at a party in our first term at St Andrews in 1966, married three weeks after graduation in 1970 and survived the vicissitudes of marriage with all its ups and some serious downs until we said “goodbye” in November 2017.sad
It wasn’t always perfect, it it was the best.

BlueSky Tue 11-Feb-20 09:18:31

Happily remarried to my second lovely DH. Can't believe how two men can be so different. As they say a second marriage is the triumph of hope over experience.

gillybob Tue 11-Feb-20 09:17:49

Divorced, remarried, widowed and remarried

3 times in all. shock

Hetty58 Tue 11-Feb-20 09:16:08

Divorced, remarried, widowed and several long term relationships - so fairly average I think.

EllanVannin Tue 11-Feb-20 09:10:25

I was married at 19 and sadly lost my H in 1994 when I was 54 after 35 years and have never bothered since . Too busy with work and family since and because I looked after H through his illness I didn't want to repeat the process again in later years----selfish, I know but I was jiggered back then.

D in Oz married her first boyfriend and they'll be celebrating 40 years of marriage next year.

Harris27 Tue 11-Feb-20 09:10:04

Married at 17 had three sons and have been married for 43 years in April. Not all sunshine and roses but been a good run! Might keep him a bit longer ha ha?

paddyanne Tue 11-Feb-20 09:06:44

change him for the world,bloomin keyboard

tanith Tue 11-Feb-20 09:05:48

Divorced my first love after 20yrs he’s since died, remarried my dear friend and love who sadly died 18 mths ago after nearly 30 happy years. I’m happy being alone now.

paddyanne Tue 11-Feb-20 09:04:57

Married at 21 ,we've worked and lived together every day since.I'll be 66 in March .I woudn't hange him for the world.

kittylester Tue 11-Feb-20 09:04:55

Not first love but definitely the enduring one.

Anniebach Tue 11-Feb-20 09:01:21

None of the above

Widowed 44 years ago, took time to come to terms with it,
Daughters very young, as they reached high school age elder
daughter didn’t want me to marry again. Years passed and I
got use to being on my own. I regret that now.

Sara65 Tue 11-Feb-20 08:58:55

Had a very turbulent two year relationship in my late teens, very much in love at the time, but a very nasty ending

Married a very good friend a couple of years later, and have been married for forty two years.

TrendyNannie6 Tue 11-Feb-20 08:58:18

That’s so lovely to hear Harrigan, I have four children and 3 are still going strong with first relationships, mines second husband, and happily married, my parents were first loves and married for 56 years until died, lovely post too Auntieflo

Trudy1925 Tue 11-Feb-20 08:57:39

Married at 19, two lovely children by 25. Divorced after 9 years then married DH 27 years ago - after being married to a selfish man, I appreciate my loving DH so much and we’re very content though the repercussions from splitting when children very young affected my dear AC thus me, for years ahead.

Auntieflo Tue 11-Feb-20 08:52:12

We met when I was 16, DH was 19. Married when I was 19, and he was 21, and we are still together almost 59 years later.

Granny23 Tue 11-Feb-20 08:51:58

Not quite my first love - I had 2 or 3 boyfriends before I met him - but knew he was 'the one' the minute I first saw him and spoke to him. We have been married 54 years, He is now in a nearby Care Home (advanced Dementia). Sometimes he is 'lights on but no one at home' but most days he knows who I am, He clings tightly to my hand, makes me laugh and I get a cuddle and a wee cheeper.

One day I crept up on him from behind and threw my arms around him. He pushed me away, glared at me and announced, "I am a very happily married man". then he recognised me and apologised. Says it all really.