I have become invisible

Dear Sparkling

I absolutely completely understand where you’re coming from I am over 70 now and things I had are gone such as my career being as active as I used to be etc. What I have found solace in is being able to be by myself and be OK because I cannot change those around me I cannot make others speak to me I cannot invent being important any longer so I am fine within myself-easier said than done I know but it’s OK. Life is a funny thing and we get to be a huge part of it And that part diminishes somewhat as we get older. I try to give my time to those that are beloved by me and for me that is good enough and I truly do hope you can find this as well.

Well my family have always been only part of my life. I worked most of my adult life. The only break when my children were under 5. I also had hobbies and outside intersts.

One of the things DH and I were always agreed on was that we kept up our outside interests after marriage and despite children, and in his case a demanding career that had him constantly away from home. So as family made less demands on me the gap was quickly filled by other activities I was involved in. Since I was involved in lots of organisations, on committees etc, I always had a sense of self, and invisbility didn't really enter in to it.