Do we need a Nice Nansnet?

After years on GN, I have only recently been insulted but will be avoiding any posts I see with a certain poster on.

Sparklefizz. That really is unforgivable having been told clear off etc!

Pleased you decided to stay. ?

Oh, thank you, Kalu. x

I am afraid forums attract "keyboard Warriors", Their only object is to be contentious and insulting. Gransnet has a couple of these; best ignored as they are only looking for a row!

I know my opinions are very often the opposite of most on here but I dont say things for affect.I reaally do feel out of step with a lot of gransnetters and I wont be changing to suit them any day soon.I can think of nothing worse than a "nice nans net" I once dumped a boyfriend because he was too sugary sweet and nicey nicey ,I couldn't live with someone like that or be part of that type of forum .If you cant say what you believe on an anonymous forum then whats the point of having the forum at all .

I think it's not so much the honesty that is the problem with some posting styles, but the harshness and brutality of some posts. I have in mind a particular poster, who is certainly very outspoken and absolutely sure that their political views are absolutely correct, and who comes down like a tonne of bricks on anyone who differs in their opinions. There's a world of difference between being able to argue a point with vigour and just demolishing the other persons point of view completely.

Sparklefizz good that you weren’t put off GN?

I don’t think we need another forum, as there are many good supportive threads when a member needs them.

It is an absolute nuisance though when one poster decides to totally disrupt an otherwise rather nice thread, with meandering malicious mutterings!

When I first joined Gransnet I compared it favourably with mumsnet as it seemed so much more tolerant, kind and mature. I hope it isn’t changing.

Perhaps the things I say are too bland to attract attention because I have never yet received a personal attack.

Sometimes I wonder if the people insulting others would talk in quite the same way in real life. It is easy to hide behind a keyboard.

I enjoy Gransnet but, if a thread is full of pointless arguments and personal attacks, I just stay away from it.

You're right about soops kitchen morethan. I went on there a couple of days ago and it's great. Can't recommend it highly enough.

I agree Chewbacca some posts are unnecessarily harsh and brutal but lemongrove's right too, there are some wonderful support threads with kind and caring GN's.

I've made some really good friends here on GN and you're one of them Chewbacca.

Thanks lemon
As Chewbacca says, it's the posting style, plus a couple of people seem to go out of their way to deliberately hurt and insult and put down .... but as someone said further back, these horrible comments say more about the poster.

The problem with internet forums is that you can't see body language or hear a tone of voice, so misinterpretation is much easier online than reality.