Will you leave a letter?

I have already done that I wrote one when I was in my 40 s and had a health scare that turned out to be nothing I ve written another since and they are both with my paperwork

My parents didn’t but I have the last birthday card my Dad wrote to me with a lovely message it was literally 2 weeks after my birthday that he died It is now framed on my bedroom wall and I often read that short message which just says To my darling daughter ——, Heaps of love Dad xxx
in his beautiful handwriting that never changed in all his 92 years
It’s precious to me

I have typed a list of will and bank account details, people to contact, funeral wishes (for none) etc., and just added a short paragraph at the end saying that being a mother and grandmother has been my greatest joy.

I hadn't thought of this until now. (Even though DH and I have each completed our LPAs and are also in the process of doing "end of life" statements.) Thanks, Artdecogran, for raising this issue. I'll certainly want to do "a letter".

Oh, I see.

No, I saw what a friend had put on FB recently, saying tell me you love me now, don't come to my funeral saying how you meant to say that.

No, I won't, although I am thinking of sticking labels on everything, eg, do not put this in the skip, send to charity; do not bin, give this to the craft group etc etc.

I think it’s a lovely thing to do and something I probably will do yes.

It would never occur to me, unless there was a very specific reason. I tell them how much I love them, respect and admire them regularly, I do not need to let them know after the event,

I think writing a letter and leaving it with your will etc is a nice idea. We all hope to have comforting conversations with our loved ones before we die, but if you get hit by the Number 7 bus on the way home - that might not happen.

Yes, I would like to leave letters to each one - just thanking them for the different ways they have brought happiness in my life. I could write volumes on the worries they have brought me, but my final letter will focus on the positive .

I've been thinking about leaving my kids a letter, they were also very upset their Dad hadn't left anything for them. I've already bought a book of poems and included it in my will pack for each of my best friends, I will be including a letter with that.

I hope your letter from your Mum isn't upsetting Katyj. My auntie left me a letter with strict instructions not to open it but I couldn't resist - it was lovely. I'd better not go before her now, I hadn't even thought of writing her one!

No I won’t be leaving a letter. If I need to say anything I’d rather say it whilst I’m still able. My mum has left a letter for me,under strict instructions not to open until she has passed, I’m not looking forward to it, I would think it could be very upsetting.