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Smiley4 Wed 18-Mar-20 06:15:10

How worrying for you daffydilly.

Remember that you have a counter between you and a customer, stand a little further back, to increase that distance.
Having the virus on your hands does not mean you’re infected. Only if you touch your face so wear gloves, they Protect your hands and are a reminder. Can you wear a face mask?
I’m sure a pharmacy has precautions in place. But telling you that you can expect to get infected is not helpful especially when you have caring responsibilities.
One day, all this will be over, we are all afraid. But hopefully we can talk to each other about our fears, as you have done.

annep1 Wed 18-Mar-20 05:42:45

Someone on facebook posted a photograph of a son sitting outside the window while his dad, who was in isolation because of his health, sitting inside. They were chatting on their phones. I thought if was a great idea.

grannyactivist Tue 17-Mar-20 23:15:42

Daffydilly thanks for sharing your feelings about your situation, as you can see, it has helped others express their own, very real, concerns and dilemmas. These are tough times the country is going through and sometimes just saying out loud that we're struggling helps.

flowers for you and for Marydoll and gillybob

mumofmadboys Tue 17-Mar-20 22:56:03

Can you talk to your dad on the phone?

Daffydilly Tue 17-Mar-20 22:30:24

Thank you all. I've had a lovely long chat with my DS1 tonight, which has helped. I've spoken with dad, we've both had a few tears and I've told him I love him. I know I'm lucky, in so many ways, and I'm counting my blessings.

Tomorrow is another day. I'm going to be strong, kind and brave.

Just don't poke me with a stick, I might bite. ??

Or cry. ?

gillybob Tue 17-Mar-20 22:08:10

Oh Marydoll (and of course Daffydilly) I completely understand how you are both feeling .

I am trying to think about my dad in his 80’s who relies on me for almost everything . My grandson who needs me to take him to school, my baby granddaughter for whom I provide regular childcare , my DH who is still very poorly, my son who is convinced he has CV , my small business (on the verge of collapse) and my employees . It’s so overwhelming .

Tonight I feel so frightened for the future .

Marydoll Tue 17-Mar-20 22:01:02

BlueSky, thank you for your kind words, I will be fine, I was having a wobble, as it looks today as if my daughter's wedding next week is about to be cancelled. That finished me off after my GPs phone call.
Those who know me on here, know I'm a fighter, I will get through this.

Just like your name, there will be blues skies again! ?

BlueSky Tue 17-Mar-20 20:51:06

Marydoll so sorry to hear about your plight, if it's bad for us I can only imagine how it could be for people like yourself. Can you Skype your granddaughter? My DGC are in Australia so I know I won't be able to see them for the foreseeable future. We can only do what we are advised to do and hope for the best. flowers

Hetty58 Tue 17-Mar-20 20:45:08

The present situation is a tremendous worry for a lot of people. It's pointless, though, to worry about things that you can't change - or to fear the future. One day at a time, doing your best, is quite enough.

Marydoll Tue 17-Mar-20 20:23:24

Daffydilly ? What a dilemma for you.

I know exactly how you feel. I'm in tears tonight. After today, I don't think I will be seeing my wee granddaughter for some time or ever again, as my GP has banned me from going out or being in close contact with anyone.
He made it clear that I was in the most vulnerable group. I'm now catastrophising in my head and imagining the worst case scenario.

He also told me that all the pharmacies in town are overwhelmed and swamped with sick patients and it will get worse.
You are doing an amazing job, but me telling you that won't help you feel any less anxious or make things better.

Somehow, try to find some time for yourself, (easier said than done), but you can't help others, if you don't look after yourself first.

Daisymae Tue 17-Mar-20 19:41:49

This is going to be a difficult time for so many people. Life is going to different for everyone. All you can do is your best. Try to do something for you, listen to some music maybe? Watch a film? You do need some time out. Thank you for the work that you do, I am sure that your community appreciates it.

Daffydilly Tue 17-Mar-20 19:12:57

Today 18:36Daffydilly

I work in community pharmacy, full time. I'm tired, emotional and scared.

I have an eighty year old dad, living nearby. We lost my beautiful mum in September to cancer and dementia.

I'm in continuous, daily contact with poorly people. We have been told that we should fully expect to contract or carry coronavirus.

We have my dad over for dinner or we go to him at least two or three times a week, with visits and popping in at other times.

I have siblings an hour or two away, who have barely visited dad since mum died.

I feel overwhelmed and don't know if I should stay away from dad, to protect him. My husband has said he will ship for him. The thought that I might have hugged him for the last time is making me so sad. You never know when it's the last time.

I don't expect any answers, I'm just sharing.

Stay safe, everyone. X