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ninathenana Wed 25-Mar-20 15:10:01

Firstly I want to make it clear that I have every sympathy, gratitude and praise for all NHS, emergency services, carers and retail workers in the current situation.
There are however, people who are shall we say 'behind the scenes' I'm sure most of you will know someone like that.
My daughter is a team leader and works for a firm who organise supported living for vulnerable people. She is tearing her hair out on a daily basis trying to organise this whist several people are self isolating (of course they shoud if that's what they want)
Not helped by the likes of the guy who thought it funny to text her saying he woudn't be in when in fact he was at work and daughter spent 2 hrs trying to find cover for his shift ๐Ÿคฌ๐Ÿคฌ she is getting very little support from managers and is very stressed. She also has domestic problems and a history or depression. I know she is not special in this but at the moment I'm worried about her stress levels rather than her getting the virus.
Sorry, just needed to get that off my chest.

Jane10 Wed 25-Mar-20 15:13:25

Understandable ninathenana. It's another stress worrying about our adult children and their jobs and businesses and we can't help. I hope she somehow muddles through. It's the best we can all manage at times like this.

NotSpaghetti Wed 25-Mar-20 15:25:25

I have been stressed for days now about an isolating adult daughter who is living alone hundreds of miles away. She has symptoms so needs to.

I do think to say "of course they shoud if that's what they want" has a bit of a judgemental edge. I am truly sorry for your daughter but there are plenty who dont want to isolate that ought to whether they like it or not.

Her younger brother who appears totally healthy and has no symptoms is now having to isolate for 12 weeks.

It is true, the back-room jobs are unseen. Just as stressful, and important but not in sight.
Let's hope that after this virus we start to acknowledge that all people matter and contribute to the whole.

EllanVannin Wed 25-Mar-20 15:33:26

A crisis doesn't always bring out the best in some, does it ?

AGAA4 Wed 25-Mar-20 15:41:08

We are concentrating on the NHS staff at the moment and rightly so but we shouldn't forget about all those, who are still working to keep the country going. Not everyone can stay at home as their jobs are vital.

boheminan Wed 25-Mar-20 15:45:27

Yes, from me it's a Thank You to the bin men (they are all men here!). I fear what will happen if they disappeared off the streetsshock

ninathenana Wed 25-Mar-20 16:42:28


Obviously badly worded.
If it came across that way I apologise.
Not sure how else I could have worded it.

ninathenana Wed 25-Mar-20 16:45:38


SueDonim Wed 25-Mar-20 17:00:55

I think there are a lot - probably the majority - of people who are working their socks off to help get everyone through this. Iโ€™ve had such kind offers of support for my mum in her 90โ€™s, who is two hours drive away from me.

The bin men were here as usual today. I always thank the checkout staff in the supermarket but on my last visit I also said to the person that I really appreciated what she was doing to keep things going. She said she appreciated me saying that!

It costs nothing to be nice and it gives a warm glow to both parties. smile

GabriellaG54 Wed 25-Mar-20 17:06:33

I don't 'get' why persons who are prone to depression or home difficulties, apply for or are in jobs which are likely to be stressful. Why not change jobs?

GabriellaG54 Wed 25-Mar-20 17:08:03

Our refuse collectors haven't missed a collection in 9.5 years. Good lads.๐Ÿ‘

Jane10 Wed 25-Mar-20 17:08:22


ninathenana Wed 25-Mar-20 17:20:01

Gabriella she loves her job and is great at it.
The stress is only at this time. The same as the supermarket staff who are being shouted at and spat at and the nurses trying to cope with a lack of equipment.
Frankly what has "home difficulties" got to do with what job you do. She has been in this job 2 yrs and her domestic situation is recent.

GabriellaG54 Wed 25-Mar-20 17:35:44

Kudos to her for trying her best in difficult circumstances. ๐Ÿ’

Smileless2012 Wed 25-Mar-20 17:39:17

She's doing a great job ninathenana so please pass on some virtualflowers.

ninathenana Wed 25-Mar-20 17:43:02

Thank you Smileless how kind.

tinaf1 Wed 25-Mar-20 17:55:49

She should be applauded Ninathenana hope thing get easier for her , especially if she is under stress herself , ๐Ÿ’

Hetty58 Wed 25-Mar-20 18:51:58

NotSpaghetti, I'm puzzled by the brother isolating for 12 weeks. I thought it was 14 days.

NotSpaghetti Fri 27-Mar-20 16:52:46

12 weeks, Hetty58 is for the most vulnerable group. They are the ones who will likely need life support if they succumb.

NotSpaghetti Fri 27-Mar-20 16:55:30

Her brother appears pretty normal but has an inherited condition.