Do you find you're using the same 'language' as your mum ? I do....her long forgotten phrases keep coming our of my mouth ? & when I look at recent photos of me I can see my mum.... Spooky isn't it?
Is it me or am I getting mixed messages
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SubscribeMy Mother had set days to do cleaning, Monday - washing, Tuesday - ironing etc. When I was working I wasn't able to do that so everything was done at weekends.
Since retiring housework has had to be done around meeting friends etc. Now I am on lockdown I have found myself allocating certain cleaning to certain days - today it was bedrooms, hall and stairs. Am I the only one?
Do you find you're using the same 'language' as your mum ? I do....her long forgotten phrases keep coming our of my mouth ? & when I look at recent photos of me I can see my mum.... Spooky isn't it?
Just between us... When we moved house I knew I could not cope doing it all on my own (and why should we? My time has equal value to anyone else). So we divided the tasks and both work at it - at the same time. I am careful not to do 'mine' at different time otherwise it bleeds out back to it's all 'my' job. But set time and set areas work mean we both know the system. He knows what's expected and between us the house is generally good. Of course when busy, ill or exceptional reason we skip a week or nudge the time, but we understand the basic aim.
Now we’re on lockdown we decided to do weekend things as a weekday rota. What happened turned out to be washing Sunday evening, vacuum downstairs Monday + kitchen extra clean, vacuum upstairs Tuesday + bathroom extra clean. Rest of the week relax, though the kitchen always gets a wipe. So the weekend just moved to Monday/Tuesday. We enjoy a really restful weekend!
lol I love this thread
as I am recently widowed, and first time ever on my own, yes, never ever lived on my own.. I am struggling
always been "doing" something. and the impetus isn`t there, I want to! I have lots of things I can get on with,,but somehow..
anyone know how I can break through and be the busy bee I used to be
YES, MY MUM!
even memories, I can`t get out of recent memories when dh was ill and died.. I can`t get into the happy times/memories
but I swear my mum is here with me, though she died oh, nearly 50 years ago now
one thing. as I dry the cutlery, I dry and put straight into the cutlery drawer,, as I dry... don`t anyone tell me that is wrong
cos my mum used to tell me NO! and each time I do it.. and yes, I do it quite frequently.... I can hear her say.. DO NOT DO THAT. put them on the counter first..
and spreading butter, well it was marjerine.. (is that a g or a j?) back in the day.. to spread the crusts.
it is amazing how many people do not put the butter or marj
on the crusts.
so thank you for this thread,
and clean knickers every day!! even though we didn`t have dozens of them as we have now! my eyes just ventured up to the above post.. too long a name for me to try to write!
I would love clean sheets every day or even twice a week, but think of all the precious water that is being used and the extra detergent being pumped out, even hotels nowadays are trying to cut down on their washing by get guests to use towels more than once.
I've never liked routines and I haven't changed at all. I have more time, though, to notice things that need doing (like windows and tiles) but that doesn't mean they'll get done any time soon!
To be honest I do not know where people find time to do all the housework they seem to do. I just have so much else happening in life, even when housebound, as now, that housework has to fit into the interstices of life.
And what is the point, a house has to be pretty filthy to be a danger to the health of the occupants. I am just very tidy, and tidiness is a very efficient way of making a house look clean, even if it isn't. That is why we talk of houses being clean and tidy.
I decided many many years ago not to become my mother. I have not had a Sundsy dinner dince 1976
I promised myself that I wouldn't be a slave to my home. My husband and I are relaxed have a lot of hobbies and undertake tasks when they need doing. Our home is clean enough, doesn't smell and hygienic in the kitchen and bathroom. That'll do!
I never felt that I was like my mother at all. She was very creative and made dolls houses and she was also very political and became a potential libdem candidate. My only similarity is an interest in interior design and colour so similar to her I do a lot of the painting and decorating in the house.
I have absolutely no routine and do stuff as it needs done.
That means bathroom and kitchen done every day. Everything else as and when.
This morning I've put a wash on. The Sunnis shining so might also change the bed and get the linen on the line.
I have over ripe bananas so might bake a banana loaf. Also bought lovely rhubarb yesterday so may make an upside down cake. On the other hand perhaps not bake at all. Throw the bananas into the freezer and stew the rhubarb
I used to change my bed once a week but since getting a rescue greyhound who sleeps on the bottom of the bed I’ve taken to washing every couple of days! And hoover all the time now!! I think tho that we make too much work for ourselves and in the current climate is highlighted that we need to slow down and enjoy what we have when we have it!!! (She says as she’s changing the bed again ????)
Oldwoman.
It is Overkill.
Pull the sheets back and let bed air of all day.
Yes, I am turning into my mother, I've married a man just like my father in his ways! Everything she went through with him I now find myself going through. The only difference is, my mother never drove so every where she went he would go too, I at least could drive up until now with the virus.
She was; house proud, put others before herself, loved gardening, knitting,reading, baking and adored her grandchildren. I am the same. She died in bed at home peacefully in the night alongside her husband, I hope I can do the same.
Housework is a waste of time. You do it, then you have to do it again.
I do housework once a week...Too many books to read, and life’s not long enough to worry about what people think of me when I’m dead!
I certainly wouldn’t do all that in one day. I do one room a day.
Phloembundle I so love your attitude....that is how I feel...hahahaha
Definitely become mine because I spend half my tome trying to stop my actual mother, who is hundreds of miles away, from going out!
This lockdown has got me doing a little more housework just for exercise really.
DH does hoover daily but I prefer pottering in the garden or baking.
My mum grew up in a street where if your net curtains weren’t changed regularly neighbours would knock to see if you’d been taken ill??
When working used to clean a Thursday evening and then Saturday or Sunday morning. Then I got a cleaner so just basic kitchen, bathroom cleaning between her visit. Then retirement and new house daily needs again and a room done thoroughly every week, fitting in 2 bedrooms at a time when upstairs. Dh retired so he now attempts the hoovering twice a week to help. I have not turned into my mother as she used to have that nightmarish spring clean and then the clean the old year's dirt out to let the new year's in, lasting about a week before New Year's Eve. Life is easier now with all the cleaning aids, machinery and if course the coal fires have all but gone in houses.
Change the beds twice a week! I thought I was doing ok working nearly full time and managing stuff he’ll I must be a dirty bag if washing! Haha yes my mam use to do this and also had set days for meals Monday was washing / eggs chipsTuesday ironing/ mince dumplings and the week would go on!,
Aw hazel just read yours lovely!?
I decided after I retired from a shift working job that I would do what I felt like doing in any given day. If the laundry basket is getting full then a wash load goes on, if I feel like baking then I bake, if the sun is shining I'm outside getting my Vit D.
Naturally, if I'm having visitors I have to have a bit more structure and discipline but otherwise I do what I feel like doing!
My mother bless her, was houseproud. Me, not so much but I do some housework every day for 10 minutes whether it needs it or not ...
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