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I've become my Mother!

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Oldwoman70 Thu 26-Mar-20 12:34:14

My Mother had set days to do cleaning, Monday - washing, Tuesday - ironing etc. When I was working I wasn't able to do that so everything was done at weekends.

Since retiring housework has had to be done around meeting friends etc. Now I am on lockdown I have found myself allocating certain cleaning to certain days - today it was bedrooms, hall and stairs. Am I the only one?

Sussexborn Sat 28-Mar-20 14:13:14

My stepmother would plump up the cushion people were sitting against every time they leaned forward to flick the ash off their cigarettes. My SIL told me the new girl across the road was dirty because she had been there a whole week and not washed the curtains once! She also ironed socks! We used to say that I should live next door to her so she could do my house as well.

I am more of a bull in the china shop cleaner. I used to rush round like crazy when I was in the mood and do the whole house in one go. Don’t have the energy to do that now. Had just persuaded OH that a cleaner would be a good idea (and a cruise) but the virus has put paid to that.

OH has always done his share of housework if and when we were both working. His mother and grandmother were horrified that he even changed nappies for his own children.

EmilyHarburn Sat 28-Mar-20 14:37:07

I do as little cleaning as possible. My laundry is either light or dark and I like keeping up with it. Dish washer staked by evening and cleared in morning etc. Beds changed as I have time, no spare linen, back on bed same day. I usually have a fortnightly cleaner but sadly she will not be able to come now.

Due to lock down now trying to source deliveries. Only cooking one dish a day that can be reheated for supper etc. When I have st deliveris up will get hammock out and take a well earned rest

annodomini Sat 28-Mar-20 14:40:47

Mum always had a 'daily'. She did her own washing and ironing, but the house was cleaned by Mrs Wright. I am not a bit like my mum who was an inveterate worrier, I refuse to indulge in utterly fruitless worrying. What was ever achieved by worry?
I have a fortnightly cleaner but not during this epidemic. I have to fend for myself. sad

Jillybird Sat 28-Mar-20 14:53:53

I do have a routine, but don't always stick to it. My mother never had a routine, so far as I can remember. My partner does almost nothing. He puts the bins out once a week and fills up the bird feeder. Other than that he makes so much mess I leave him the sitting room to live in on his own. I don't want to sit with the chaos he creates and the filth he enjoys.
I change my bed once a fortnight, because I have a double bed to myself (he has his own room) and so I sleep in different spots, one side one night and one the next. I always do washing on Mondays but sometimes on other days as well. I also iron in the mornings before I start work anywhere else in the house. I just iron until I get fed up standing and leave the rest until the next morning. Spending too much time on here is unproductive as I haven't stuck to my routine at all. I live in a (very small) four storey house so allocate Mondays for the top floor, Tuesdays for the 3rd floor and so in with the notion that by Friday everything will be done - but I run out of steam, so this week, for instance, my top floor is pristine and so is the next one down but the bottom two floors have merely been vacuumed!
What really drives me nuts is him-indoors who says when I clean up before visitors "They won't mind". I can't get it into his head, that it's he who doesn't mind; I feel embarrassed and ashamed at the mess (and consequent filth) he creates.
Thanks for the opportunity for letting off steam.

Florida12 Sat 28-Mar-20 15:36:17

I too turned into my mother ages ago, I even have a “hospital bag” just in case, I know tempting fate

rosecarmel Sat 28-Mar-20 15:42:25

I look like my mother- Which is odd because we didn't look like each other as children- How two people that looked so different as children wind up looking like each other later in life is so strange-

grannylyn65 Sat 28-Mar-20 15:44:21

I don’t do cleaning
Cleaner once a week

Granjax33 Sat 28-Mar-20 15:46:48

I work pt and usually clean on the 2 days i am home but with the coronavirus and no likely visitors i have become a touch lazy.

moggie57 Sat 28-Mar-20 15:48:29

you know why women washed on mondays? any of you see back to the corner shop (victorian) . its because all the furnaces/factories were shut down on saturday evenings and not used till monday lunchtime. that this was the best times to do the laundry without any fumes or smoke .so washing was done on a monday. tuesday washing the floor and front step. weds was sheet day(half day closing) thursday was meat day meat market .and friday was veg day.. and of course fish on a friday. saturday was natter day over the fence(note this is for housewives only) sunday was day of rest and church.

moggie57 Sat 28-Mar-20 15:51:00

which is why i dont have no media on ,on a pc .no phone .i go to church (not at moment its all online) so i read most of day and catch up on my writing to penpals.and often read a religious book.......nice not to have constasnt noise in my ear. i get plenty of that from my door stairs neighbours.

Laughterlines Sat 28-Mar-20 16:11:13

I hate it when I read on other threads that some people take the dog for a walk in the woods at 5.30 am and list all the different birdsong they heard, then come home have lines of washing (super white) blowing on the line in the garden and have vacuumed the house from top to bottom and cleaned all the windows before 11 am. Then they go out and do all the shopping and change library books for themselves and everybody within a five mile radius. The come home and whip up something absolutely delicious for lunch using leftovers, followed by decorating the spare bedroom and redesigning the front garden while himself makes a spreadsheet of every nail and screw in the shed. Then there is just time for tea and home made double chocolate cake a variety of home made biscuits at 4 pm before helping DGC with astrophysics homework.

Me. I am still in PJs and it’s nearly 5pm. A packet cheesy wotsits for supper should do the trick.

Tickledpink Sat 28-Mar-20 17:12:55

I never have a set day for anything. Depends what the weather is doing 🌞

sodapop Sat 28-Mar-20 17:44:37

How did you know so much about my life Laughterlines I am that superwoman, I'm also slim, blonde and beautiful. Time to wake up now grin grin

grannysyb Sat 28-Mar-20 19:34:56

I grew up in a large house, 8 bedrooms,(not boasting, just saying,) we had lovely Eva to clean and Doris did the laundry. I never learnt to clean like the Exes mother, she was made to clean everything with her mother, it included moving the piano to clean under it. I recently acquired a cleaner when I had a hip replacement, sadly she's had to go due to the lockdown. I am fussy about kitchens and bathrooms and change beds and towels regularly, but as the saying goes "we all eat a peck of dirt before we die!"

Evie64 Sun 29-Mar-20 03:13:45

When I was younger, with 2 children a home, a husband who worked nights and a full time stressful job in the NHS I used to do the weekly shop on a Friday and then spend the entire evening (after cooking a meal from scratch for 4 people) cleaning the house, vacuuming, polishing, washing ornaments and floors, bathrooms and kitchens and still have the energy to greet my husband when he came home from driving a London Taxi at silly o'clock in the morning! Saturdays were for washing and Sundays for ironing and then back to the grind. What was I on,? And where can I get it now? If the dust moves when I walk into the room, I clean it! My neighbour (in her 80s) has a sign on the inside of her front door saying "This isn't dirt, it's fairy dust"! Bless her.