Anyone else scared

Than you everyone for your support to me I’ve settled down now and we’ve both had a good sleep don’t think I’ll be taking too much drastic action against my husband it’s my problem so I’ll just have to do my best and not worry too much there's more out there more worse off than me but carry on i must I need him so much I’m still recovering from a stroke and on the whole he does Wonders for me a better carer you won’t get.

Yes , it is frightening. I am fortunate to live in a supportive community in a fairly rural area, to have a largish house and garden and a husband to share them with. Yesterday was the first time for two weeks that I went further than my own feet could carry me; we drove to town and did some shopping. I was glad to get out, but felt relieved when we got home. We tackled shops separately; I queued for the supermarket, he for the butcher.

To overcome the feeling of powerlessness, I have joined a Covid-19 Mutual Aid group, which offers prescription collection and delivery by volunteers and companionship by phone to people who just want someone to chat to. Even if you are housebound you can volunteer to chat! If you use Gransnet, you do online; there may be a local group in your area. I am helping research: I downloaded the Zoe COVID tracker app (I have just failed to paste a link, but it is real science, out of Kings College Hospital). And I have learned to Zoom.

I am not really scared. Just careful about wiping down surfaces etc. Recovering from cancer I am classed as high risk but I still go out for exercise. Luckily we live quite remotely so can walk with dog without meeting anyone most days. Partner has to shop every two weeks but that is a risk we have to take as no delivery where we are. Had to cancel GC visit at Easter which is upsetting but hopefully it will be Ok again by July. No point in worrying as life will come at you whatever you do.

I'm scared. I've been out shopping today and outside there were 2m markers which people followed but once inside it was like a free for all in the supermarket - ASDA. It was frightening. I can't get a slot for home delivery. Each time I try there are none available.
I have no family or friends and neighbours don't check on me. I'm getting lower and lower in mood and I suffer from depression anyway. My doctors surgery is poor. I sleep through the days as my sleeping at night is erratic and filled with horrible dreams. I'm eating poorly as I can't bring myself to cook or look after myself. I'm living on banana sandwiches and coke cola. I feel as though my life is over. I don't tell anyone because where I live they lock you up in a building until you feel better and let you out but your problems have not been addressed. I'm really low and the lockdown has compounded the problem. I can't see people getting better with the lockdown. I think that as soon as its over, if that ever happens, people will quickly revert back to type. It makes me wonder "what's the bloody point?"

hello seastar, you still up ?
like me, often have difficulty getting to sleep, then late rising, and nothing seems to get done.
what sort of things do you eat, or never eat.
i had cornflakes with greek yogurt, so as to use up some blueberries, thrown on top, which i bought when i last went shopping, over 2 weeks ago.
nil desperandum, stella maris.

further to my previous, do you have a radio by the bed, or i guess you can get it on internet.
i set mine to go off after 45 mins, and hope that i am asleep by then. often i have to re set it, or i am too lazy, as its a bit fiddly so i just leave it on.
i find if i have it on too low, that it keep me awake; it may be i am straining to hear it. i listen mostly to phone-ins, or radio 4 extra or world service. on internet there is also angel radio, run by some delightful amateurs on the south coast, which plays all the oldies, from way back.
i am rambling.
i view shopping with some apprehension. have realised i probably have enough to eat if i really look and don't be fussy. long-life milk, cereal, tinned mandarins, tinned fish, cous-cous, packet soup, crackers, cheese, meatless meatballs.
so my plan is to go as long as i can without shopping. and probably tidy up a bit. i tend to buy things and then forget about them, some will have to be ditched, but most can be used. saves money too.
could you set yourself some kind of challenge, not onerous, but like i wonder if i could manage a short walk, then a bit longer, or a bit of tidying, or something, anything really.
and keep in touch with us here. good luck.

Wow! Just Wow!
Are we mature adults who have weathered the storms of post-war Britain, raised families, worked hard, overcome financial, emotional and relationship blips, illness, bereavement, divorce, moving homes...and now too scared to go out...
Surely not. Good heavens.

Wow, are we smug or what, glorying in our superior backbone.
or maybe reaching out to a fellow struggler, but i guess if one is not struggling, wouldn't have much to offer in that dept.
horses for courses.
some of us maybe have not managed to overcome those blips so triumphantly. lack of maturity ? where do i buy it. not shopping. do without . muddle on. ho hum.

GG54 good for you.
Some of us may have had more knocks than others and have simply had enough.
Some of us may not have been blessed with as much resilience as others.
If you can't empathise or sympathise with those who are not just like you, why not jog on past?

Worrying is unproductive and brings you down.
If there is anything we can do to ameliorate our concerns, then I expect we would do it but to worry for things you cannot alter is adding to and exacerbating
our own anxiety, illness, troubles, whatever. I was not being superior in any way, just surprised that so many seem to worry about things they cannot change which to me, seems futile.
You having a go at me for 'being smug' is ridiculous. Worrying and being scared just doesn't fit the ideal of British stoicism and battling on despite deprivation and wars, many of whom on here, are mothers and daughters who lived through it all including power cuts, strikes, mad cow disease, aids and many other obstacles during the last 50+ years.

welbeck, think of a cat, a rather rounded and self satisfied one playing with a mouse, reeling it in, letting it go for its own entertainment.

I'm sure you see what I'm saying. These are utterly terriifying times.

And you can stuff your British stoicism where the sun don't shine. Any emotion, any, is permissable right now.

Power cuts....tick
Strikes....tick
Mad cow....tick ( a friend died)
Aids....tick
Giving birth.....tick ( oh and nearly lost baby)

Nothing is in the same league as this and it will take more than Captain Tom and people banging pans and clapping to help.

There we are. You said it. If all the banging and hand clapping and fund raising isn't stopping it, will you worrying about it have any effect on anyone but you?

So true GabriellaG - you have it in a nutshell!

However...(posted too soon) there is no shame in being afraid. True courage is admitting one’s fear and keeping going

It's terrifying, there is no light. The government is hopeless, thousands are dying.

Back to my crochet now and a quick flick through Gardeners Weekly.

Oh and in the examples you gave, people had other people to be around. Not this hideous isolation.

Sorry coggie
All is not as bad as it seems.
Fewer people worldwide than live in one state of America or one county in the UK.
Not the millions killed in WWs 1 & 2. Women left on their own to bring up families with no income. No benefits system then.

At least we have TV, internet FB Zoom, cars to click and collect, food, banks helping their customers and 80% wages for those furloughed.
Not as bad as some times we have faced.

GG54, you carry on with your version of British stoicism, if you like.
Not everyone is just like you.

I am frightened because my OH has cabin fever and I have to persuade him all the time to stay home and it doesn't always work.

All is not as bad as it seems

I beg to differ, politics apart, take a glance at The Guardian.

It is a world wide disaster, unravelling very quickly.

GabriellaG54, you are absolute right when you state that worrying won’t help.
However those who worry are worriers and can’t stop.

I’m lucky, like you obviously, in that my response to a difficult situation is to do what I can to rectify it. If I can’t then I do my best. In this particular situation, that means obeying the rules.
I can’t do any more. Therefore I relax and get on with the gardening.

Having said that, I haven’t got any close friends or relatives who are in a very vulnerable situation like many on this forum. I have a garden, we aren’t concerned about finances at the moment and My husband and I seem to quite like each other.
Compared to so many we are so fortunate.

“Fear is a reaction, courage, a condition”

Coggiei understand that you are worried, but your language is very negative and in my opinion not quite in the spirit of things for the rest of us feeling equally worried.