Don’t want to be offended ... but I am!

Beyond me why you would be offended, especially since you know it was kindly meant. People of all ages are isolating for one reason or another. I would be touched not offended.

Don't be offended. They're just being kind. If you are single and live alone, they are just trying to be a support system. Everybody needs somebody.

I don’t think anybody is trying to figure out your age. You must have a lot of time on your hands to waste it being offended by a kind offer. What is happening is that society is healing itself in certain quarters, not all I admit. People of all ages are taking note of people other than themselves. My granddaughter is shopping for me and she has to spend hours queuing to be let shop.
You should be thankful that someone offered to help. Why are people always moaning !!!!!

NanNan Cake, I know how you feel, I am 74 but still 35 in my head! The first time I was offered a seat on a train I was horrified, although I hope I didn't show it. My husband and I are still quite fit and able to go shopping once a week but we have had lots of people asking if we need any help. Even our plumber emailed to ask if we needed anything which I thought was very sweet. We don't need anything yet but who knows. So try to be grateful that you have nice neighbours, you might need them or they might even need you. This virus is a great leveller isn't it.

Where I Live there as been no offers luckily our Dd and partner are doing ours but most neighbours are going shopping even though they are well over 70 ?My Dd can't do anymore she as small children and is working from home and he is a key worker

Grammaretto; could you ring the store and ask them to give him an Easter egg from you and add the price to your next load of groceries?

As he is volunteering he won't be expecting anything, but we all do like to feel appreciated.

I am sure they meant well. I would be grateful that somebody cares

What on earth has age got to do about offering someone some help, regardless of the situation at the moment? .
Kindness is kindness.
Some people don't even know their neighbours, young middle aged or old.
How ungrateful to be "offended".

I think, far from being offended, you should be thrilled that people are actually thinking of you, and how they can help you if you might need it. There are so many people oblivious to the needs of those around them, that your neighbours should be applauded for their kindness. It's got absolutely nothing to do with age but everything to do with thoughtfulness and kindness - very rare commodities these days.

Sounds like you have a good neighbour, good for them to offer

I am 61 but look older and when offered discounts for over 65 I take them, not because I want the discount but I do not want to embarrass the person that thinks I am over 65.

I would look at both offers of help and acceptance in the spirit they were intended. If people were just trying to be helpful, in ways that were not needlessly putting others at risk, you have a choice to graciously accept or politely decline, or in some cases point them towards someone you know does require whatever sort of help they are offering. This virus has brought out the very best in some and the worst in others. If no offence was intended I wouldn't be offended. I fall into several of the categories that make me highly vulnerable so remain isolated and only see my better half and cats (well, cat, the other one sometimes stays out for more than 24 hours!) On the rare trips out he has done for shopping or to collect my prescription he also gets a few bits for our lovely neighbour (who we view as family anyway), the young couple next door, and an elderly customer of theirs who lives alone. He drops bags at their door after wiping handles down etc then phones them, stands well back while they collect. We are by no means well off but know our neighbours are starting to struggle so are happy to help if we can and share whatever we have or manage to get. I keep reading of people suffering, going without both supplies and help they need. It is so disappointing to see others flouting guidelines, stockpiling greedily, ignoring those in need around them. It doesn't reflect well on us as a species. We have even heard horror stories of very vulnerable people with no internet access putting signs in their windows asking/begging for help and then some b*****d has robbed/conned/burgled them - WTF is wrong with some people - the idiots are bad enough without preying on the most vulnerable in our society. We are due to move house soon and have been informed by the new next door neighbour that my better half will be the youngest man in the street - he is delighted! He is also looking forward to being helpful towards his new, older neighbours. Most people are doing their best to cope, to deal with the new circumstances we all find ourselves in - I would like to think those who can offer a helping hand will, and those who need any help will get it (and get it without being held to ransom as such - have also heard of people selling harder-to-get items at ridiculously inflated prices or charging an extortionate fee to provide a 'helping' service!) A post-Coronavirus world might look very different and some people may find themselves with fewer friends etc due to their appalling behaviour during these uncertain and troubling times. @NanNanCake - you said yourself that you know your neighbours intended kindness so if at any stage you do need some help they might be willing - they may have also put notes through other doors as well as yours to be community-spirited. Stay as safe as you can everyone.

@NanNanCake I think all they were doing was saying if you get sick, they’re willing to help! Why do you feel angry? I wish more people were willing to volunteer in my area. I’m working with the local council and the take up for volunteering has been really low, we are over-subscribed with people needing help and just don’t have enough people to help. Perhaps you should direct your neighbour to a similar volunteering scheme in your area?

Oh for goodness sake! Right now I'd love someone to go and my shopping. Good neighbours can be hard to come by so take it with the caring sentiment it was meant.

We are 69 & 71 My OH has underlying problems & not considered vulnerable by Sainsburys.We are loyal delivery customers as we live in a v rural spot.But because we live in Wales we cannot be put on their list as Welsh Gov haven't done an online form.Sains just suggest we get Click & Collect the nearest store that does that, is 35 miles away.Tesco on the other-hand can deliver. Guess who wont be shopping at Sainsbury anymore. However pur local town have organised a delivery service for meds & fresh food too.I would love to help my other neigbours but we hv checked they all ok.Sad times but look for the little rays of light.

We are older but we were very touched that our next door neighbours left their telephone number just in case. My OH had been speaking to the father next door (at a safe distance) and he said he was very worried about his elderly mum who lives with them. My OH horrified to realise elderly mum was only a couple of years older than him!

Very thoughtful of them really - perhaps they have messaged all their neighbours. If there are any positives in this situation I think it’s the growing awareness of others possibly needing company / support / help

I wouldn't have been offended at all - take a rain cheque on it, and tell them you will con tact them if you need them, because you might regret having said no, if you do. Think about it like this - if someone your age was going to the shops and asked whether you wanted anything, you'd have said yes, if you did, probably.

It was very kind of her. Try to be gracious about it.

I’m quite recently widowed , 72, so on my own with no family near. One of my near neighbours is 101 and regularly phones to check on me bless her! And so do my other lovely neighbours.

Nannancake
How fortunate to have caring neighbours.
Not so where I live.Everyman for himself comes to mind in my 'picture box' location where visitors sigh and say 'aren't you lucky to live here'.

I don’t think it’s got anything to do with age. I’m more inclined to think that everyone is trying to do something to help someone. You should be flattered and grateful that you came into their mind as someone they would like to offer their support and help.
Be gracious. None of us know where this will end but if a net result is that we are all happier more caring neighbours then there will be some positives to look forward to.

I think you being offended is directing your offence at the wrong people, take your offence out on the morons who are breaking lockdown, spreading the disease. My neighbours are in their 30s with a severely allergic child whom they cannot take out, I offered to help them, I am old enough to be their mother, help in a crisis should be accepted with your heart and both hands if you need it.

I think it is great that there is someone out there who cares enough about their fellow neighbours that they are prepared to offer their help! They do not know your circumstances but have shown that they are there for you if you need them! Be grateful - there are so many people out there who need help but never get it!

I think it was very thoughtful of them.