Some people are only able to see the short-term view. They want it now.
Others, like you ExD (and many of us) see the long-term view. We can be patient, we put up with things we don't particularly like, but we know it is for our own safety and the safety of our loved ones.
Unfortunately the first kind of person rarely changes. Maybe she had just had a bad day - I would wait and see if she gets back in touch, but leave it up to her. If she calms down she will do so, if she doesn't then there is little to be said.