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I just discovered I like tormenting my neighbour

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vampirequeen Mon 27-Apr-20 11:09:01

Well not really tormenting but.....well I'll explain.

I have a rather odd neighbour. She bought her flat and is now trying to sell it. It's been on the market for a long time (well before lockdown) and no one is interested.

Now it could be explained by the price. For the same or even less money you could buy something bigger, freehold and with off street parking.

But she seems to blame us. She chose to buy a leasehold council flat years before we moved here. We're council tenants and she seems to think that having council tenants next door is putting people off. We're very well behaved....not the DM chavy version. I'm a bit dim when it comes to people being nasty. I tend to either miss it or excuse it. I was a bit surprised when she stopped talking to us just after the council put our new bathroom in but at first I just thought she was busy, not well, distracted by something in her life. But it's become a bit daft now. Recently she shouted at me for putting a pot of tulips near 'her' tree (communal garden). I don't like upsetting people and it is a shared area so I moved the pot. I should add that when we moved there was a weedy, messy area that a previous tenant had, at some point, tried to plant up so I just tidied it up and added a few bits and bobs. Nobody complained because most people like to see a few flowers and anyway it was better than the mess it was. Later she complained/shouted at me because I put the tulips near the birdbath so I put them elsewhere.

I finally cracked the other day and accepted that she was indeed trying to ignore me when she wasn't shouting at me. So I decided to wind her up. I know I shouldn't be I can't stop myself. I decided the best way to wind her up was to pretend that I didn't know I was being ignored. You see she makes it rather obvious by looking away and even crossing the road. So now when I see her I say 'Hi *. Y'all right?'. This puts her in an awkward position. Does she carry on ignoring me now that I've greeted day or does her Englishness force her to be polite and reply? Oh the pain on her face when she says 'Hello' in reply. grin

Oopsminty Mon 27-Apr-20 11:11:31

Great tactics, vampirequeen

Can't be doing with her type at all.

So carry on!

gillybob Mon 27-Apr-20 11:13:52

I love it VampireQueen brilliant tactics , pretending not to know she’s trying to ignore you ! grin she must be seething inside . Be careful she doesn’t step up the trouble though .

I can just imagine what she’s like . Stupid woman .

V3ra Mon 27-Apr-20 11:18:34

We have a neighbour in our cul-de-sac who, over the years, has written letters to the council complaining about all of us for one thing or another.
Even his wife used to say, "Oh god, he's off again."
When I became aware that I'd been his latest target I decided to treat him like my new best friend: every time I drove past him I waved and gave him a big beaming smile.
The confusion on his face was priceless ?

jaylucy Mon 27-Apr-20 11:18:46

I think we have all had to deal with someone like your neighbour!
If she wants to be so ignorant, let her! If she's stupid enough to be asking above the market value for her flat, that is her problem!
The fact that you tidied the bit of garden in front of the flats will be working more to her advantage than she obviously thinks and next time she shouts at you for placing a pot of flowers somewhere, I'd ignore her - it's not her garden, she has no right.
All in all, she is probably just a sad, lonely woman, possibly in financial difficulty because she can't sell her flat but being very unfair in blaming you - she would have been aware when she bought her flat that the one below was social housing and probably got her flat cheaper than she would have anyway!

maddyone Mon 27-Apr-20 11:19:45

Hahah, you’ve made me smile VampireQueen and it’s morning, not my best time. I’d keep up with the greetings, that’s the way to do it. grin

crazyH Mon 27-Apr-20 11:20:53

That's the way Vampirequeen - aren't there some awful people in this world ?

Alishka Mon 27-Apr-20 11:24:37

..and, of course, you must offer to fetch any shopping while you're out, cos....neighbours helping neighbours is what it's all about these days? Try that on her, OP. She'll hate itgrin

Alishka Mon 27-Apr-20 11:27:25

I see that V3ra has posted something similar...great minds and all that wink

vampirequeen Mon 27-Apr-20 11:33:58

Oh I love that Alishka. I'm very tempted to up the anti that way lol

She tried to turn other neighbours again us but it only worked with one. The others judge us by who we are not who they were told we are. And as DH is the go to guy for bike adjustments and jump starting flat batteries she was on a loser from day one with most of them grin

Artdecogran Mon 27-Apr-20 11:44:42

I’d put your lovely tulips back or some other lovely flower back, and scatter flower seeds everywhere.

FarNorth Mon 27-Apr-20 11:47:49

grin vq.

I saw a guy on a property programme, once, asking a price he 'needed' to get rather than what he was told it was worth.
Silly people.

Pantglas2 Mon 27-Apr-20 11:52:09

Well done vampirequeen! I hate snobs and as I’m a council house kid myself have never forgotten where I came from and don’t understand how folks make judgement calls on their neighbours based on whether they’re renting or not!

Keep up the ultra politeness and shame her!

glammanana Mon 27-Apr-20 11:58:41

Oh dear "Vampirequeen" the joys of sharing a communial garden you always find one who thinks it is their own private space don't you.?
When we lived in our HA 1st floor flat access to the garden was via double gates at the side of the property my husband put up a wirley washing line for me in line with our lounge window so technically our garden space the neighbour at the end had a right strop and said my washing made the garden untidy and like a laundry she also objected to my birthday party celebrations when all the other neighbours where invited between 2-6pm so called the HA and complained.
Although I loved living there and all my neighbours where lovely I was so pleased to be offered my bungalow with its own private garden

Oldwoman70 Mon 27-Apr-20 11:59:12

She obviously thinks you care enough about her to be upset that she is ignoring you - how conceited is that! Continue to be your friendly self - it will drive her demented grin.

LadyGracie Mon 27-Apr-20 12:15:17

A woman after my own heart, be ‘awfully nice’ there’s nothing like a bit of harmless sport.

BlueSky Mon 27-Apr-20 12:40:56

I know! I have a couple of neighbours while being very reserved themselves and trying to ignore you, mentioned to another neighbour that I don't speak to them! Well ever since I go out of my way to say morning loudly and waiving, and yes they are in pain when they've got to reply! grin

GabriellaG54 Mon 27-Apr-20 13:17:52

Way to go ???

DanniRae Mon 27-Apr-20 13:47:47

Good for you!

I think you have hit on the best way of dealing with her. Please keep us up to date with how it is going grin

parkersheen Mon 27-Apr-20 13:51:49

Nothing more satisfying vampirequeen than being overly nice and playing the 'daft laddie' to someone who is trying to wind you up.

LullyDully Mon 27-Apr-20 13:59:37

We lived in a flat with big communal gardens. I had a patch to call my own,being a keen gardener. Someone didn't approve, as I was between seasons waiting for the frost to finish. She " planted " a whole load of plastic flowers overnight. ........I was not happy.

moggie57 Mon 27-Apr-20 14:08:34

plastic flowers can be moved

vampirequeen Mon 27-Apr-20 15:55:02

The little patch of flowers and plants is actually shown in her estate agent photos grin

SueDonim Mon 27-Apr-20 16:12:08

Smothering her with love! grin

Greeneyedgirl Mon 27-Apr-20 16:21:28

It's very difficult having neighbours who are not very cooperative, or even nice.
I find it actually makes me feel much better if I try and behave kindly towards them, whereas if I don't I am left with a bitter feeling which keeps replaying in my head.
It may not make them nicer but it definitely makes you feel better.