I just discovered I like tormenting my neighbour

This does seem so petty in the scheme of things. She may have loads going on in her life, that you don't know about. She may be suffering from a mental illness and just trying to get through as best she can. But rest assured eventually your have new neighbours.

Why waste energy on someone you don't really know

I live in a rented sheltered housing flat, owned by a HA, right opposite is another block also owned by the HA, it is so close to us that you can just get an ambulance or dust cart down between the buildings. The other block are leasehold and several residents from there will not talk to us, one man even told others in his building not to talk to us as we are 'council scum'. We are all elderly and well behaved......

Yes, I think behaving with good manners and saying hello etc, acting as if nothing is wrong and the person behaving like a tosser is your dearest friend, can be the biggest wind-up ever. It forces them to behave in very strange ways, especially satisfying if its in front of other people. When I was yound I was all into being 'honest and genuine', these days I realise that isn't always the best way to carry on in a difficult situation, and have much more fun.

I've had big trouble with a neighbour. They've built on my land, swamped my garden with their pressure washer, shouted at my guests for parking across my drive, etc. etc. in fact, a long list of incidents.

I am hopping mad with them really - but never, ever let it show. I'm surface-friendly, outwardly concerned, always happy - it's the very best revenge!

Nothing is more fun than being extremely nice and smiley to people that disapprove of you! I read somewhere that the best revenge is to look as though you are having fun and loving life! It drives them mad!

My husband followed this tactic with a an ex neighbour of ours who no one else in the cul devsac spoke to . He made sure he got right in his eyeline and the said hello loudly. It is the best way with these types it really confuses them !

That's given me a giggle this morning. By the way, when she eventually sells up and moves will she be taking "her" tree with her?

You’re a woman after my own heart ! Inverted snobbery for no reason whatsoever on her part. She’s a sad person and you’re lovely vampire queen ?

We bought an ex council house here and have lovely neighbours. Came with a card, wine and chocolates when we moved in. Don't know if it's council house or bought but don't really care. Second excouncil house we've bought over the years. Our last house was private and had lovely neighbours one side and a miserable old lady the other. She complained about our dog barking, said she was going to make an official complaint then saw our dog was sat quietly next to me.and it was the dog 2 doors up. I told her go and complain to them. Rough family whose dog it was, bet she didnt say anything to them.

Well you know what they say, "Keep your friends close and your enemies closer"!

Love it! love you vampirequeen.. that`s the way to do it!

Keep us up to date please, I love your story

I don’t think I could be faffed to take any notice of the neighbour who seems a bit of a daft cow. Just leave her to her misery. If it makes you personally feel better however then it’s up to you but I wouldn’t give her the satisfaction of knowing she had got to me. But that’s me. Why are you moving your tulips around anyway?Put them where you want them.

Thumbs up vampirequeen ... that's the way to do it. She may even become a nicer person because it's hard to be sour when confronted with someone being pleasant.

I remember reading about a man in New York who went to the same grumpy newspaper vendor each morning on his street and he always returned his grumpiness with a beaming smile and a positive word. When asked why he did this he replied that he wasn’t going to let someone else decide what day he was going to have ?

VAMPIREQUEEN
It was HER choice to buy a council leasehold flat.No doubt her asking price is more than what potential buyers are prepared to pay. No worries bide your time as you will I am sure have the last laugh /once she sees the light and forced to reduce her price.

Sorry VampireQueen, I just come here, got my first coffee of the day,, and started to read your post.

only read the first couple of sentences,, your neighbour thinks YOU lower the tone, price,, as you are council tenants

oh my! I nearly, not quite spilt my coffee with sniggering

does that attitude really still exist.. oh my! oh my! you have really made my day... I woke feeling a bit down, to be honest..
and now I am smiling all over and giggling inside

now I have to go back and read the rest of your post, and hope you are , indeed, tormenting her!

Oh, I loved this post! Our neighbour objected to my daughters fiance parking his perfectly nice car outside in our shared layby, (we don't have a car). I took great pleasure in telling her we were putting our house up for sale due to the bad feeling, & that we already had interest from a family who competed in Banger Racing & Demolition Derby as they wanted to be near our local Race Track. Amazingly by shifting their car up a bit there was plenty of room for our one visitor.

That was supposed to say a brief 'hello' - that's the problem with predictive text! It comes out with weird and wonderful things sometimes if it thinks you've made a mistske. And my mistake in not checking the post before I posted it!

Keep being nice. Don't let her take away your humanity.

On a sort of different theme but similar , at a church I go to on a Tuesday morning, the then vicar used to sidle in, ignoring the group of women at the back of church, which I thought was quite rude - so I made a point of saying 'morning's to him when he came in! After a few weeks of this, he starting acknowledging us. It wasn't that we wanted a long conversation with him, just a brief 'groom's - so I see where you are coming from.

My OH doest his to any one he knows doesn't speak to him. He will go out if his way to talk to them, as you say the look on their faces.... Priceless

Thank you for sharing this, it makes me feel so much better. I am in a social housing property and my neighbour who owns hers has made numerous complaints about me, for having bird feeders in the garden, which is true but it’s not excessive and is allowed but apparently the birds then pop in her garden, damaging the fence, the HA have been out and can’t see any damage at all, having the shed too close to the fence, it’s been in that position since these houses were built and suddenly bothers her now, fortunately I took photos when I moved in which proves the shed was there before I was, all the other peoples sheds on the street are in the same position to their fences. The HA have been very good and can’t see what her problem is but it makes me very anxious as being a tenant I could get evicted if she kicks off, although they’ve said she has no grounds to do so.
She has also regularly blocked my drive despite having a double drive herself but as she owns her house apparently there is nothing I can do about that!
Rant over hope you’re all keeping well x

This is what happens when boredom sets in, tread carefully lest it escalates. Keep yourself busy with other things and don't concern yourself with her.

My thoughts for today ( a good day so far )

Cut everyone a bit of slack. You don’t know what’s going on in someone else’s life.

Now if you had asked me yesterday ......?

Let’s hope she hurry's up and sells her place - for your sake. You might get a very nice new neighbour