It is horrible for you to be treated like this by your daughter. Especially her hanging up on you. And at a time when you are feeling low. The lockdown and uncertainty is having a psychological effect on us all and is probably affecting you. You must feel upset and miserable. Also angry, I would think, because it seems unjust. Why should she be able to express herself in such an extreme way and you have to suppress all your feelings. However I am sure you want to have a good relationship with your daughter. She has at least communicated clearly what she is hearing from you. Even if you don’t mean it, this is what she hears. She is hearing that you are sad because she is in Canada. That you are unhappy because of her. That you are angry with her because you are unhappy. That she is responsible for making you happy. That it is more important to you to burden her with your unhappiness than to protect her from it so that she can feel free and be happy herself. Your unhappiness about your grandson in Sweden probably makes her think of her children not being with you. And seems like a criticism of her too. If she didn’t feel responsible for your happiness, she wouldn’t feel so guilty and so desperate and angry herself. But of course, she can do nothing about all the things that are making you unhappy. Maybe make some space for her feelings. Acknowledge them as real. Ask her what you say and do that makes her feel like this. Say you are sorry you make her feel like this. If she feels heard she might be calmer. Then there needs to be some space for your feelings also, for you to explain that this is not your intention, that what she is hearing is not what you are saying. That of course you miss her but that you are not criticising her or blaming her, that you are responsible for and can cope with your own life, that her being free to lead her own life is what you want. A mother and a daughter are always going to have a fraught relationship. We never fully leave behind the adult/child dynamic. We push each other’s buttons in a way no other person can. But it is also one of the strongest relationships in life. When you are apart and can only communicate by phone, why not try to make that phone call one your daughter will look forward to, rather than one she will dread. It may feel unfair but it will be best for you both. I am so sorry you have had this horrible thing happen to you when you were already down. I expect it will pass one way or another. Good luck.