Tears after visit

57VRS .So sad hearing about your grandchildren crying after face timing ((hugs)).Thinking of all you grans going through this separation .Mine are in Oz so I’m used to making do with FaceTiming.sending letters, funny emails and little presents.Thank goodness for technology .It feels worse having to go home after a visit about once a year,heart churns days before we re due to fly home,so I can relate to this feeling.No saying good bye at officious airports either, it’s too horrendous .Say goodbye and cuddles at their home,then taxi. Too much to cope with otherwise.
YourDGC and DS/DD s are keeping safe you ll be back together again.
An idea re your Mum 57VRS .I arrange a family face time with my elderly Mum who is deaf,wears a hearing aid but still could nt hear us when we tried.We used ear phones in the end they can be sanitised and kept only for your Mum.Success!Mum has a decent conversation hearing clearly as well as seeing everyone on the screen . Hopefully that is an option for your Mum .My partners brother who has dementia is in a care home and we arrange a weekly face time which works quite well too .
Hope this helps .

gransixty hope you’re Ok.
Saw my son and granddaughter Saturday in the garden, they brought their own flask of tea, daughter-in-law still shielding so couldn’t come, so is my husband , we don’t ‘qualify as living alone TG,but miss them all so much including son and family in Cheshire. A few tears is very acceptable.???

Two people from the UK have tested positive for the virus in New Zealand, got special dispensation to travel. What a shame because NZ was virus free.

Totally lost, my teenage grandchildren rarely hug me at the best of times, so I wouldn’t read anything into it. Or it could be that they have become so used to keeping their distance from others as they know how risky it is, so they are protecting you.

I know when I eventually get to see my older grandchildren, 16 and 19, there will be no hugs. In fact I shall try to avoid being anywhere near my GD who Currently works in a supermarket, So could be likely to carry the virus.
You have to weigh up the risks rather than go with the emotions. Sounds harsh but it is where we are.

Thank you for the flowers Kim xx

GreenGran?

I can see my 21 year old granddaughter anytime, at a distance, as she lives near to me. I have been pretty stoic about not being able to fly to Australia for the birth of my new grandson, and to see my three year old granddaughter and the rest of the family. It was just something I had to put up with, and I could enjoy seeing them on photos and the occasional computer chat. I could cope with it. No problem.

Then, tonight, I saw the news, and children and grandparents clutching and hugging, and I found myself in tears. I’m a pretty tough cookie, and have weathered many storms without giving way. Seeing those loving reunions has really got to me, though, and I even have tears in my eyes while writing this.
I’m so glad for the families who are reunited, and tomorrow I will be back to my usual self. Today, though, I’m just a sad old granny, desperate for a cuddle.

Today was my first visit to see DD, her OH & DGSs. I have seen my DD on her own once that was allowed, social distancing of course. DD & I made the decision not to meet up in the open air as a family maintaining social distance as we felt this would upset DGSs too much.

DGSs didn't know I was going to visit today, DGS2 who is 3 years old he usually won't cuddle me until I leave just ran to me with a huge grin & a joyous shout of Nan, DGS1, who is 10 & being home schooled realised I was there & came to join us. It was a lovely experience. DGS2 spent a considerable time sitting on my knee & telling me he loves me.

I am a widow & I moved to be closer to my DD 5 years ago however I can't nor want to go to see my elderly DM who is 92 & lives 300 miles away. We all have choices to make.

I am living in my own since my husband passed away in October last year. My son is separated from his wife so has had children quite frequently since lockdown. They are twins aged 7, unfortunately they are still too worried to hug & cuddle. My grandson said I don’t want to make you ill , Nanny.
They have been a bit brainwashed, but am sure they will be ok in time.
Angela.

TL has it ever occurred to you that maybe your teenagers couldn't hug you for your safety? You may be reading their reluctance completely wrongly as we're constantly being told that we more mature people are in the vulnerable category. Anyway who wants a hug that's not spontaneous? Don't read too much into it. I reckon they did a brave and difficult thing there. Some day they may reveal this to you but, in the meanwhile, hang on in there like the rest of us

I’m still waiting (can’t say ‘patiently’) as my son-in-law is shielding until at least the end of June.

It’s pretty obvious that Boris sits in the bath every night working out what he can do to infuriate grandparents.

There are only 27.8m households in England so he could easily have phoned each one to find out what they would like him to do for their particular circumstance - he’s such a slacker!

Fancy trying to consider people who have been isolating entirely alone - like the lady I said hello to from across the road. She tried to respond but initially her voice just wouldn’t come out. She obviously shouldn’t be considered either.

Nothing will satisfy the permanently infuriated. It seems to be the only thing that they actually gain pleasure from.

Chill out FHS!

Should add I live 100 miles away so it’s our 1st contact

We’re all experiencing very different emotions, I’m alone since DH passed away 3 years ago, was so excited to be able to join my Daughter and her husband and my 2 grand daughters in a support bubble and stay overnight, I naively thought we’d act as previously as I’d be ‘part of their family’ with hugs, my daughter hugged me but was obviously unsure, my son-in-law hugged me, but it’s totally floored me that my teenage granddaughters felt unable to do so as they’ve only had physical interaction with their parents for the past 3 months, there was no intention to hurt me and as their parents said , it had to be what they were comfortable with, but I’m now back home on my own and that’s where I’ll stay with my tears as I can’t and won’t put them under pressure by telling them my feelings.

Had the Gd for the day as Mum and Dad working and I am the usual childcare. We've seen them social distant throughout lockdown until last week when I did get a cuddle. My heart is full.

Perhaps if it's all so hard, people shouldn't see their families at all?
Crying if you do see them, crying if you don't.

Nobody is being penalised; it's the way the lockdown is being 'eased'.

We have 4 AC 3 of whom live nearby so we’re very lucky. Right from the start of lockdown we paid weekly visits to the pavement in front of each house to maintain contact with the grandchildren. When we were allowed to travel further away we did the same with the other family who are further away. We are actually dreading the time when a couple is allowed to form a bubble with another household. What about the others? We will regrettably have to wait until there is even further relaxation. Having said this my heart goes out to those who are unable to have any contact at all and I do realise how fortunate I am.

Kim19 - I so agree with you about being compensated for being alone. Sadly, I am still unable to visit my elderly folks as I have no transport and really do not want to risk Public Transport in case I give the virus to my folks.

Makes a change that being single actually works in our favour - Single Supplements, 2-4-1 offers etc.

How about, instead of thinking one is 'penalised' for not being alone, that some are being 'compensated/considered' for actuallly being alone. It will never be perfect but anger or jealousy just adds to our current angst.

Don't feel too down at least you saw them and connected somewhat. ?Spare a thought for those of us with family abroad who can't even book a flight yet!

My daughter brought our little 2 1/2 year old granddaughter over to play in our garden today. It was the second time since lockdown. She cuddled our knees! I think it is unfair that single grandparents can provide childcare but we can't because we are a couple. surely the risk is no different. I'm thinking of sending my husband to go and live in his shed over his allotment!

I’m in Ireland and saw my grandchildren for the first time since mid March on Saturday. My 3 year old DGS looked dumbfounded when he saw me, and I couldn’t stop crying! Only my 8 month old DGD smiled happily, recognizing me from the phone screen only!!

My earlier rant was not against anyone living on their own being able to see their families or staying over night. I am happy for them but Yes, I do feel upset that because I do not live alone, BoJo's latest revelation has penalised all of us who don't live alone.

We can't see our family because of transport problems. We haven't seen our new GS since his birth in March because parents would have to travel via tram and train. The same goes for our other GC. due to lack of private transport. So popping in for an hour in the garden is out of the question. Unless they can stay overnight, our children's common sense says until Scotland and Wales are comfortable with easing the lock down they will stay put.

So we are being as patient as we can , which is not easy when crowds gather to protest, shop or sun bathe, most of them ignoring the social distancing rules. That's okay because BoJo will change that too if it suits because he just does whatever people want disregarding the scientific advice.

My major compliant is that since the easing of lock down (in England only) the country has gone mad and all we get from BoJo is 'use our common sense', which suggests that if the sxxx hits the fan and many more die, it will not be his fault.
The inconsistencies of these policies, follows the Dominic Cummings philosophy of ' do what I say and not what I do' is causing upset and anxiety.
A sobering reality brought us back down to earth when a good friend died of the corona19 virus today, so we are using our common sense and staying put because we not safe yet.

I found it very hard to hold back the tears when my DS, Ddil and the children left after a 'distanced'; visit - we are a cuddly family and the little ones held their arms out and took a few steps, and then realised and dropped their arms. My son said later would I please not cry as he can take a lot of things but he can't cope with his Mother crying. The last visit I kept the emotions back and it wasn't so hard; I was so happy to see them and talk to them in the garden.