Tears after visit

We went to our daughters up in Lancashire first time since February. It was our granddaughters first birthday we sat outside and watched her taking her first steps in the conservatory. I was so upset because we couldn't hug her.

I’ve been having visits with my daughter and grandkids in their garden recently and yes it’s emotional. But I’m so grateful we can at least do that and we are all healthy.

I read a heartbreaking story yesterday that made me so guilty about feeling tearful about my other 2 gc I can’t visit yet.

A little 4 yr old boy went home from hospital yesterday in Leeds where he’s been for 7 weeks having treatment for stage 4 cancer. His dad has been at his bedside all that time. His poor mum was isolating at home with a toddler and not allowed to visit at all. It’s unimaginable what that family have had to endure.
This is the link to the story
www.bbc.co.uk/news/amp/uk-england-leeds-53034132

Is it permitted in a bubble to stay overnight with family?
A friend of mine had just posted she has done it anyway but I did wonder if that is ok.
She is something of a maverick in lots of things.

annsixtyMy understanding of it is in England only a single person living alone or a single parent with a child under 18 can form a support bubble with another household. They can visit their house, stay overnight if they wish and no social distancing required.

It only applies to England and only to a single person living alone

I've seen my daughter and grandchildren twice since the beginning of March. The first time I caught sight of movement in my front path and there she was with the children unfolding chairs at the far end of the path.

We fetched garden chairs and sat well away from them but I cried when they had gone because I couldn't cuddle them so really I felt it was more pain that pleasure.

Today we went and sat in my daughter's garden and then all went for a country walk nearby. I wasn't as upset this time and enjoyed it.

I visited my daughter and granddaughter today and had Sunday lunch. It was so lovely, and yes, we did have a cuddle, at last! I had watched loads of lovely news stories where you saw children and grandchildren running up the front path and being cuddled by their Gran or Grandad, so as far as I'm concerned, if we can stay overnight, then we can have a cuddle.

Don't really understand why a single grandparent can and a couple can't.

No neither can I.
My friend is Single so no problem with her staying over.

I believe it is for well being. Single people have no one to turn to or talk to or just hug and have had a long time in lockdown, couples have each other

I feel sorry for the families with two single grandparents ,which one do they choose. Difficult decision.

It may be for well-being but is it less of a health risk? answer: no. So another guideline lacking in common sense.

Our son, single parent, visited with us with his 3.5 yrs old son as per the new rules. We hadn't seen him for 3 months. Wee one pelted up the drive and threw himself at me nearly knocking me over. Later when Granda was 'chasing' him, he jumped up onto me on the sofa, hanging into my neck and trying to get behind me screeching with laughter Save me, Save me ...
My heart was filled with joy that I hadn't felt in a long time.

That's lovely.

That sounds like a lovely day Coolgran65

It must have been a great morale booster for you all

It doesn't apply to me as my DGC live abroad but why deny two grandparent this special moments after months of sadness?

No hugging for us as we are still meeting in the garden but so lovely to see our teenage GC and catch up with them. I think they just enjoyed the pleasure of speaking to somebody other than mum and dad. Now its back to work and school for some of them and they are looking to protect us again for a while until we see what happens.

Saw my son and his wife today first time since March it was wonderful went in their pool after

We saw half the family for a walk last week, then on Saturday went round to sit in the garden. Granddaughter aged 7 asked if she could have a hug with Grandma, and her Mum said she shouldn’t really, to which she replied, “Theres not much point in them coming then!” They have been nowhere for 12 weeks and neither have we and I think common sense has to prevail! Feel guilty about not being able to see the other grandchildren though, apart from the fact that they are 2 hours away, both parents are working so the risk seems higher.

Since the lockdown was eased we have seen some of our grandchildren at a safe distance.
Others we haven't seen and its awful.
I just want to hug them.
I so miss them especially i was looking after the youngest full time.

The rules are so unfair to grandparents who live together feel it doesn't make any sense or logic... Im one of the lucky ones i guess as i live alone so i can cuddle and help with childcare as my son and dil are both keyworkers and can stay over night as i live 50 miles from them. However i had to help a week ago as they had no one to look after their 9m old twins and the spiteful neighbours called the police who cleared it for me to be there as it was essential childcare i returned last week to resume my nanny duties and they called the police yet again who were fine with it then Boris announced it was ok 2 days later... Cant believe some people poking their nose into other peoples business without knowing the facts!!!

It doesnt apply to me either, with my family in u.s and oz
How I would love to hug my gorgeous families, and with the 2 youngest ones in oz birthdays coming up this month and next, I cant be there, the sadness continues for me and others in the same situation
Gp who haven't hugged their families for a few months are very fortunate that they can now do so

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@travelsafar Oh thank you so much for that, think yourself lucky I'VE NEVER SEEN MY GRANDSON and he's 20month old now

Boris had a get out clause when he announced this "bubble" strategy...
he said
of course there will be anomalies

I watch Youtube,, on and off, and found Carl Vernon, now whilst I don`t agree with all he says it has certainly lightened my mood over this lockdown/virus

I have been isolated, living alone, dh died last November, plus extra 2 weeks before lockdown as I had tummy bug.

been out a couple of times with a very close friend, visited family 2/3 times. last Saturday went into their house!! ARGH! now I woke this a.m. accepting that I have anxiety, so now struggling with that,,

anyway,, have a listen to Carl Vernon if you have an open mind.

Totally agree Jeannie59 and that puts it all into perspective, however it’s tantalising when they only live 10 minutes away and you are used to seeing them several times a week. I have friends in your situation and I know how hard it is for them.