Has anyone attended a school reunion

Can’t think of anything worse to do , didn’t enjoy school when I was there due to bullies so wouldn’t want to go back !!!!

I keep in touch with a couple of girls who were in the same class but no more. We don't really have that much in common except for the past. Our lives have turned out so differently.

I don't think I'd go to a reunion. 'The past is another country' as they say - for many of us, adolescence wasn't a wonderful time so why revisit it? Even down our local High Street I've never bumped into any of the old girls - it's like they've all been sucked into some sort of vortex.

I wouldn't want to reconnect with some of those girls who were bullies or who intimidated me. I never felt part of the 'in-crowd' but it would be interesting to know what happened next to our classmates.

I've managed to avoid them ,I still live in the same small town and see alot of the girls I went to school with on a daily basis .
The ones who moved away are on FB so if I wanted I could contact them ,I dont.
I'm very much a leave the past where it belongs sort of person and while I'll swap memories with my sister or a couple of freinds who were workmates I prefer not to wallow in mid 1900's.
Thats sound awful now I've written it down,but on the few occassions I've gone down memory lane by visiting old haunts or old homes it hasn't been a good experience.During lockdown we started walking around the town,some streets I haven't been in for 50+ years and I didn't like it.My parents home for instance which always had a garden that lifted all the prizes is neglected and forlorn and I literally wept when I saw it .I'll stick with the here and now ...schooldays weren't particularly happy I couldn't wait to leave and get on with LIFE .

Would never dream of going to one. What is the point? We are all different people now.

I had a reunion when we all turned 60. I’d left my hometown and lost touch for 45 years . It was wonderful meeting up with old school friends I hadn’t seen for 45 years and we are now connected on Facebook. I found a lot of the women still looked lovely . But some of the heart throbs , boys I fancied at school were fat bald with glasses ! It was a shock . One boy I had been in love with since I was 6 ( we did have a brief relationship at 8 when we kissed ) was stood at the bar and it took me all night to pluck up courage to speak to him . Bald now happily married to someone else ?and looked completely different but strange how old feeling still stirred ?? xx

I would hate it. We were all young and beautiful at school and the boys were handsome. I want to remember them that way.

No.
I have no interest in this. I didn't keep in touch with anyone when I left school and moved on to a new adult life. I found new friends forged through shared interests. Yes I had an averagely happy time at school and plenty of "school friends" but we were all very diferent by the time we left.

Why would I want to re-visit this I wonder? Surely if the relationships had been stronger then would have survived for longer?

While I love keeping in touch with old school friends on social
Media I have no desire At all to go to a school reunion

Yes, I went to one which would have been 25 years after leaving school when we were about 40 years old. It also happened to be the centenary of the ‘Old girls association’, so there was quite a gathering from various year groups and a very nice lunch put on with a marquee to accommodate us all.

I didn’t really enjoy my school days. I attended an all-girls independent school and never felt I was clever enough, plus I suffered from excruciating anxiety , but I have kept in touch with eight of my old friends, some of whom started school with me aged 5.

It was a really enjoyable day! We were astonished by how many of our former teachers were there as they all looked ancient to us when the taught us! It was also a surprise to recognise virtually everyone even after all those years.

We had a tour of the school and much hilarity remembering past times and sitting in our old desks, some of which, I swear, were still the same.

Not sure I would do it again, but I was glad I went and there was certainly no hint of anyone showing off or anything like that. We were all just pleased to see each other and feel the ‘sisterhood’ of having spent between 7-13 years being educated together.

I went there once when it was 20th anniversary or something like that. I can't say I enjoyed it because I've never been friends with anyone from my school, really. There were nice people and they werenice to communicate with but I had no best friends or people I would definitely love to see or people I'd miss. It was funny, tho, people were bragging about how successfull they were and everybody tried to outshine others (me included). The part I REALLY enjoyed was the food, haha! They also hired a photographer for us to recreate the pictures from our old yearbook, it was quite funny, too. We got them a week later in digital form and I even asked my DD to do a photo collage with my old picture and the new once. She was to busy, so I had to do it myself with the help of some collage making program . It was nice, yes.
In general, I don't think you will miss something if you don't go, because if you didn't have good friend or people you would love to see, the will be nothing interesting for you.

I was persuaded to go to a reunion when our year turned 50.
It was a boarding school but I was only there for my final 2 years.
I was apprehensive beforehand but I had heard that 3 of our class had died so it felt important.
It was actually lovely and as someone has said the same traits were there but there was no visible competition anymore and we thought about those who were absent.
Lots of laughter and talking. Some girls (it was all girls) were now doctors, a museum director, a UN advisor, a farmer, a restauranteur, a journalist, a teacher. Photos came out. Much wine was drunk.
I am vaguely in contact with a few on Facebook and I still see my best school friend about once a week.
Sorry about your horrible experience geekesse
Just yesterday I joined a fb group for my primary school. I wonder why. Was it curiosity or nostalgia? Or perhaps it was the shock of DD telling me she had been miserable and lonely at her school and had had no friends. and it was my fault

Having moved far away from the area I grew up in long ago, I've only been able to attend twice in almost 50 years. I did enjoy seeing everyone and hearing about their lives and families. As someone up thread pointed out, the girls seemed mostly the same but I didn't recognize many of the men. Thanks to email, texting and phone calls, I'm in daily contact with my dearest friend since aged 10 and we are able to visit in person about twice a year. Neither of us have kept in touch with any other classmates.

Yes a few years ago now. I went to a girls school, no co-Ed in my day!! I am ashamed to say that I couldn’t remember names or faces except those of my group of girls that I knew at school.

I quite enjoyed it, but wouldn’t repeat it. It was enjoyable on one level, learning about individual success and interests, but on another level apart from school we largely had nothing in common as our lives had not touched since school.
I am still in touch with one but that is all.

geekesse your post sounded quite dreadful. How sad for your young self, and appalling that it still seems to affect you so badly.

I was in a class of 16 girls. On leaving school we all said we would keep in touch, tell everyone where we worked, when we got engaged, when we married, when we had children, when we moved, etc. Nobody bothered, well not with me anyway.

I was a scholarship pupil at an expensive girls’ boarding school. I was bullied by teachers and abused by my boarding housemistress. The headmistress was vicious, humiliating me almost daily in corridors for being a ‘charity case’. It was pure hell. My recurring nightmare for thirty years was having to go back to school.

The only person who was kind to me was the chaplain, and when he died about fifteen years after I left, I went to his funeral. There I bumped into a woman who had briefly taught me, and was persuaded to go to the annual reunion to confront the pain of the past.

Just driving into the town gave me a panic attack, and I had to stop the car to be sick in a lay-by. Once there, I saw my old headmistress, now a frail, elderly lady, who was badly affected by a stroke. She couldn’t speak properly and she dribbled as she tried to drink tea. I looked down at this pathetic woman, and I was glad - glad that she couldn’t hurt me again, and glad that she was now humiliated by old age.

I wish I could be charitable and forgiving, but I can’t find a shred of compassion, even now when she is long dead.

I should add our school was primary and senior In one so most of us that meet up have known each other since we were 4/5 (70 odd years) some haven’t change a fraction sone I wouldn’t have recognised

No I haven’t but I would love to.

It would be so interesting to see what the very confident, self-assured girls had made of their lives!

My friends and I were the quiet ones and were quite in awe of those who seemed quite sophisticated!

I am still friends with three from school and we have all said we would let each other know if one of us heard of a reunion.

We all still live within 25 miles of each other and meet up each year which is lovely.

I ve organised one five years ago
Out school was quite small about 250 pupils and I managed to get together 72 Of us together so that was pretty good we had a really good evening with lots of memories two teachers turned up and a past head girl older than me was about 80 and who had a very ‘colourful’ life
I lost touch with most of my school friends a few years after I left and married and moved away from town and subsequently UK for a good while but about 15 years ago I caught up with two we started meeting up and it has now grown into 16 of us that meet every month for lunch
It’s really nice

I once went to a school reunion, when I was about 50. What struck me was that the girls I knew in my teens (and in most cases had never seen since then) were basically the same people they always were. I think we had all mellowed a little, but the basic personality traits were unchanged: genuineness, vanity, kindness, arrogance, warmth, snobbery, shyness , etc. I enjoyed seeing everyone and discovering this.

A couple of years ago I found a Facebook Messenger post from an old school friend asking if she had the right person (she would only have known my maiden name) and that our old gang had regularly kept in touch and had been looking for me for years!
I replied to say yes it was me, and filled her in briefly on my career and family circumstances.
I never heard from her again ?

Yes I've been to one. Oddly the girls were all recognisable, just older, while the boys nothing like I remembered them!

"Reunion "is a misnomer as such an artificial meeting cannot reunify people who no longer have anything in common

Of course people who have been together at school for 7 years have something in common, Alexa - the fact that they went to the same school and have lots of shared history.

Fortunately the reunions I have been to only seemed to attract bright, sociable people who enjoy talking to others and hearing about their experiences.
They have that in common, too.

Yes Alexa I am so lucky to have 2 childhood friends who have been my lifelong friends. We do have a lot of experiences between us and have grown together. I do so agree that reunion is a misnomer and when we went along to this get together we had absolutely nothing in common with the people we met which is probably why it was not a great experience for us. Lovely for people who can resurrect old school friendships but not for us.

Judy, that must have been an absolutely terrible experience!

Some people's childhood friends are lifelong friends as they see each other and communicate regularly. But that is an entirely different set of circumstances from a 'school reunion'.

"Reunion "is a misnomer as such an artificial meeting cannot reunify people who no longer have anything in common . I can't imagine what a school reunion of people who never see each other for years , is for. What good can it possibly do?

Like AGAA4 I do sometimes wonder what people with whom I never kept up a friendship are doing and so forth. However if we met I'd not expect any more than small talk.

No. I have never been to one but sometimes think of my old school friends and wonder what they are doing now.