I received one about 20 years ago via my Mother, I would be in Scotland at the time and she could just not understand why I did not want to go.
She was a bully and a control freak and did not get that I did not wish to see people who had bullied me unmercifully for my entire school life.
Until my DBF friend pointed out that I had done very well and definately had bragging rights. He is nosey and had done a bit of research on the bullies.
I still did not go, partners were not invited, if he had been with me perhaps !!!!!!!!!!