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When was your last cuddle?

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Daftbag1 Thu 02-Jul-20 21:04:25

When did you last have a cuddle, and be held tight?
I was just thinking, I'd love my husband to hold me tight and make me feel safe from the world. He won't, not because he doesn't love me, he does, but because he's not a 'cuddles' person. Neither of us are physically demonstrative, we missed out on the cuddles as children, and grew up two damaged souls. Just occasionally, I really wish I could be held tight, not in a sexual way, but just a 'let go of all my worries', way, to feel that I don't have the world on my shoulders!

grandtanteJE65 Fri 03-Jul-20 13:05:44

A kiss and a hug every morning to say good morning.

Thinking back, I started it and if I hadn't DH probably would
have held back.

This is the second cuddle of the day, as the cat comes up into my bed for his morning cuddle, after he had had one from DH, who is always up first.

Stoker48 Fri 03-Jul-20 12:46:09

Thank you, Miss Adventure, for your honest reply. Could you explain why it makes you feel anxious? Would it be the same whoever it was that hugged you?

dirgni Fri 03-Jul-20 12:40:31

I don’t think that people were so demonstrative when I was growing up!

Ceaser15 Fri 03-Jul-20 12:31:45

There’s an old saying that three cuddles a day are good for you - keep you happy, lift depression and therefore prolong your life! I take as many cuddles as possible from anyone, including the dogs?. You can even buy little wooden cuddles to send to nearest and dearest these days,

Bazza Fri 03-Jul-20 12:29:32

I was bought up in a very tactile and huggy family, and I loved it. The man I married 50 years ago was from a family who couldn’t be more different. However, I’ve managed to knock him into shape and he will occasionally instigate a hug.

SusieFlo Fri 03-Jul-20 12:28:49

Can’t remember!!!

MarieEliza Fri 03-Jul-20 12:26:30

I ask for hugs and over the years as a couple we hug more than we did. I sat down one day and said how much a hug means to me so we have learned to do things that now come naturally

Glambat Fri 03-Jul-20 12:00:32

Marmite....I could have written your response.. Cuddles from GC & occasionally one or other of my sons, but not the reassuring, loving hug from my soul mate now no longer here.
It’s a good job we have lovely memories to hold on to.

lexigran Fri 03-Jul-20 11:58:55

This morning with DH in the kitchen ! I just felt the need and was saying how I would hate not having someone to cuddle.

icanhandthemback Fri 03-Jul-20 11:26:27

I still have the odd cuddle with my husband as pass in the kitchen but since we bought an Adjustamatic bed (don't ever bother with them as they are soooo uncomfortable) we have a 6" void between us at night where the mattresses slip apart.
The cuddle I miss most is from my first born son. We have a big bear hug when he arrives and another as he leaves. He pointed out a couple of weeks ago that this is the longest time we have not been able to cuddle and he misses it too. He also said that he had assumed that when I was ready for my wooden overcoat that he would be grown up enough to handle it but this pandemic made him realise that he will always want my hugs. I pointed out I wasn't going anywhere yet but I was really touched.
My youngest son tolerates my hug when he is going away for any length of time but he is not a snuggle bug. My daughter would deck me if I so much as touched her; I gather she is more or less the same with her husband!

Bijou Fri 03-Jul-20 11:24:47

Real cuddle, 1987 the night before my husband died. We were very close. My son does embrace me but it is not the same.

micky987 Fri 03-Jul-20 11:01:46

Sorry, arrived and for, not arri and fire lol

micky987 Fri 03-Jul-20 11:00:43

This morning shorts arri in the post fire my teenage son. He’s having a lie in so I put them in his room and went to leave and his big long arms came out of the bed for a big cuddle. He gives lovely tight hugs. DH and I hug every day and I must say I’d feel very lost without it. I hope you all get a hug very soon...

Gwenisgreat1 Fri 03-Jul-20 11:00:11

Yesterday!! From my DGS who has Down syndrome!!

Riggie Fri 03-Jul-20 10:52:30

DH isn't a cuddler either. If I hug him then he reciprocates but he never hugs me first. (Unless hes feeling frisky!! )

GrammarGrandma Fri 03-Jul-20 10:45:55

Last night and every night. I can't understand love that doesn't was to be demonstrative. We all need cuddles.

Annaram1 Fri 03-Jul-20 10:45:23

I am not really a huggy person, not brought up to be. My darling husband sometimes gave me a hug but he's gone now. I occasionally get a hug from my son on special occasions, such as birthdays and Chr...mas. Not from my daughter, but occasionally from my grandchildren, also on special occasions.

Annaram1 Fri 03-Jul-20 10:42:15

Granny wanny
What a lovely song. I will have that tune in my head all day!

BeenBizzy Fri 03-Jul-20 10:31:47

Lost my darling after 51years nearly two years ago. My son who visited me every week gave me a big hug when he was leaving. Covid 19 has put a stop to that.
The end of July if all restrictions are lifted he will be back. ??????

Marthjolly1 Fri 03-Jul-20 10:26:53

OH and I are very affectionate to each other and will peck and/or hug a few times during most days. We hold hands through the night. There was never any physical contact at home when I was young but once I left home I found myself easily hugging people. One daughter still loves a cuddle, the other suffers it or shrugs me off. The GC hugs are the best. Cant wait til I see them again, it's been 6 months now.

Nortsat Fri 03-Jul-20 10:05:46

Yesterday evening ... as we passed in the hall ...

Purplepoppies Fri 03-Jul-20 10:01:13

I got great hugs from my dd and granddaughters last week and will get more at the weekend ?

Beanie654321 Fri 03-Jul-20 09:55:18

This morning. My DH always gives me a hug, well at least 3 daily so I think I may have had your share over past 40 years. Also of men of that age find it difficult to show affection, but still love another. Xxx

Alexa Fri 03-Jul-20 09:52:18

I like cuddling only when it is genuine. When I have been at a church and they do that do that cuddling thing half way through it's not spontaneous.

I just cuddle my dog now but have to be careful she does not put a paw in my eye.

Elainecoley1957 Fri 03-Jul-20 09:46:10

I haven’t seen my granddaughters for 6 months! One is in Hong Kong and I won’t see her until December ?
My other baby is finally coming to Gloucestershire tomorrow from Preston! I cannot wait. She is only 18 months- it will be like meeting her for the first time. She is now talking and is a beautiful toddler. My arms are itching to hug her, talk to her, read her a bedtime story and share a few golden hours with the family.
My 5 children are my life. We lost 2 close family members during lockdown and a hug from Emily will be the best thing ever- a ray of eternal hope during a time of darkness for many.
Bring on the cuddles ?????