When was your last cuddle?

I'm a non hugger, stoker and I really wouldn't like to.
It makes me thoroughly uncomfortable and anxious.

I honestly can't remember, it is many, many years since I was last cuddled.
My adult child lives with me and he isn't a hugger.

I have had hugs off my parents [ not since lockdown ], but no cuddles for a very long time. I do miss that contact.

My ex-husband and I were great cuddlers, so since he left me in 2006 I have missed that more than anything. And now of course I haven’t had a cuddle from my family since the beginning of lockdown.

Marmight - I am in the same position as you. My parents and husband died. My parents didn't go in for lots of hugs but I always knew I was loved. My husband was not from a huggy family and also was very thin and boney but he did do the most marvellous hugs when he did hug me. He died 9 years ago. My DC have been so involved with their own lives that they have not noticed or understood my loneliness. I was rushing around helping them but when I became ill they had no time for me as I could not babysit.
9 years without a hug is hard going.

With my DD , just before lockdown. With my DS ,DiL and DGDs , just before Christmas. They were all going away ,with the other GPS, over Christmas, and we didn’t manage to get to see them when they came home. Of course I have a cuddle with DH most days ?

I haven’t been hugged since lockdown either ....
Can I ask you non huggers if, deep down, you’d really like to hug?
I’m quite a tactile person and enjoy a heartfelt hug. I have two grown up sons. One is big on hugging, the other doesn’t seem to like it. Whenever I see him ( he lives 40 miles away and is quite a private person who keeps his cards close to his chest) doesn’t do hugs at all. I hug him when I see him but he stands there like a limp rag. I’ve asked him, on occasion, if he could put his arms round me when we hugged. He did but in a very half hearted way.
I love them both dearly. Wonder why both do different?

At the risk of sounding daft....... When REALLY desperate for a cuddle I lock the bathroom door, wrap my arms around myself and hold on for a couple of minutes.

I've never been a cuddly type, think it was my upbringing, and my partner is the opposite, but we do not often cuddle. My sons are the same and we admit we are not an overly demonstrative family. My youngest will put an arm round me if I am upset or when I got bad news about my illness. I know they are different with their wives. Its a shame and I do wish things were different.

Afraid I rather dislike the word cuddle as now used, and esp as a noun. Times change. Like many on here, DH and I hug often, and also like many on here I can't remember my own parents doing the same. Bear hugs from my 3DD and older DGC are lovely, but I don't consciously miss them, and I certainly hope that social kissing and hugging all and sundry doesn't return.

The last cuddle was this morning from the dog. He really does snuggle and would hug if he could.

We were not cuddled as children, so I rectified that with my 3 and they were all eaten alive ! Am lucky enough now to live in the granny annexe of my DD house, so I get a daily hug from her and 13 year old GS .... plus a rhubarb and ginger gin from SIL ??

I am very tactile and also seem to attract hugs BUT my husband is Adult Diagnosed Aspergers. We love each other very much but hugging not part of it unless I ask. Not usually a problem as friends hug and definitely DS and DDIL . But over three months? Top of my bucket list.

Not since lockdown. I didn’t realise how much I would miss that.

I never hug anybody apart from DH so this non contact period hasn't made much difference. DC and DGC abroad so last hug with them two years ago. But with DH yes we hug whenever we feel like it through the day for no special reason!

Evie your colleague sounds lovely!

I don’t think families were so buggy in our time growing up although I never had any doubts about being loved perhaps I was Hugged and don’t remember I do remember one granddad was a very cuddly one
I don’t remember my last hug, the grandkids are all grown and nearly flown so it would only be on seeing then which isn’t very often now and of course no hugs at all with lockdown (They ve all been working and out and about etc) so probably my birthday beginning of march

I always greet friends with a hug and I miss that it, it feels so cold now

Lots of times each day from dh! Far too long ago from our children and grandchildren.

DD1 and her children came on Wednesday and it was very difficult not to hug them.

Ii think lots of families were unhuggy when we were growing up.

Annie ((((hugs)))) - not the same, I know.

Marmight - I cant imagine it!

Before the lockdown, so I guess three months? My mathematics isn’t great.

Cuddles from the GC but the other type of cuddle from the person you love most in the world - I can’t remember. What would I give just to have a comforting arm round my shoulders. It comes as a bit of a shock to realise that once you have lost those who gave you unconditional love, in my case my parents and husband, you will never be as important to anyone else and that’s quite a lonely place to be. (Especially at 2.30am when you can't sleep flippin’ well sleep ?)

New year's night when I said goodbye to DD and SIL because they flying home to Belgium the next day.
My elder sister and I were talking about childhood the other day and we agreed that we could never remember being kissed or cuddled as children.

we cuddle all the time,when one of us is leaving the house even into the garden,when we pass in the hall.in the kitchen while we're waiting for the kettle to boil.My daughter used to pull faces and laugh about it when she was growing up ,then she grew up and wanted a relationship like ours .Now she thinks its amazing we still smooch dance round the sitting room in the evening or cuddle and hold hands in the street .45 years and hoping for many many more .

I am a very tactile person. One of my daughter's friends once told me that I should sell my cuddles "cos there the best"! I love a cuddle. Today I went back to work after being off sick for a while and my lovely colleague Julia put her hooded jacket on back to front with the hood over the front of her face and we had a really lovely cuddle.

MissAdventure

Is the dog a huggy type, then?

Ha!

She is far more huggier than I am

Anniebach ?

Have you heard this song? Some might say it’s a bit cheesy but I like it.
We All Need a Hug in the Morning
youtu.be/fky5Esv5eLQ