What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.

Thank you Ellan too.

TwiceAsNice you too! As a mother and grandmother I' m especially saddened when I read about people who have lost children. Great that after that tragedy and other bad things in your life you are now a strong a positive person. I admire you all!

Oh my goodness ! Reading all your life stories, makes me ashamed to bemoan any troubles I might have had. You are all such strong people to have got through those terrible times, especially as children. I feel quite tearful for you. Love and sympathy go to you all. ♥️

Ginster, I don’t think it matters how small your troubles.
They are after all troubling you.
We can all lose sleep over the smallest of things.
As long as it’s not a dilemma between the Chanel handbag and the Gucci then I think you should feel free to moan.

Missfoodlove and Kate I have huge respect for both of you for having the courage to share your darkest hours with us here on Gransnet.
I too have had some very dark times but I am here and happy, with a loving second husband, two wonderful daughters and five beautiful granddaughters.
I have to agree that 'what doesn't kill you makes you stronger'. It certainly has in my case xx

I don't feel any stronger.
My grief has had profound affect on every part of my life, and none of it positive.

That's hard MissAdventure I've always enjoyed your posts even though we don't always agree. I didn't realise you were holding such sadness inside. I hope you find peace soon.

Thank you.

I very much agree and it doesn't just make you stronger it makes you more understanding and able to empathise with others

Perhaps not everyone though.

Bluesky thank you for your kind words. Sending love to all and hope everyone has good things happen very soon

You’ve always got a wicked SOH MissA. Your one liners often make me chuckle. I do realise you know of deep and ongoing sadness and that makes me admire you all the more.
x

Well I’m not dead yet MissFoodLove but this last year has tested my patients to the very limits .

I keep thinking that things must take a turn for the better soon and then I have a day like today , reduced to a bumbling mess of snot and tears by a b*tch in HMRC .

You certainly have had a lot to put up with of late MissFoodLove and I’m so happy that you are finally getting to see some much deserved sunshine.

I’m not surprised you feel the way you do Kate1949 you have had so many troubles and worries in your life . I think maybe you are a stronger person than you realise you know .
Wishing you lots and lots of

Thank you ,gilly . I know you've had some awful problems. I think I must be strong as I have no idea how I'm still here. I try to count my blessings (I have many) but I live with an underlying dread of the next bad thing happening.

By the way, I'm not a misery! People who don't know my story would never guess.

I know exactly how you must feel Kate1949 I honestly do .

Like you I try to count my blessings too, but live in a permanent state of fear of what’s the next rotten thing lurking round the corner . It’s as though I don’t deserve anything good. I often think I must’ve been a really wicked person in a previous life . Or perhaps a slug .

gilly, you are one of the most resilient people I have ever 'met'.

Yes that's it in a nutshell gilly.

What a fantastic post by the OP, how to turn everything bad into a positive

Life’s swings and roundabouts are certainly challenging us all at present, and I’ve had my fair share too these past 6months. A dear friend committed suicide just before Xmas, then a life long friend was killed in a hit and run, another friend has been diagnosed with dementia, another with cancer. Then I have my 90 year old domineering mother dragging me down with her constant judgemental attitude. My glass is always half full, but I do have “flat” days now and again, it’s only normal, we can’t be strong all the time...... but I’m so lucky with the support I get from my 3AC and my good friends.

Yes, I agree that it does make you stronger - but in my case, it's only on the outside. I very nearly fell apart in the last two years when it was blow after blow - starting with leaving my abusive marriage; losing my best friend to cancer; my car & ability to drive because of vision problems; my little cat; my home...

Now I face a new and uncertain future where I'm having to say goodbye to some wonderful friends and it hurts (particularly because I haven't seen much of them in lock down but even though I can see them now, we're nervous because we can't share hugs like we used to).

I think I've had to be strong because I'm on my own and there simply isn't anyone else, and even though those friends all tell me how well I've done, inside I'd love to be able to fall apart and just lean for a while.

Missfoodlove I saw the title of your post and immediately thought of my mom. That was one one of her mantras . I remember at one very difficult moment in my life telling her that I didn't think I needed to be made any stronger. However, as in so many things she was right and I did pull through and I was a stronger and better person for it. I truly hope that down the line you will feel the same.

Missfoodlove you made you stronger and just surviving all the awful things that life throws our way sometimes makes us stronger than we imagine. What didn't kill me mostly left me with a dark sense of humour and a lot of unhealthy coping mechanisms.

People are amazing and often don't get recognised for it. People who have experienced awful things, especially upbringings and are still able to be a light for others are incredible.

Stay strong

I think it cannot make us stronger, well ok. talking for myself here, until we have come through it,and can look back and see.... when still going through struggles,, I struggle to keep going.

Kate your awful past made me want to weep. You are still here , willing to share what has happened to you, and must be a brave person to have survived. I wish you strength to carry on, and hope that happiness is not entirely elusive in your life. xx