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ginny Wed 22-Jul-20 17:26:56

Yesterday , I enjoyed lunch n the garden of a very nice pub garden. All very well managed re. Corona virus.
I had just been to the ‘loo’ and as I wandered back to our table I heard two women , probably around late sixties in age , talking about a young lad sitting on his own with a drink.
The conversation disparaged his blue hair, his beard and his ear ring and the fact that they were sure he didn’t have a job and probably was on benefits.
That young lad was my 17 year old DGS who was treating me to a belated birthday lunch, paid for by his own hard earned money. He received an award last month for ‘commitment above and beyond’. He is the kindest chap you could meet and had spent the morning playing catch and football with his 4 year old cousin.
Those two woman may not have had blue hair but they certainly had red faces after my little chat with them.

Froglady Fri 24-Jul-20 09:38:30

Well Done

jane1956 Fri 24-Jul-20 09:35:34

well done you x

Aepgirl Fri 24-Jul-20 09:29:30

You did the right thing Ginny. Well done.

PinkCakes Thu 23-Jul-20 18:41:45

Some people can be so quick to judge someone based on appearances. Your GS sounds a lovely young man.

Laughterlines Thu 23-Jul-20 11:41:10

A lesson to all of us, never judge a book by its cover. Sounds like lovely GS and granny. Enjoy each other’s company while you can. Have fun.

EllanVannin Thu 23-Jul-20 11:30:22

I love stories like this. I also love hearing about put-downs to those deserving of them. Well done to Ginny and GS.

Greenfinch Thu 23-Jul-20 11:30:16

Good for him as well!

maddyone Thu 23-Jul-20 11:14:25

Good for you ginny.

ginny Thu 23-Jul-20 11:12:41

Just wanted to say that GS did ask who the two women were. I told him why I had spoken to them. He grinned and said “ ah well, now they will be jealous that they haven’t got a GS like me. Thanks Nan, love you”.

Madgran77 Thu 23-Jul-20 10:45:14

ginny ???

TwiceAsNice Thu 23-Jul-20 10:20:30

Well done Ginny for supporting your lovely grandson and shame on those women for being so judgemental. You both sound great!

Lexisgranny Thu 23-Jul-20 09:15:14

I recall a new member of staff many years ago making disparaging remarks about a young man with a shaved head who was picked up from work by two friends both with shaved heads. He expounded at length about “that type”, but was quickly silenced when told that one of them had lost his hair as a result of cancer treatment and the other two had shaved their heads so that he wouldn’t feel so conspicuous. It’s very easy to judge. The young man in question was one of our hardest workers who supported a disabled parent, and was the first to offer help and support to anyone who needed it.

Iam64 Thu 23-Jul-20 08:59:03

More support for you ginny and for your lovely grandson. Cold, critical, judgemental, bet their lives aren't anything like as rich as they could be

Nortsat Thu 23-Jul-20 08:58:49

Great story ginny, your GS sounds lovely.
You sound like a lovely gran, too.
You obviously deserve one another (I mean that in the nicest possible way ?)

sodapop Thu 23-Jul-20 08:52:54

Well done ginny what a lovely grandson you have,

Luckygirl Thu 23-Jul-20 08:49:58

Once, whilst on crutches, I had to change trains in Bristol during rush hour. I heaved myself up into the carriage where I had a reserved seat and found myself completely squashed amongst a group of standing people, one of who was a huge, shaven-headed well-tattooed young man who looked utterly terrifying! He took one look at me and said "You need a seat." I explained about the reserved seat and he said "Leave it to me." He elbowed his way through all the people lining the aisle with me in his wake and found someone sitting in the seat - they moved pretty sharpish when he instructed them to do so! Three cheers for that young man!

Curlywhirly Thu 23-Jul-20 08:15:49

As I came out of the supermarket I could see that my car door had a small dint on it, that certainly wasn't there when I had parked up. I was just inspecting it when a middleaged couple were running over to me waving their arms and trying to get my attention. The lady had numerous large hooped earings in descending size, a very short buzz haircut, and tatoos. Her partner was a huge man with a massive paunch and covered in tatoos. Both were wearing tight clothes that were too small and, in a nutshell, they looked a right couple of 'hard knocks'. Well, they couldn't have been nicer; they had knocked my car door as they opened their car door. They had no paper to leave a note with their phone number, so had rushed into the supermarket to get some. They were rushing back to my car when they spotted me inspecting the bump. They were so apologetic. I told them not to worry, and thanked them for being so honest. They were a lovely couple. You certainly can't judge a book by its cover. By the way, I never did contact them to pay for the repair; their honesty was payment enough.

gillybob Thu 23-Jul-20 08:06:51

Well done you Ginny people can be so horrible and judgmental . I would’ve loved to be a fly in the wall when you “put them straight” .

I remember a young lad coming for an interview who was 19 and had never had any work experience or a job of any kind .

When I asked why he said “because there aren’t any to get ” . I said “oh come on McDonalds are always recruiting “ to which he replied “I wouldn’t flip burgers for anyone” to which I replied “oh that’s a strange attitude . As it happens my own daughter is at Uni and working in McDonalds to pay her way”

His face dropped .

Needless to say he didn’t get the job.

kittylester Thu 23-Jul-20 07:24:38

Well done ginny!

I've mentioned previously that our daughter worked in Budgens while she was at Oxford. One day she heard a mother tell her daughter that if she didn't work hard at school she would only be able to get a job in Budgens. Unfortunately, I wasn't there!

Hithere Thu 23-Jul-20 01:04:50

Well done Ginny!

honeyrose Thu 23-Jul-20 00:51:50

Your grandson sounds lovely and a very thoughtful lad. I hope those women felt well and truly ashamed of being so judgemental.

Eloethan Thu 23-Jul-20 00:46:34

Well done ginny for having the courage to put them straight. I hope I would have done the same, though I can imagine my voice would have been shaking with emotion. It must have been very hurtful to hear such nasty assumptions made about your grandson (he sounds lovely) and I hope they felt suitably ashamed.

welbeck Wed 22-Jul-20 22:28:01

bet they were jealous of his lovely blue hair.

BlueSky Wed 22-Jul-20 21:29:15

Well done*Ginny*! One of my DGS is exactly like yours and I'm sure prompts similar comments, which lucky for them, I've never overheard! angry

Sar53 Wed 22-Jul-20 20:47:30

Well done Ginny, that made me chuckle. Well done to your DGS, he sounds like a lovely, caring young man.