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GrannyAnnie2010

There is a dress code for a funeral, as there is for a wedding, a job interview, an audience with the queen or attending Ascot. In more formal settings, it’s called a uniform. A light shawl at a funeral or in a religious building would be the answer to the “but what if she (load of excuses)”. Just as I can’t bear to be presented with the builder’s crack, I really can’t bear cleavage on show in certain settings, while I admire them at weddings and less formal situations.

So the short answer is – it’s impolite to deviate from the dress code whether expressed or otherwise.

Dress codes change though.

At one point the “dress code” was to wear mourning colours for a year.

Time moves on. Traditions change.

I know someone who wears knee length shorts all year round , however cold it gets, but wore a very smart suit for his friend’s wedding and wore smart trousers for a funeral. It’s about respecting the occasion, as well as everyone else who attends, and not drawing attention to yourself unnecessarily.

My postman wears shorts all year round. Nice leg ?

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Yes, it does help if the legs are nice to look at. I suppose you could always get a ‘best’ pair for weddings and funerals!

I attended a wedding in Italy last year. There were guests in long dresses, short dresses, suits, casual jackets, jeans. It was lovely. (Although I did sometimes feel I was an extra in The Godfather )
Maybe it’s time to relax a bit about dress codes ?
Question: would you prefer someone to, wear a vastly immodest black dress or nice clean blue jeans ?

Nice clean blue jeans.

Glorybee

Yes, it does help if the legs are nice to look at. I suppose you could always get a ‘best’ pair for weddings and funerals!

My chap had an Austrian mother, she made him wear lederhosen for years. Went down a storm with his mates in a working class area of an industrial Yorkshire town......

Lucca - ?

When partying perhaps, but a funeral is not a party hence exposed cleavage sends the wrong message. It's the same reason that people dress conservatively and why even women with 'attractive' cleavage usually cover up. It's done out of respect for the family and the deceased.

Last night, talking on the phone to my sister about this subject, she told me that there was an episode of Emmerdale where the character, Moira Dingle, displays the puppies (my sister's description.) Not being a fan of soaps, I looked it up. It was in November 2016.
evoke.ie/2016/11/05/showbiz/soaps/emmerdales-moira-dingle-causes-a-stir-with-funeral-cleavage
The comments are hilarious.

GrannyAnnie2010, a well balanced response

No. Before my wrangle with breast cancer, I had enormous knockers! It didn't matter what I wore, the 'girls' always peeped out. However, a cami or filler could usually re-establish decorum. And decorum is needed for funerals, job interviews and similar.

I don’t understand the constant need to judge women’s outfits though, anyway

I don't see anything wrong in judging outfits whomsoever is wearing them. I do it all the time and my main conclusion is that most clothes/fashions are hideous and most people have no style but just wear certain things because the things are 'fashionable' or it is 'expected'.

I think most people judge outfits as well, otherwise why would there be differences of taste and why would we spend time choosing what we like?

What are fashion and style for but to judge clothes (and hair styles and shoes, etc)?

Way back in my teens I attended the funeral of a friend's father. I dressed conservatively but three girls about my age (17/18) wore very short mini skirts and hotpants (bum cheek revealers) and low cut tops. The deceased's wife didn't seem to notice but the vicar asked the girls to cover up or leave. They left after arguing that it was how they always dressed and they didn't have 'drab' clothes. So much bare flesh on show at a funeral did not seem appropriate, then or now.

Personally, I find it extremely uncomfortable around any woman who feels the need to have her 'assets' on show. I am myself well endowed and have never felt the need to be an exhibitionist. The question of "common and tacky" discussed on this site yesterday and this kind of flesh display definitely on the spectrum.

Summerlove, you are right - dress codes change. The dress code that I had in mind was the dress code for the current time that we're in right now, not at one point in the past.

That said, it is our responsibility to update ourselves on the dress code, is it not? (Hence, I don't wear hats or gloves.)

"Yes, of course we ‘need to pass judgement on what people are wearing at a funeral’..... why ever shouldn’t we?"

Maybe at a funeral one's mind could be on things other than the notion that it's our place to decide the suitability of what everyone else is wearing. Honestly, do you really go through life sniffing snootily at those who are not 100% conformist? How sadly petty!

Lemongrove, you are hilarious.
Dress requirements noted, I have a nice hat & can improvise & use a net curtain for the veil. I hope that it won’t be needed for many years though ?.

Would considerate a show of cleavage as inappropriate at a funeral. Many deceased request mourners nit to wear black but even so a bit if respect doesn't go amiss regardless of what colour of dress is requested, ample busted or not.

I don’t understand the constant need to judge women’s outfits though, anyway

Small point, paperback, I wasn't at the funeral.

Sorry. Wrong quote. It should have been: Maybe at a funeral one's mind could be on things

If it's snooty not to like bosom or bum cleavages to be on display, except maybe on a beach, then I'm snooty and happy to be so.

No one was at the funeral because it wasnt at the funeral.

I think it's fine to judge peoples appearance as long as people realise there are people who are judging the judgers