Public cleavages

Similar to Oldwoman, attended a funeral where one of the family was totally inappropriately dressed. Low neckline, short length, skin tight, and in need of what my mother would have called some decent foundation garments - reminded me of the sort of thing Diana Dors would have worn while playing a tart...

Yes. As I commented some time ago up thread. Thank you for reminding people, galaxy.

I think it's fine to judge peoples appearance as long as people realise there are people who are judging the judgers

I agree. Except the judgers of the judgers should be judging the appearance of the original judgers, not people in (or wearing) the appearance that's being judged. I think most people haven't understood the fine distinction between judging a style and judging a person. My fashion judgments are of style, not of people.

In fact, how can you judge a person you don't even know? You can't. But you can judge their style of attire.

Just as every gransnetter alive must have done when deciding which outfits/styles she liked and which she (or he) didn't.

It probably depends if it’s wrinkled. Some women seem to love the attention they get from men when they display their cleavage, whatever the occasion. Some brides getting married in church amaze me by their revealing choice of dress.

But if you hear them make a comment and people are rarely subtle about it, then you can judge. I would rather spend time with someone showing cleavage than someone who worried about cleavage.

At funerals, other things besides cleavage annoy me; short sleeves, tight dresses, lots of jewellery, stilettoes, miniskirts, skinfit jeans... and these are visible from all around a person,. i.e. you don't have to be looking specifically for them.

Struggling2do1

Lemongrove, you are hilarious.
Dress requirements noted, I have a nice hat & can improvise & use a net curtain for the veil. I hope that it won’t be needed for many years though ?.

Thank you dear old Struggling I hope it won’t be for a while either.I also demand that you carry and use a black lace hanky to sniffle into.?

How would you know if someone "worried" about cleavage, galaxy?

If you met me at a gathering where there was cleavage on display, you wouldn't know that I disliked it. Having a discussion about it on Gransnet is not the same as talking loudly about it in public. It seems to me that you are the people judger, by making sich assumptions based on a theoretical discussion.

But if I got to know someone they may mention their dislike of cleavage as people have mentioned it on here, then I would decide that I would prefer to hang around with the people showing cleavage than the people judging wonens appearances (and it's pretty much always women). Judging happens all the time sometimes its not based on appearance sometimes it's based on behaviour.

Slightly off topic, years ago my DH was a member of a golf club. We got the invitation to the Christmas "do", and it said "black tie, and ladies, cleavages will be worn." We did not attend!

Personally I hate seeing cleavages! Doesn’t matter where or when could be funerals, weddings, dinner dances, cruises, work. Etc etc However it is entirely up to the person - they obviously think it looks good and feel comfortable with it. We are all different thank god.

I have a friend who I've known for over 50 years. She always has, and still does, show large amounts of cleavage. She is 70. She says she doesn't care what people think as her husband likes boobs and if she has hers showing, he won't look at other women's. I'm sure there's logic in there somewhere.

my husband died 2 years ago,he was in a care home.The care home manager wore a brightly coloured low cut dress to the funeral.When she got up to speak,she explained that it was it was a strange choice,but it was one that my husband liked to see her wear,which I knew was true,and I didn't mind.But when I spoke to my sister in law afterwards, she said it was the most ridiculous dress she had ever seen at a funeral,and completely unsuitable .But I thought it was just a bit of fun,and my husband would have approved

I went to several funerals last year, including my Dad’s and a young ex-student’s. I don’t remember what anyone wore to any of them - I was wholly focused on the grief I felt at losing dear people. If someone is busy assessing the appropriateness of other people’s clothes at a time like that, they probably don’t care enough about the deceased to be there at all.

I'm always uncomfortable with cleavages. Don't know why. It has regularly been my opinion that the higher the neckline, the more attractive the wearer. Don't even remotely consider myself a prude but I can't explain my discomforture over these.

I think it should depend on who's funeral it is. If he or she would really appreciate you showing your cleavage, then please the person you're grieving for.

Last year I attended a friend's Funeral, family requested that we all wore bright colours. Everyone complied, have never seen such a wonderful display of Hawaiian shirts on the men & bright clothes on the Ladies.

It was a joyous Funeral, full of laugher & a true reflection of the Lady's life.

My DF banned the wearing of black at his Funeral over 40 years ago.

I'm proud of my cleavage but would never have it on display at a Funeral. Another thing I dislike is a Bride in Church with bare shoulders

As a church choir member, singing from an elevated balcony at the rear of the church, we often get spectacular aerial views of some ladies. both at funerals and weddings. Plunging necklines and short/skin-tight clothes are fairly common at both kinds of. service. We also spot people using phones, eating sweets, and various other unsuitable activities.
I feel particularly embarrassed on behalf of our elderly Parish Priest, at times. Lo and behold is a very accurate description of many bride’s dresses. When he is standing a step higher than the brides he often mustn’t know where to look.

Really I think I’d be too immersed in the emotion of the event to be watching the heaving bosoms or otherwise that were also attending.
If it were my own funeral I wouldn’t care what anyone wore as long as they were comfortable, relaxed and prepared not to mourn but to truly ‘celebrate the life..........’ with memories and enjoyment.
If by chance a romance began at the event between two of my ‘mourners’ however inappropriately dressed - I hope that I would be able to see it and smile!

I personally never notice what mourners are wearing at funerals, it's more important surely to be there for the family regardless of what you are wearing. Not everyone has something suitable to wear and may not have the spare cash to go out and buy something new for the occasion. By turning up for the funeral they are paying their respects to the deceased and their loved ones. Having said that, I always prefer to wear black myself and am well covered up. As it was later mentioned, the poster was also referring to the scenes of the widow of the murdered PC outside of the courts during the trial. I'm sure, as we all are, that she would of been too distressed to care what her family and friends were wearing, Instead, she would have been grateful for their support. It was heart breaking to hear her testimony about losing the man she loved and taken from her in such a cruel way. Let's all remember her and his mother and the grief they must be going through and the sacrifice this young man made in the line of duty.

I'm not bothered what people wear to funerals, as I feel just by turning up, they are showing respect for the deceased and their family.
However, on trying to listen to PC Harper's widow's statement, I was distracted by the cleavage on show and I'm sure, I wasn't the only one. It is not a crticism of the family, just an observation, as I'm sure they had more important matters on their mind.

Baggs

In fact, how can you judge a person you don't even know? You can't. But you can judge their style of attire.

Chances are my attire is often judged. You don't see that many sports jackets, collar & tie, trousers with turn ups and two tone shoes.

I'm probably on social media under the heading: What a Plonker!"

There is one type of appearance that I loathe, not that it harms me, it just looks so slovenly, and that's when you see someone in the supermarket in their pyjamas and slippers.

I went to a friend's funeral as a woman was wearing jeans with holes, and a t shirt. And trainers.When I first saw her I thought she was someone who worked in the grounds. But I have worn a blue blouse to a funeral once as he was a Chelsea supporter, and his wife asked to wear something blue.