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Confused this with 'Harlots' .

Easy if you don’t wear a low cut top.

I attended a funeral where the deceased was much older than his wife. Their five children were school age. The widow arrived at the funeral in the shortest black imaginable dress and when she leant over you really could see her knickers. She didn’t give a damn.

Ladyleftfieldlover

I attended a funeral where the deceased was much older than his wife. Their five children were school age. The widow arrived at the funeral in the shortest black imaginable dress and when she leant over you really could see her knickers. She didn’t give a damn.

School age children have lost their father
She’s dealing with that
Presumably she’s always dressed like this
But you want her to get to the shops and buy herself an outfit that doesn’t offend you?
And her young children to be concerned by yet another change by seeing their mother in unfamiliar garb

Or were you just commenting that she didn’t give a damn in a positive sense (which is how I would have viewed it?)

Last summer when it was hot, one of my aunts died.
Her funeral was on one of the hottest days of the year , so I decided to wear my black maxi dress ( for this particular aunt, only black would do and I don't wear black tops) , my one and only white top was found to have a make up stain on it at the last moment.
I spent most of the time holding or pulling the bodice of my dress together over my cleavage , because it kept sticking to the lace trim on the bra that I was wearing !

It all depends on the family really. Some people these days don't want to follow convention or tradition they do their own thing and if that's the case we'll to be honest they could wear anything because that's how they roll. Me personally don't think it is appropriate because I have been brought up to be respectful and wear what is considered appropriate clothing for the occasion in question. But that's just me! We are all different. If someone turned up to one of my relatives funeral with their boobs hanging out so be it. I wouldnt be offended and probably wouln't even notice because I try not to judge people by their clothing. They are there and thats what matters.

Depends how old you are when judging. It seems to me that nowadays anything goes, and respect is a thing of the past. Just saying.......

Why on earth would you want to?

I agree

I think we are back to yesterday's thread as to what is 'common' or 'tacky' or in this case bad taste!
It's all in the eye of the beholder, but it gives people an impression of the offender, that they might not like.
Don't get upset. Just feel sorry for anyone who hasn't acquired manners and shows themselves up.

A funeral calls for modest dress.

The important thing is to attend the funeral. The low cut dress may have been the only black dress that the wearer owned.

No.

On the cadaver or an attendee? Of course I would say on neither! Maybe....if in either case it were the deceased last wishes....

I have no issues with cleavage. Women’s bodies come in all sizes and boobs are nothing to be ashamed of.

My only “rule” is that only the bride wears a wedding dress to a wedding.

Bbbface

And as for being “disrespectful”

I find it more disrespectful the idea that someone (a woman in all likelihood) at a funeral judging another for what they’re wearing.

You and me both.

I don’t understand the constant need to judge women’s outfits though, anyway.

Personally I would want people attending my funeral to wear whatever they are comfortable with. If that means a low cut top, so be it.
What I wouldn't want is people spending money on an 'appropriate' funeral outfit for it to sit at the back of the wardrobe for evermore.
I really hope those saying it's disrespectful open their minds.

Never..and huge tats and short short skirts shorts and bare midriff completely unacceptable at a funeral..its not the beach!! Went to funeral where all the above and cleavage on display and thought it showed huge disrespect..the widow ( grown up kids )was a con woman

There is a dress code for a funeral, as there is for a wedding, a job interview, an audience with the queen or attending Ascot. In more formal settings, it’s called a uniform. A light shawl at a funeral or in a religious building would be the answer to the “but what if she (load of excuses)”. Just as I can’t bear to be presented with the builder’s crack, I really can’t bear cleavage on show in certain settings, while I admire them at weddings and less formal situations.

So the short answer is – it’s impolite to deviate from the dress code whether expressed or otherwise.

Bbbface

I would so love for you to have posted this on mumsnet and seen responses from a younger generation!!

I can imagine!
It would be variations of ‘why shouldn’t a woman get her tits out whenever she likes and whether it’s appropriate for the occasion’ blah blah.

I personally would choose to wear a long-sleeved blouse that buttoned to the neck and a skirt reaching to just below my knees at a funeral.

Paperbackwriter

I once went to a funeral where the wife of a well-known rock star was wearing the shortest possible black lace dress. I thought she looked terrific though from the remarks on here I'm assuming there'd be a lot of tutting from the Gransnet collective. Do we really need to pass judgement on what people are wearing at a funeral? Isn't it their own business? Maybe the outfit was a particular favourite of the deceased. Or maybe the boobs-in-question were!

Yes, of course we ‘need to pass judgement on what people are wearing at a funeral’..... why ever shouldn’t we?
Not so very long ago everybody seemed to know the kind of thing that was appropriate to a certain occasion, both in dress and in behaviour.Now they don’t, it’s a simple as that.
Nobody needed telling not to wear short, low cut dresses to a funeral ( rock stars wives excepted)? or jeans and a vest top to a formal wedding, or to constantly applaud in the theatre,
Talk on their phones in the cinema, eat vast takeaways sitting cheek by jowl with other passengers on a train etc etc etc.
It’s the cult of ‘me, me, me’.

At the funeral of an elderly relative I was really surprised to see the daughter - about fiftyish - sporting a skin tight black dress split almost to knicker level, revealing lacy top stockings and suspenders. Not my idea of appropriate wear, but hey ho - not my business!

You forgot your tongue in cheek emoji grandtante

Wearing the correct dress is being respectful to your host/hostess and family, whatever the occasion.?
Nobody need be too stuffy about it, but generally conform to what everybody else will be wearing.Being a rebel or a maverick is best left for your own party.?

I await a few outraged howls ?